She can't do domestic chores, she can't hustle/work 2 make money (even in a little way)she only demands 4 everything she needs and expects her wish 2 work in her favour.. She is full of excuses when confronted. How can 1 cope wit dis kind of lady? Folks, I need ur contributions on dis pls.

Wife or galfriend? My sincere advice FLEE!

OP,

Are you being over critical Or is this for real? How come you married her when you saw all these traits did not agree with you. Or you are tired of her, as reality has set in? Well a tiger cannot become a lion. You will just have to be patient noni, and hope she grows up. And keep doing what you were doing before marriage. Cleaning, cooking, working and giving her salary. You see gbese, you marry. You come dey ask how much?

Lmao sorry OP <---- not sincere by the way

You must've married a queen no?

Brb

Dayokanu over to you

baby_123:

OP,

Are you being over critical Or is this for real? How come you married her when you saw all these traits did not agree with you. Or you are tired of her, as reality has set in? Well a tiger cannot become a lion. You will just have to be patient noni, and hope she grows up. And keep doing what you were doing before marriage. Cleaning, cooking, working and giving her salary. You see gbese, you marry. You come dey ask how much?

She was a good lady during courtship dat was why I married her.

ekenedegreat: She can't do domestic chores, she can't hustle/work 2 make money (even in a little way)she only demands 4 everything she needs and expects her wish 2 work in her favour.. She is full of excuses when confronted. How can 1 cope wit dis kind of lady? Folks, I need ur contributions on dis pls.

You don enter 1 chance ol boi!

ekenedegreat: She was a good lady during courtship dat was why I married her.

you should have added the above to the 1st post. Have you communicated the changes/latest development with her?

ekenedegreat: She was a good lady during courtship dat was why I married her.

a good lady in what sense(s)

ekenedegreat: She can't do domestic chores, she can't hustle/work 2 make money (even in a little way)she only demands 4 everything she needs and expects her wish 2 work in her favour.. She is full of excuses when confronted. How can 1 cope wit dis kind of lady? Folks, I need ur contributions on dis pls.

• set her up with a business
• get her housemaids
• stop whinging

armyofone:


you should have added the above to the 1st post. Have you communicated the changes/latest development with her?

yes!

ekenedegreat: She was a good lady during courtship dat was why I married her.

If she was a good lady then, maybe you changed after marriage or perhaps something change......or you my friend have been played

@OP

is there any positive thing about this lady
is there any reason why she is not working
Has she put her hand on any business
who then does the chores in the home

biolabee: @OP
is there any positive thing about this lady
is there any reason why she is not working
Has she put her hand on any business
who then does the chores in the home

the op is just fibbing!
there's no way a wife would be useless in domestic chores. it's the basic standard you would expect from any woman from age 12. if she was useless like the op is painting her then how did he miss these lazy attributes in their courtship? it seems op is looking for cheap excuses to cheat.......

coogar:

the op is just fibbing!
there's no way a wife would be useless in domestic chores. it's the basic standard you would expect from any woman from age 12. if she was useless like the op is painting her then how did he miss these lazy attributes in their courtship? it seems op is looking for cheap excuses to cheat.......

hahaha .. lets hear the OP first before we make a decision

coogar:

the op is just fibbing!
there's no way a wife would be useless in domestic chores. it's the basic standard you would expect from any woman from age 12. if she was useless like the op is painting her then how did he miss these lazy attributes in their courtship? it seems op is looking for cheap excuses to cheat.......

How about the OP was a born again brother who never cohabited with the girl and doesnt know her domestic chores ethics

Boyfriend in Lagos, GF in Portharcourt, How would he know she snores at night and cant clean after herself

says who?
let me help you: it's the basic standard you would expect from anybody from age 12.

coogar:

the op is just fibbing!
there's no way a wife would be useless in domestic chores. it's the basic standard you would expect from any man or woman from age 12. if she was useless like the op is painting her then how did he miss these lazy attributes in their courtship? it seems op is looking for cheap excuses to cheat.......

the last part was well said.

dayokanu:
How about the OP was a born again brother who never cohabited with the girl and doesnt know her domestic chores ethics

Boyfriend in Lagos, GF in Portharcourt, How would he know she snores at night and cant clean after herself

what about her personal hygiene? a lazy woman would be extremely untidy.

armyofone: says who?
let me help you: it's the basic standard you would expect from anybody from age 12.


the last part was well said.

boys can be excused.....
what would my boy be doing in the kitchen? what's he aspiring to be? a caterer or a house-husband? armyofone, take your time o.....

coogar: what about her personal hygiene? a lazy woman would be extremely untidy.

How many times do they meet? You cant know someone over MTN free night calls

Everyone knows when traveling to meet your significant other you wear your best clothes or even buy new ones

Thats why I would advocate a 6 months trial living together before any marriage to avoid these kind of surprises

dayokanu:

How many times do they meet? You cant know someone over MTN free night calls

Everyone knows when traveling to meet your significant other you wear your best clothes or even buy new ones

Thats why I would advocate a 6 months trial living together before any marriage to avoid these kind of surprises

i don't think you need that many months to study your significant other. i still maintain the op is fibbing or at best, exaggerating!

coogar:

the op is just fibbing!
there's no way a wife would be useless in domestic chores. it's the basic standard you would expect from any woman from age 12. if she was useless like the op is painting her then how did he miss these lazy attributes in their courtship? it seems op is looking for cheap excuses to cheat.......

A lot of people have been raised by plenty househelps doing everything for them. You would be terribly shocked how some girls can only boil water. I dont agree with cohabitation, but staying over some weekends may be fine.

baby_123:

A lot of people have been raised by plenty househelps doing everything for them. You would be terribly shocked how some girls can only boil water. I dont agree with cohabitation, but staying over some weekends may be fine.

Exactly and being physically neat is not really an indication of how lazy you can be at doing housework

dayokanu:

Exactly and being physically neat is not really an indication of how lazy you can be at doing housework

At all, what is that term used in boarding house where you dont bath, but wear perfume and clean clothes. . Answer: Rub and shine

I suspect OP though if this story was true, is one of those guys that give their women salary as girlfriends. . Most likely a young, fresh out of uni girl. With what he wrote about her demands for money, its obvious.

Didn't you see all these before you went ahead to marry her? You where blinded by Love. Well the best thing for you to do is employ a house help.

Mynd_44:
If she was a good lady then, maybe you changed after marriage or perhaps something change......or you my friend have been played

She is d 1 dat changed as 4 me, am still d same old person.

ekenedegreat: She is d 1 dat changed as 4 me, am still d same old person.

From your point of view, that's what you think...

baby_123:
A lot of people have been raised by plenty househelps doing everything for them. You would be terribly shocked how some girls can only boil water. I dont agree with cohabitation, but staying over some weekends may be fine.

that's not feasible!
girls can only boil water? nigerian chic - can't cook, can't clean, can't tidy herself up?? come on.....

coogar:

that's not feasible!
girls can only boil water? nigerian chic - can't cook, can't clean, can't tidy herself up?? come on.....

Your idea of all Nigerian girls is the village girl sweeping the compound, washing clothes manually and cooking food. Well some people were raised by househelps. This is even more rampant in Nigeria, since a lot of people have house helps, cooks, drivers etc. From birth to adulthood. Parents are too busy to train their kids.

baby_123:

Your idea of all Nigerian girls is the village girl sweeping the compound, washing clothes manually and cooking food. Well some people were raised by househelps. This is even more rampant in Nigeria, since a lot of people have house helps, cooks, drivers etc. From birth to adulthood. Parents are too busy to train their kids.

these kids went to boarding schools, stayed in uni hostels. you mean their parents had housemaids with them in the hostel? come on - i refuse to believe that!

baby_123:
From birth to adulthood. Parents are too busy to train their kids.

I won't blame the parents tho, I learnt everything from preteen years, everybody should take responsibility for their own actions and stop blaming parents that strive till dawn to give them the best in life.

Thank God for YouTube and Nigerian websites for confirmed recipes.

They are just LAZY period but again what else is there to say, everybody is out to point fingers and play victim

dayokanu:

Exactly and being physically neat is not really an indication of how lazy you can be at doing housework

I agree..
Had friends sometime back who were always extra clean and chic on the outside and with their bodies but were pigs in every other sense and averse to all forms of house chore or cooking.

Op,send her back to her momma for a few weeks and let momma know why she's coming home.
By the time she's back,something should have changed.