It was shocking to me to find out that my fiancee does not know my birthday coming up in a few days, after telling her on a number of occasions. Even when hers, which i had to figure out myself, is my ATM PIN code. I really do love her but this act coupled with a no of other "i dont care" attitudes towards issues that concern me is really giving me headache. My birthday is a few days away, don't wanna tell her again, vexed that she doesn't know it but dunno what to do.

This may not be a reason to fret after all o. Some peeps are just like that. However, on a very serious note, if she fails to be with you on your 'special' day, you might then have a reason to fret.

My advice: Just call your friends for the birthday and celebrate with them. Behave as if you don't care whether she comes or not. Let her hear it from someone else that you had a lil Birthday bash and maybe your friends probe her on her absence on that day.

Watch her reaction afterwards. That will tell you what to do - whether to dump her or still hang on with her.

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You're not important in her life! Check your heart; do you feel that she loves you?
And again don't tell her anything; if she can't remember let her be!

love5011: but this act coupled with a no of other "i dont care" attitudes towards issues that concern me is really giving me headache.

You should talk to her. There's no reason why she should forget your birthday. Some people're just forgetful, but if you've told her a number of times and quoting you, if she has a general "i don't care attitude toward things that concern you" then there's a problem. Watch how she acts on your birthday. Maybe she is trying to surprise you, but if not and she acts like she doesn't care, then you might want to rethink your r-ship...

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This may not be a reason to fret after all o. Some peeps are just like that. However, on a very serious note, if she fails to be with you on your 'special' day, you might then have a reason to fret.

My advice: Just call your friends for the birthday and celebrate with them. Behave as if you don't care whether she comes or not. Let her hear it from someone else that you had a lil Birthday bash and maybe your friends probe her on her absence on that day.

Watch her reaction afterwards. That will tell you what to do - whether to dump her or still hang on with her.

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Cool

Yield:

You should talk to her. There's no reason why she should forget your birthday. Some people're just forgetful, but if you've told her a number of times and quoting you, if she has a general "i don't care attitude toward things that concern you" then there's a problem. Watch how she acts on your birthday. Maybe she is trying to surprise you, but if not and she acts like she doesn't care, then you might want to rethink your r-ship...

I'm seriously considering talking to her,cos like every other man, i need attention and affection which am not getting from her. Concerning the surprise from her, don't think its possible cos its obvious that she doesn't even know the date and am not ready to tell her. thanks all the same.

Princeparix: maybe she wants to suprise you

don't think so cos i can confirm to you that she doesn't know the date

broke up with her on my birthday, last saturday. Realized that day that she never loved me all along. she's just a gold digger.

I ll simply remind her.. People should stop complicating an already complicated life .

love5011: broke up with her on my birthday, last saturday. Realized that day that she never loved me all along. she's just a gold digger.

My questions are so:
- Where una 2 meet?
- Why didn't you see all those things before putting ring on her finger?

I would imagine a man (unless he is a mugu/learner) would only put a ring on a woman who is partly fanatical about him and has been consistently so for a measure of time.
This is something she should yearn (and earn) by virtue of her drive to intertwine with your live.

I cannot be arsed to put a ring on anyone who doesn't give 2 shits about my personal wellbeing.

It's not enough reason to conclude that she doesn't care. I've forgotten my own personal birthday before to remember 3 days later. Don't ask me how but it happened. . Some people are just not brought up to see birthdays as big deal. I'll definitely know my man's birthday, though!

The question here should be how much importance does she attach to her own birthday?

World war III: I ll simply remind her.. People should stop complicating an already complicated life .

I thought I was the only strange person here. Just a birthday and we are fretting?

Mynd_44:
I thought I was the only strange person here. Just a birthday and we are fretting?

Birthdays are important

SniperInADiaper:

Birthdays are important

Sure they are but should they be a measure to measure care? I say no

Mynd_44:
Sure they are but should they be a measure to measure care? I say no

Agree to disagree..

SniperInADiaper:

Agree to disagree..

Okay

Mynd_44:
Sure they are but should they be a measure to measure care? I say no

I dont think the OP is particularly botherd about the birthday..
I think it's her "I dont care" attitude thats bothering him..

@OP, I can teach you a few tricks that will make your GF never forget your birthday ever again.

Simple, change your ATM pin from her birthday to YOUR birthday and give her your ATM card to go shopping.

Other tips include;

change the passwords on your phones to your birthday.
buy HER an expensive present on your birthday every year.
tattoo your birthday on your chest

love5011: It was shocking to me to find out that my fiancee does not know my birthday coming up in a few days, after telling her on a number of occasions. Even when hers, which i had to figure out myself, is my ATM PIN code. I really do love her but this act coupled with a no of other "i dont care" attitudes towards issues that concern me is really giving me headache. My birthday is a few days away, don't wanna tell her again, vexed that she doesn't know it but dunno what to do.

erm.. I learnt that being a genius comes from d lady's gene! Pls, dnt start a journey to producing generations of dunces!

U told her severally and she kept forgettin!! Bros, how abt a brain scan?