Sanboy25:
I think that all depends on the level of understanding of the man...
Some men will not be able to accept the rejection, they'll become angry at the woman, thus enemies.
Other men, the wise ones, will accept the fact that the woman have the choice... The man, if he want to strike once more, he'll manage a way for he and the woman to remain friends or lovers...
To me most of the men are from the first category because of their big ego...
Hope I helped.

LastApostle: which stopid man will propose to a girl without her giving him the green light. There must be some sort of pressure from her like when are you seeing my people, my mates are all getting married, I keep attending friends wedding, I wish to be the mother of your kids etc. Such signal will guide a guy to a more favourably decision.

Can't imagine the humiliation hosting friends for an engagement party and your woman supposedly turn you down to the consternation of friends and relatives. Omo, you had all along been dating someone else wife to be!

SLIDE waxie: why DID you CHOSE to biliv dt the one who accepted d turning down IS WISE?
Is it because he pretended to accept or decided not to react?
Before a man decides to 'marry' a lady, u knw wot he has gone tru and overcame psychologically?
When u mentioned d issue of choice, i dnt biliv u undstud it is in total relation to individual differences? The one who gets angry shld be cut a slack, as he is different from d one who chose to accept! Hence, no one is wise, no one is foolish!

Sanboy25:

I believe that the one who over-reacted to the refusal is foolish.
By doing so, not only he ruins all his chances with the lady, he also show a childish behavior: like a spoiled kid who trows a tantrum because he can't have what he want, that's an indicator of his immaturity. He asked the woman for marriage, so she has all the rights to refuse, he should have taken into account this possibility...

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A desperate one

LastApostle:

There must be some sort of body language.
My example is what I could conjure!

Sanboy25:

I believe that the one who over-reacted to the refusal is foolish.
By doing so, not only he ruins all his chances with the lady, he also show a childish behavior: like a spoiled kid who trows a tantrum because he can't have what he want, that's an indicator of his immaturity. He asked the woman for marriage, so she has all the rights to refuse, he should have taken into account this possibility...
Being angry and over-reacting because a woman don't want you is pure stupidness... she is an individual who has the choice.
The man didn't overcome nothing psychologically because he didn't consider refusal.

It's the second one, the Wise one, who went through all the possibilities in his head before his proposal.
By staying calm when refused marriage, he overcame the deception and the flow of negative emotions toward the lady.

SLIDE waxie: u, san, are still jumping d fact abt individual differences!
That needed to be considered in any situation!

The truth remains dt 90% of people who vet their anger on d spot dnt really mean it, and they alwys regret it. They are mostly described as plain, honest and straight. While d other silent and supposedly cool one are mostly dangerous to deal with.

I am off d context of this thread, and only trying to correct the stereotyping dt being angry is foolish. Well, it's not!

alutacontinua: Being angry because someone turned down your offer is childish and immature. By offer, I mean any kind of offer. An offer is meant to be accepted or rejected. The 'offeree' should be prepared for any of the two outcomes. I just hate it when people ask you for something or ask to do something and you say 'NO' and they take it personal. That means they were practically trying to impose that thing on you in the first instance. There's a room for feeling bad but not ANGER!

Temismith: What for? For y? What can fa? E didnt possible. How na? How do i feel around dat person? For d betterment of our lives, twill be better to keep distance, not ' malice'

LastApostle: which stopid man will propose to a girl without her giving him the green light. There must be some sort of pressure from her like when are you seeing my people, my mates are all getting married, I keep attending friends wedding, I wish to be the mother of your kids etc. Such signal will guide a guy to a more favourably decision.

Can't imagine the humiliation hosting friends for an engagement party and your woman supposedly turn you down to the consternation of friends and relatives. Omo, you had all along been dating someone else wife to be!

Sanboy25:

I believe that the one who over-reacted to the refusal is foolish.
By doing so, not only he ruins all his chances with the lady, he also show a childish behavior: like a spoiled kid who trows a tantrum because he can't have what he want, that's an indicator of his immaturity. He asked the woman for marriage, so she has all the rights to refuse, he should have taken into account this possibility...
Being angry and over-reacting because a woman don't want you is pure stupidness... she is an individual who has the choice.
The man didn't overcome nothing psychologically because he didn't consider refusal.

It's the second one, the Wise one, who went through all the possibilities in his head before his proposal.
By staying calm when refused marriage, he overcame the deception and the flow of negative emotions toward the lady.

alutacontinua:

Being angry because someone turned down your offer is childish and immature. By offer, I mean any kind of offer. An offer is meant to be accepted or rejected. The 'offeree' should be prepared for any of the two outcomes. I just hate it when people ask you for something or ask to do something and you say 'NO' and they take it personal. That means they were practically trying to impose that thing on you in the first instance. There's a room for feeling bad but not ANGER!

SLIDE waxie: u, san, are still jumping d fact abt individual differences!
That needed to be considered in any situation! The truth remains dt 90% of people who vet their anger on d spot dnt really mean it, and they alwys regret it. They are mostly described as plain, honest and straight. While d other silent and supposedly cool one are mostly dangerous to deal with. I am off d context of this thread, and only trying to correct the stereotyping dt being angry is foolish. Well, it's not!

Hum ok, I understood your point, you are entitled to your opinion and me to mine.
Being angry is not being foolish, all depends on what you're angry at.
Being angry because someone attacked you and took your phone is different than being angry because someone don't want to marry you. To vent your anger on the spot is something typically childish, [or let's enter into stereotype: with women who cry for any occasion], or feminine. A man is not supposed (according to society) to be overwhelmed by his emotions so easily, and when he does let the anger break free, he is called 'savage' in opposition to the 'civilized'.
Men are said to be 'rational' in opposition to women who are 'emotional'.
In this days, the only burst of anger which is tolerated is when it's a young child who don't know how to conduct himself yet. For a man to openly be angry for a rebuttal is just plainly uncivilized.
For example, if you pass an interview for a job that you always longed for and the boss tells you that you're not taken at the end of it, is it a reason to start getting crazy in the room and to knock over the boss' desk ?
Is this OK to you ? I suppose no, so why will it be OK for this situation ?
Emotions (deception here) should not be an excuse to cover up foolishness.

Sanboy25:

I believe that the one who over-reacted to the refusal is foolish.
By doing so, not only he ruins all his chances with the lady, he also show a childish behavior: like a spoiled kid who trows a tantrum because he can't have what he want, that's an indicator of his immaturity. He asked the woman for marriage, so she has all the rights to refuse, he should have taken into account this possibility...
Being angry and over-reacting because a woman don't want you is pure stupidness... she is an individual who has the choice.
The man didn't overcome nothing psychologically because he didn't consider refusal.

It's the second one, the Wise one, who went through all the possibilities in his head before his proposal.
By staying calm when refused marriage, he overcame the deception and the flow of negative emotions toward the lady.

Multcolor: I Like that

Thanks.