I would like to know what most women would do if they find out their pregnant. We don't have money to wed as we just graduated from uni and my boyfriend is not settled. His working but i don't have a job for now. Should our parents help us to get married or do you advice us to have our baby and get married later. Thanks a lot.

I think its best u have the baby and postpone the wedding. U're not working, let ur parents use the money 4 d wedding 2 assist u and ur fiancee with the expenses involved with pregnancy. It will be too costly if u do both the wedding and @ the same time in the next few months start having a baby. I guess u're still with ur parents, dey can still assist with d finances, wen u get married, it becomes "Oh God" 4 ur fiancee. #Mytake#

My dear having your baby is the best for now then later you both can decided to tie the nut. i urge you rather wait for your fiancee than allowing your parents to finance the wedding for you finace sake.

Do court marriage.it doesn't cost a thing.small amt.it will give u peace of mind too.

Just go to the registry and seal it if the guy agrees. It is possible that the guy may change after you might have put to bed.

yellowpawpaw: Do court marriage.it doesn't cost a thing.small amt.it will give u peace of mind too.

Simple. Go to court get married and continue life

No one mandated it that you must spend 9million on wedding

Marriage is honorable in all. And the bed undefiled: but whoremongers, and adulterers, God will judge > hebrews 13:4.

According to the bible, You can't have a child outside wedlock. You'll only be facing the wrought of God. The deed has been done already, (I mean the pregnancy).

Pray to God for forgiveness and get married ASAP

WeddingFever: I would like to know what most women would do if they find out their pregnant. We don't have money to wed as we just graduated from uni and my boyfriend is not settled. His working but i don't have a job for now. Should our parents help us to get married or do you advice us to have our baby and get married later. Thanks a lot.

You guys can do a small engagement involving his and your family of orientation only in your parents house and then go to the registry to make it official. That way, you may not spend up to N20000 since you don't have to impress anyone.

Better to marry him sharp sharp if the option dey. because he might not want to marry you after all the pregnancy wahala you may put him through. And its better if the Child is born in wedlock.

WeddingFever: I would like to know what most women would do if they find out their pregnant. We don't have money to wed as we just graduated from uni and my boyfriend is not settled. His working but i don't have a job for now. Should our parents help us to get married or do you advice us to have our baby and get married later. Thanks a lot.

You should have thought about all that before opening your legs and fornicating with someone you are not legally married to. Have you not heard of birth control pills and condom? Anyways, at this point, you and your soon-to-be baby daddy should sit down like two mature adults and think of the way forward. I don't have anything else to tell you.

there should be a formal introduction between the two families...affirming your union.. and you can carry go till money 4 weddn show...so i did sha and it worked!

Is it possible to do court wedding before traditional rites? Op i don't know which part of Nigeria you come from but i think you have to do traditional rites first before court wedding. white wedding should be after child birth.

Please proceed 2 d marriage registry, wear a lovely, frilly white dress and he a suit and voila! u have wedding pics. U can add a little niece and nephew 2 simulate d little bride and page boy thingy. Also contact ur priest/pastor 2 bless u right there or at ur parent's home during a small/intimate reception and u hav all u want with little expenses incurred! I beg u, don't attempt waiting till after birth, e go worry o!

Am indifferent

dasparrow:

You should have thought about all that before opening your legs and fornicating with someone you are not legally married to. Have you not heard of birth control pills and condom? Anyways, at this point, you and your soon-to-be baby daddy should sit down like two mature adults and think of the way forward. I don't have anything else to tell you.

Have you not also fornicated with someone you are not legally married to? Am not saying what she did is right .the deed has been done and she has learned her lessons.

WeddingFever: I would like to know what most women would do if they find out their pregnant. We don't have money to wed as we just graduated from uni and my boyfriend is not settled. His working but i don't have a job for now. Should our parents help us to get married or do you advice us to have our baby and get married later. Thanks a lot.

Since there's no money, hav a baby now and move on with ur life.

berem: Is it possible to do court wedding before traditional rites? Op i don't know which part of Nigeria you come from but i think you have to do traditional rites first before court wedding. white wedding should be after child birth.

U can hav ur court/registry marriage b4 trad, trad is not a pre-requisite at all. Since money is a problem 4 now, a quiet introduction and payment of bride price will suffice provided ur family is in support.

sureteeboy: Marriage is honorable in all. And the bed undefiled: but whoremongers, and adulterers, God will judge > hebrews 13:4.

According to the bible, You can't have a child outside wedlock. You'll only be facing the wrought of God. The deed has been done already, (I mean the pregnancy).

Pray to God for forgiveness and get married ASAP

Hebrews 13:4
Contemporary English Version (CEV)
4 Have respect for marriage. Always be faithful to your partner, because God will punish anyone who is immoral or unfaithful in marriage.

yellowpawpaw: Do court marriage.it doesn't cost a thing.small amt.it will give u peace of mind too.

thank you, @op, with this, you have nothing to lose but a lot to gain, if not anything, your rest of mind.

However, when levels don change, may be after 5 or 10 years, you can now come and do "tunmigbe" with your hubby and your kids will be among your trains.
May God help youand all of us........ Amen

dasparrow:

You should have thought about all that before opening your legs and fornicating with someone you are not legally married to. Have you not heard of birth control pills and condom? Anyways, at this point, you and your soon-to-be baby daddy should sit down like two mature adults and think of the way forward. I don't have anything else to tell you.

as if u're perfect.

sureteeboy: Marriage is honorable in all. And the bed undefiled: but whoremongers, and adulterers, God will judge > hebrews 13:4.

According to the bible, You can't have a child outside wedlock. You'll only be facing the wrought of God. The deed has been done already, (I mean the pregnancy).

Pray to God for forgiveness and get married ASAP

Judges dey o! Ebi like say they will do God's work for Him. Assuming 2% of d nigerian population were like this,we would hv bn movin forward! Unfortunately we hv to face reality.
We find it very hard to condemn but read d bible very well poster, no one is perfect and there will be none except d son of man. Hv u heard judge not so that u will not be judged?

bengreat:

Hebrews 13:4
Contemporary English Version (CEV)
4 Have respect for marriage. Always be faithful to your partner, because God will punish anyone who is immoral or unfaithful in marriage.

do u think they are related to each other? That bible translation should be questioned

yellowpawpaw:
Judges dey o! Ebi like say they will do God's work for Him. Assuming 2% of d nigerian population were like this,we would hv bn movin forward! Unfortunately we hv to face reality.
We find it very hard to condemn but read d bible very well poster, no one is perfect and there will be none except d son of man. Hv u heard judge not so that u will not be judged?

If you read my post carefully, I didn't say God will punish him if he prays for forgiveness. I'm not judging him at all. I'm helping him find a way out. God is always ready to forgive our sins.

sureteeboy: do u think they are related to each other? That bible translation should be questioned

Oga pls read your Bible well,fornication is a sin but that verse is not talking about fornication but adultery.

....And the bed undefiled. Untill you're married to someone you don't have THE BED-not a bed but THE BED- that shouldn't be defiled

did u forget to take ur pills or wat ? Is dis ur first time of getin pregnant ?

Deliver ur baby & get married later. But make sure u 2 do d wedding as soon as u v d opp.

Marriage first ,you don't have to impress anybody .


Even if it's a court wedding, just get it done, you can dedicate it later in a church .

It's better you get pregnant after marriage. God joined Adam and Eve together before they started procreating. So you should wait till you wed.

okwutency: It's better you get pregnant after marriage. God joined Adam and Eve together before they started procreating. So you should wait till you wed.

So what happens to the baby she is already carrying? Answer sharp sharp!

why should it matter?
i mean unless your Amish or something

okwutency: It's better you get pregnant after marriage. God joined Adam and Eve together before they started procreating. So you should wait till you wed.

^^oh lord.

How come no one is recommending abortion