dear NL a friend just told me that his fiance has started being reluctant towards their wedding plans because the guy, according to the girl does not have any plan as regard honeymoon. Pls we are Africans for goodness sake, should honeymoon be a part of the major determinant for wedding? Pls i need your contributions cos people arround me has started saying that am obsolete.

Honeymoon is not by force require for marriage. However if you can afford a vacation as a newlywed couple then by all means go for it because once children and life kick in...you may not have that alone time as a couple.

You can take a vacation later in life however....it won't be the same once the "honeymoon" stage is over.

Your choice.

"We are African" bla bla bla. The woman just wants a week or 2 with her HUSBAND and this is what she gets. I tire for una ooooo

Mynd_44: "We are African" bla bla bla. The woman just wants a week or 2 with her HUSBAND and this is what she gets. I tire for una ooooo

and who says they won't? There are holtels around na.
Oh, i forgot, they must make a trip to make is sound honeymoon!

SLIDE waxie: and who says they won't? There are holtels around na.
Oh, i forgot, they must make a trip to make is sound honeymoon!

Did you read what the OP worte? The man made no plans at all. Hotel, trip anything.

From the wedding to the house na im the guy wan do as true "Africans"

I laugh in my norwegian accent... Whether as Africans or not, honey moon is essential and necessary but should never be a determinant for the wedding.

I am not analysing this from an African's point of view but rather from a broad spectrum.

Its so alarming these days that people have decided to shift focus and dwell sorely on the things that mean little to the overall institution called marriage. Its so sad that after the wedding and all the other formalities that comes after the wedding, thats when couples would wanna start what they should have done from the outset of their relationship or courtship as the case may be.

I am not saying honey moon is bad or not. My point is, in as much as people spend excess time in planning for the wedding and the after party and stuffs like that, they should also take cognizance of the fact that, the marriage itself is the most important thing and not the formalities which are in most cases mere showoffs and that's why after every wedding comes the marriage. That is, the real thing and this is where couoles start having problems for they most must have used all the time to plan just for the obvious while taking less cognizance of the nitty-gritty and in reality little time would have been spent in getting to know each other more and working out things for a long-lasting union.

Well, honey moon is very much essential for the most part as it helps to foster their union at that early stage as it adds some spicing and fine-tunes their union. But then, if the guy fails to have a concrete plan on that, heads shouldn't roll as it's not a do-or-die thing.

I never hear wey honeymoon cause wahala before oooo. Make the girl sef lock-up jare. Na honeymoon she wan chop?

adeokunade: dear NL a friend just told me that his fiance has started being reluctant towards their wedding plans because the guy, according to the girl does not have any plan as regard honeymoon. [size=20pt]Pls we are Africans for goodness sake,[/size] should honeymoon be a part of the major determinant for wedding? Pls i need your contributions cos people arround me has started saying that am obsolete.

Africans don't deserve good things right, I just came from another thread and the guy was like "We are African we don't give women flowers"

This mentality is what is holding most of ya all backward.

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Africans don't deserve good things right, I just came from another thread and the guy was like "We are African we don't give women flowers"

This mentality is what is holding most of ya all backward.

No mind them. They love hiding behind silly things

If a woman is reluctant about marriage cos of honeymoon, she's not worth a wife.

Exponental: If a woman is reluctant about marriage cos of honeymoon, she's not worth a wife.

I wonder oooo

Not all couples embrace romance so honeymoon isn't for everyone.

Mrs.Chima:
Honeymoon is not by force require for marriage. However if you can afford a vacation as a newlywed couple then by all means go for it because once children and life kick in...you may not have that alone time as a couple.

You can take a vacation later in life however....it won't be the same once the "honeymoon" stage is over.

Your choice.

Though the girl is not categorically holding the guy into ransome because of honeymoon but neither has she hide the fact that she want to marry without having an honeymoom. I have advised my guy not to take the matter serious because a reasonable girl is not expected to withdraw from wedding plans because of honeymoon.They have other needs which I believe the lady will start pressing the guy for once the honey moon is over..

Mrs..Chima:
Not all couples embrace romance so honeymoon isn't for everyone.

Pls am restricting this question to married couples alone. WHAT DID YOU GAIN BY GOING FOR HONEYMOON OR WHAT DID YOU LOOSE OR MISS BY NOT GOING?

You might as well start living in a hut, throw away your phone(s) and use your certificates to clean your bum.
Since you are an African man, what are you still doing with them?


And you need to get out of that couple's business. Husband and wife issue is a no-no for an outsider.

Desist and give them a chance to build a home. Marriages are facing enough already, don't add to their troubles.
Go get yours and wipe off every trace of romance if you wish.
Thanks as you comply!

honeymoon koo bee moon ni what will i enjoy in honeymoon that me and my wife will not enjoy in an ordinary day of our life??

Scarpon: honeymoon koo bee moon ni what will i enjoy in honeymoon that me and my wife will not enjoy in an ordinary day of our life??

.Most women nowadays are selfish and inconsiderate and that is the reason why most marriages are suffering this days.Once the financial burden is on the man they will insist unecessary on something that is even immaterial. Some of our women will prefer a school which they can use to boast in front of their fellow women for their children not even minding if they can even get a cheaper one with better quality education. About your question as regard my certificate and mobile phone, I think u should know that every culture or life style has his own positive and negative aspect,you will borrow the positive side and drop the negative one. You can go and ask a clergy to joing you and a fellow woman together since they have started doing that in the society where the certificate and mobile phone came from

lola.luv:
You might as well start living in a hut, throw away your phone(s) and use your certificates to clean your bum.
Since you are an African man, what are you still doing with them?


And you need to get out of that couple's business. Husband and wife issue is a no-no for an outsider.

Desist and give them a chance to build a home. Marriages are facing enough already, don't add to their troubles.
Go get yours and wipe off every trace of romance if you wish.
Thanks as you comply!

You can as well ask a clergy to join you and a fellow woman together because they have started doing that in the society where the certificate and phones came from

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Yesooooo Awuuuu, still prefer to drink Gaari to corn flakes and Egypt 80 band to the beatles