jidegirl12: @caropy ( my belle oh)

jidegirl12: @caropy ( my belle oh)

ileobatojo:

I'm sorry, why do you think people should unleash venom on them?

pslm23:
No wonder what? Because she is 38 that makes her what? or means what? FYI, she might be 38 but she looks like she's in her late 20s. Again, stop with the stereotype.

pslm23:
3 years ago, my cousin was in Abuja for a funeral and that was how they met. It was platonic, they were just friends and he told her then that he was having serious problems with the mother of his kids.

in 2011 she came to Nigeria for vacation and they met and spent time together and that was when he told her he was finally done with the woman and asked my cuz to date him.

Ujujoan: What kind of man bangs a woman for 17 years and impregnates he 4X without marrying her? IMO, the cousin was blinded by her desperation. She should have asked hrself what kind of man she was falling in love with first. If he married her and their marriage didn't work out, I would have blamed him less. But for 17 years he was taking it all for free and all of a sudden realized she wasn't the one!
SMH!

She was a 'devil', not worthy of being called his wife, and yet he kept going back for more . . .

His relatives advised him not to marry her but to keep banging her abi

Na wah!

caropy: @pslm23, you find it easy to believe your coz stories and the stories her man lover cooks now abi? but call the woman a liar? where is common sense? 17years with 4 kids? and you said some of the man's family members still give her ears, right? when your coz show them one third of what the ex show him, all the family members will in one day give the ex ear and they all will rally round to drive your coz out.

common sense, use your case to judge this your coz case now cos i well followed your story, am sorry to say, if you both dont can think right now, then i see a rebirth of what you went through to this your coz in the nearest future.

the cain that was used to beat the ex, is somewhere under the bed.

@debrief, did i get that right? that you have an ex and it worked for you doesnt mean it will work for the rest, you might have not looked well before starting that relationship that led you into another, so pls desist from advising people to play it the way you did, i beg you. So everyone shoukd divorce today and remarry tommorrow,huh, all this coming from you mama, common. Read in between the lines. One is a liar cos she is at the receiving end and the other is saint John cos he is the welcoming inlaw. make all of una talk true to una head.

Dont you follow up her story before now? i guess you did cos you welcome her back, you should have think deep before giving this sort of short term 'good' advise.
If my mother was a good wife , taking good care of the home et al, of course I will be stark raving mad, but if the woman is anything like the

@steph, so if you were dropped by your own father to follow one woman lover to ogbodo oyinbo you will live to bless him abi?

Satan has bewitched some people, because you go school no make your brilliant ooo.


How old is the man himself? maybe 50 years, just finding true love?

steph7: If my mother was a good wife , taking good care of the home et al, of course I will be stark raving mad, but if the woman is anything like the what the Op has said, then my father deserves peace.

greatgod2012: Abegi, that woman has the right to vent, abeg, 17 years with the man and 4 kids to crown the union/relationship, no be beans/joke, infact, she has the right to show op's coz madness.

Who knows what she(the wife) had gone through with the man, we are all human beings, we have to learn to do unto others what we want them do unto us.
@op, if it was your coz that this happened to, how will she feel or handled the situation. The fact is that, that man is a pathological liar, he only said those things he said about his wife to your coz, in ordet to win her soul, tell your coz that she is worth more than that man, because, that man may later treat your coz the way he treated the first woman. Abeg, truth is bitter, but, say it, it might save her life and restore her sanity.
May God help them all.

chaircover: Psalm23 baby uve been ignoring my emails abi

. . .but im glad to see that you are gud, so i have a response to my mails

On the issue of your cousin, Honest truth is that from my experience with these kinds of issues, there is usually much more to the story and when push comes to shove and a man/woman wants to get rid of their partner, the way they will paint an ordinary innocent story will become full of nollywood drama all in the name of giving a dog a bad name. So in short dont believe hook line and sinker every single thing that this man is saying about his wife

17 years is a very very very long time to be in a relationship and 4 kids is a lot of kids to have with a bad woman and no one can trick a man into having more kids than he really wants. What am I saying? if the relationship was as bad as the man is trying to portray, then it wouldn't have lasted that long.

The wife has a right to be angry (put yourself into her shoes and you will see why) I call her a wife, because simply because she didnt sign the dotted line doesnt mean that she is not a wife. Im sure the woman bears Mrs somebody on her papers, at work, in church and she wears and co with her husband to events etc. In many other countries, she will be a deemed as a common law wife and will have some rights too.

The man I will call a coward for not ending the relationship properly and completely shutting one door before opening another. In fact the man was cheating with your cousin while still in a relationship with his wife and that is one of the reasons why the wife is so angry and he bears some responsibility for the drama that is happening now.

The truth is that there is nothing your cousin can do than to ride it. The woman she is in loggerheads with is not a 6 month old girlfriend to the man. She is a wife of 17 years who has been unceremoniously dumped. She is bitter and she is angry and no court of law will be able to stop that and even if you took her to court and told her to keep the peace (I dont know under which law) she still has 4 Generals ie her children who will continue to make your cousins life a misery and the older they get the harder it will be. Taking her to court will still not stop her from sending snide remarks via her children at any opportunity. Basically your cousin is in for a long haul and I hope that she has the strength to deal with it. She has already suffered 2 miscarriages, probably due to all the stress, and this is just the first year and she is going to have to contend with this woman for a lot more years to come.

Personally I will make a decision judge my cousins character and if I know that she doesn't have the strength to deal with this, I will tell her to move on and find a man with less drama and baggage and let husband and wife sort themselves out . . afterall they have been "tolerating" each other for the past 17 years until your cousin came into the picture.

ifyalways: Confusing or am I high already ?
You said "married" in first post and now "they are about to do trad ?"
If your cousin is NOT yet bound to this man by marriage its better for her to look else where oh. The man's baggage na serious over load, why would she want to inherit that?

jennykadry:

I am going to cut the woman some slack here. Yes she might be everything the Op have said here, she might have threatened the cousin which I do not doubt but have you and I questioned ourselves or asked why she's being a bitter woman? Do you and I know if this woman has labored for this man only for him to go hook some other woman? Do you think 17 years is 17 days?

Do we know if this man fell short in his responsibilities as a father and a lover? Yes she did all that psm23 has stated here, but even though some of us will not stoop so low the truth still remains that , 17 years of her life and his was wasted, so lets give her room to vent.

Your father married your mother steph7 , yous were not brought into this world out of wedlock