OK i think i get what it is now,

They did not expect it to turn out this way, Peter is not feeling too good about it, because he is not ready for marriage yet.
She would like to settle down but does not know exactly how to get him to the altar, without looking desperate

hummmmmmmm i think she shd have thought twice before dating a guy ten years younger than her
See her now to mention the names of Demi Moore and Usher.

she's actually six years older than peter.

Some people don't care about this kind of age difference. Madonna is also 10 years older than her husband.



If Peter had a problem with it, then he really shouldnt have dated her in the first place. Or vice versa.

these guys just impregnating girls all over the place and then refusing to marry them.

I don't know, but I think there are consequences when a man does that.They don't go scotfree, from what I heard.

There's too much sadness and heartache involved. I think its worse when the girl has been led to believe the man will marry her and then he suddenly changes his mind after she's taken in.

dang the woman is fynnneee

well done Pete, show them you don't shoot blanks

He seems committed to this woman though, not randomly having kids. . .the whole 'marriage' thing is out of fashion with naija artistes these days, so I am not surprised. I wish them both and their unborn child all the best.

How is he 'refusing' to marry her? He says he loves the woman, but marriage is not in the plans, she says she's not dying for marriage either, so what is the problem? Don't lump Pete with tuface (aka 7baba ) - he's stayed with this woman for a while and wants the child, if they are not ready to marry, don't make it seem like he promised her something and changed it.

http://lindaikeji..com/2007/04/naija-gossip_25.html



notice how she sounds here. I'm not reading anti-marriage in her comments:

http://i115.photobucket.com/albums/n288/bellanaija/lola.jpg  _{click to enlarge}

<<sigh>>

yes, she's so beautiful, but sometimes beauty, like brains, isnt always an asset in relationships,especially where naija girls/guys are concerned.

"I don't even know if I should feel happy or sad for her. To the best of my knowledge, she's mainly dated Naija guys, and I'm not sure why. Most of these people wont appreciate her.

Dont know why she stayed in the country either, really. Its not like she has no other choice.

oh well. I wish her and her baby the best, but I wish things could have been different as regards her partner. I think she may have given up on naija guys and marriage" - tpia.

@tpia

Questions for you:

What's the difference between the "naija guys" and other guys?
What's the definition of appreciation in this context; marriage cos she is pregnant or love.
Which race or country do you think would have appreciated her more?
When did it become mandatory that you must live outside Nigeria if you have the choice, even if you have a good job and holiday outside Nigeria frequently?
From the interview, did it sound as if Peter was forced on her?
Does being a mixed breed make her out of reach for Peter?
Who among the two do you think has better chances of dating or marrying big personalities both home and abroad, black or white?
What could be the consequences of two mature and financially independent beings having a baby together?

My questions are based on the paper interview and your response, and not based on personal encounter with the two adults involved.

@ nuzo: you seem to have some racial issues here.

rephrase your questions in a less hostile manner, if possible.

How you're reading all this racial tension into my statements is amazing.



check my posts on the thread below. Are you also finding some imaginary racial stuff there?

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=128562.msg2197814#msg2197814

that woman is really fine. wow!

Why is the nation pissed anytime a star falls for an older woman? The chic is banging hot can you blame peter? She is good arm candy.
but seriously, She will probably be happier with a 'normal' man as a husband . Without the drama of groupies and an absentee husband. All those tours they go on. next thing other kids will start popping out from different women.

See dead dead babes, dry dry fish for Nairaland wey dey beef better thing. The babe is older than the chap and they come from two different social classes fine, so if she like am nko na bad thing? No be like say she no get choice, fine babe like that for that matter. At least no be Nike Osinowo wey dey find other people dem husband. Na the guy toast am after all.

At least she's independent and dating the guy on her own terms, not to mention making her own money, if he doesn't want to marry she surely won't kill herself over it, some Nigerian chicks here are holding their boyfriends to ransom because they don't want to get married now, una too do abeg, leave the fine babe and fine guy alone. All these hungry Nigerian girls are ready to sleep with the same chap they are calling ugly should he just snap his fingers, after all you are the ones screaming at the P2 Square shows and in their videos.

I respect both of them for the courage to make their own decisions. Make una go find work abeg, bad belle people and gold diggers.

Bla bla bla. . . .

Whatever they choose to do is all for their happiness. Do ur shitz guys while some people remain in limbo

The reason I defy the tyranny of precedent.

i jus feel so sorry 4 lola

Peter's a jerk.
T's why i've always preferred Paul.

the after effects of good bla bla bla.


she should bear the baby who knoes he/she might be her pillar 2morrw.

as for peter he has more wild oats to sow.

I still don't get why almost all the girls in the house feel pity or sorry for Lola! them force her date the guy? abi na me open her leg for the guy? whenever gist get to do with guys and babe e don be must say you must marry her even if na one day you date her!

so what? over rated musicians - over rated pu ssies - over rated di cks - who cares who impregnates her?

I taya Ohhhhhh help me ask them

Why all the negative comments? I hope 3 things for her; Its what she really wants, she's really happy and it works out well for them.

I hope it all works out 4 dem…being a single mama is hard…, she is so pretty tho….Munachi doesn’t even come close

Can't wait to see the baby's pictures. . . . . , what's up with Nigerian Paparazzi now?. . , . .

This is the same Peter that was doing a youth campaign one time and said "Please If you gona have sex, use a condom".

.

the lola babe, she f, cked up, sorry to say, she should have known better than to date a guy way younger than her and this same guy is getting to his peak of his career and most people expect him to settle down . C'mon, it doesn work that way most times and sadly enough, it clearly shows that Peter will not marry her.
She even knows deep down but she's refusing to accept the reality, Its sad, such a beauty, such a sucess in her career and such a wrong decision in her lovelife, some womennnn . I wish her the best in her lovelife, because every woman wants to get married, no matter how some try to hide it.

victorian:

because every woman wants to get married, no matter how some try to hide it.

errrrrrrrrrrr i dont quite agree

this must be coming from either
1) a conservative african man who is marching backwards when everybody is marching forwards
OR
2) a conservative and unredeemable african woman who is brought up to measure success ONLY in terms of marriage

simply pathetic

I will still repeat myself that everywoman wants to get married or be in a stable man/woman relationship but thats does not mean its the main focus of pointing out her sucess in life. At this time and age most enlightened women are becoming strong in their career/buisness/education and that does not mean that those aspect of their achievements is insignificant. If you, Emad feel its insignificant  well thats your own idea but as for mE, NO MATTER HOW HIGH I HAVE GONE UP THE LADDER, I STILL NEED A SOULMATE,either in the form of marriage / concrete stable relationship. because it stabilizes all i have worked for, especially when you are with the right person.
Look at Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt for example, If angelina is so focused on material achievements, then why did she get married not once? and divorce  not once? Because, she's needs a stabilizing unit inform of marriage/stable relationships to bring out the balance in her achievements. She even went ahead to adopt children, at least you can't say Angelina is in the stone age and pathetic to want children and a man to balance her sucess in life?
  Any woman that thinks like you do, Emad sorry to say- its either she has lost all hope in having someone to love her and treat her like a woman  :oand she's like what the hell! who cares about marraige? Why should it be the yard stick to show how sucessful a woman is?
Well, its not the only thing to measure up for her sucess, other things like career, buisness ,self develpoment and other aspect of life is also part of the package that makes a complete and sensible woman.
Alot of successful women out there, do care about getting married /being in a stable relationship, take it or leave,  that is your own.
Babe, wake up and smell the cofee around you.

Baby, Victorian we can argue until kingdom come but i have one thing to ask?

WHAT makes u feel that UR perspective of life is the same is LOLA's?
you have expressed how YOU feel, and i have deep respect for your feelings,
but what i do not want you to do is to generalise them."EVERY WOMAN wants to get married "
rather say."I want to get married no matter how much succes i archieve in my career"

it is this kind of GENERAL talk that put unnecessary pressure on women to get married
and they rush and choose the WRONG people. why would any one feel that Lola is desparate to be married ?
if she were a man her age no body would say that about her.

This is the sorry fate of African women especially because, EVEN the african sisters help to put the pressure on them.

this conversation reminds me of another trend where someone said "is genevieve REALLY happy"
implying that since she is not married she cannot be truely happy

and i went on to write a storm, at the end of the day i said the same thing i am saying now
" FOR SOME WOMEN, marriage is the yardstick of success, for some others, NO, please do not use what you feel to
speak for some one else, that is TOO judgemental "


Peace !!

Peace too

Am through with this issue

oh peter is this girl really pregnant for him no i don't think so

serianne:

oh peter is this girl really pregnant for him no i don't think so

Late commer on the trend
look at the dates

Age differences doesnt matter in the world of celerbrities. do you think that lady will take a single glance at peter if he was an odinary figure?

Naija Celebrities just they Bleep there self

Any woman that thinks like you do, Emad sorry to say- its either she has lost all hope in having someone to love her and treat her like a woman :oand she's like what the hell! who cares about marraige? Why should it be the yard stick to show how sucessful a woman is?

wat u av said i nothing bt d truth. personally i think women who say marriage 4 them is not important are ALWAYS from 30yrs and above.

sorry emad i dont mean any harm.