I can't understand what my problem is .Something is wrong with my relationship ,I've being dating this guy for almost three years now and I loved him when we started ,but two years later i noticed that the love is no where to be found, in which i didn't let d guy realise i don't feel the way he is feeling.And this is the man we are planning to live together 4ever.Not that i'm in love with someone else .The guy love me alot and i won't like to miss him.What will i do to love him back in return?

I just don't get u.

is it that u loved him before and the love finshed or what??

or is it that u never loved him and u are trying to love him back


The thing is this once your heart is not in love it means its not in love.
i don't think there is a way u can force or make your heart fall in love.

And i don't think anyone will want to be loved unnaturally.


so think about it.

wish you da best

The worst thing we can do is lie to someone when we don't reciprocate their feelings.
Staying around- it looks like you're toying around with him.
You live togehter and you're playing house but your heart's not in it. it's not fair on him or you.
My advice would be to end the relationship because it's not based on truth and love. More convenience than anything else.

Don't hurt him- don't hurt yourself.

let him go, maybe when he's gone u'll love him

If you're not in love with him then let him go.

Maybe you need a break to really put things in place.

@Sagacious

I think this thread could be rightly titled: When the Love Finished

Advice: What made you fall in Love with Him in the first place? That is the thing you are looking for.

kimba:

@Sagacious

I think this thread could be rightly titled: When the Love Finished

Advice: What made you fall in Love with Him in the first place? That is the thing you are looking for.

I love ur posts. Damn i've been waiting to tell u.

Hunnie, like kimba said, ask urself what made u fall in love him with in the first place? Was it money? Is money finished? Is that why love is finished?

I mean find that thing, when u find it, u'll know how to LOVE.

My second advice is, break up with him if u no longer FEEL it. I mean it's not right pushing him along.

kimba:

@Sagacious

I think this thread could be rightly titled: When the Love Finished

Advice: What made you fall in Love with Him in the first place? That is the thing you are looking for.

Thanks a lot KIMBA, Tell the forum that U love him 4 one reason and dont forget to mention the fact that U lost the love U had 4 her because he's no more gotten what U loved him for and that makes U bored.

Pls Tell this Guy exactly how U feel about him and let him be.if He is still in love with U he may ask u
WHERE IS THE LOVE ?

ah

also agree Kimba said,
check how the love came about.
maybe it went the way it came, money?,trips?, whatever
or
maybe u need to travel far away from him for sometime,
to use ur head,
and re-trace d journey,

better still,
, release the guy, there'll be many out there who will TRUELY love him back

if ur out of love maybe u rushed into it in the first place and u werent really in touch wih ur feelings, dont keep him and urself from finding the true love u both deserve, its not enough to love someone it has to go both ways to work out and he deserves to be loved

It's started naturally ,but realised the feeling is no where to be found and i gatto love, have anybody experienced this before ? i need to work on my emotion , how would i go about this?

sagacious:

It's started naturally ,but realised the feeling is no where to be found and i gatto love, have anybody experienced this before ? i need to work on my emotion , how would i go about this?

I understand girl, been there before, its not everytime in a relatioship that one feels in love, but from your post, you said two years, quite some time to stay out of love, my suggetion is that you give the relationship a break for a while and see what happens, if you still dont feel any love, then walk away because its means its not there anymore.

@topic,

u can't force love, if it ain't there, it ain't there.
Leave him now before it gets worse and u end up hurting him.

@ topic
if your heart is not in the relationship again,walk out!!!!

@ topic
if your heart is not in the relationship again,walk out!!!! before you start cheating on him

oudamian:

@kimba


Love never ends, if your love 4 him has ended then it definately is lust and not love.

Thats so untrue

open ur heart and learn 2 love him,since ure not into someone else, u shuld spend more time with him, maybe u'll get to learn more from him and then get 2 appreciate him better.

I think that if u enter a relationship and live with the person then it tends to take all the excitement out of the whole thing. (i dont know whether u are living together) but if u do, then there isnt anything to look forward to.

I also think u probably need to give each other a break - cause its only natural that we get bored of things.
You also need to inject some fun, do the things u used to do when u first met.
Send texts, still go on dates and its all good.

@ poster

my guess is u never loved him from the scratch, he only swept u off your fit with watever. money, height, his eloquence or u just went into it for self security _{because u sef need boy friend}

stop calling lust love

thats d prob with u grls, soon u will meet another guy n question your feelins for this new one.
sit down with yourself, ask your self basic questions for instance, its because of people like u that I find it difficult to commit to a girl, that way, some say I am a player.

no play d guy games, sit him up n tell him you're tru wit him _{and stop this modern day prostitution}

tola hope u r not this sagacious person?, because i dont dis-girl/friend u since

Love is whimscal and tempramental it comes when it pleases and goes away without warning. Accept and enjoy it while it last. Never worry about it departure. Worry wil never bring it back.One who has truely love can not loose Entirely. Pls let the guy be!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Alright. Cheers.[

@ Poster,
If you don't feel anything for him, leave him. If you stay with him out of pity or because you've been together for long, you're bound to leave him later when someone else comes into the picture or stay on with him and treat him like trash.

Every one deserves to love and loved back.

@poster , Go to Sweet Sensation and buy one, but why did you lost the first one? and you know this is very expensive,

@poster, u neva luvd dis guy right from d onset. guess u were just infatuated wit something about him which eventually faded out, if u cant love him stil i suggest u move on. gudluck

what attracted you to him at the beginning? why did you go into the relationships? Are the answers to these question still valid now? What changed and why did it change?

If you cannot ask yourself these question and provide candid answers you will have the same problem in you next relationship. You need to take a step back, evaluate the situation and the seek solutions

@ poster,
My best advice is to relove him
Seriously, ur case is a common one. After a while, d initial attraction which translates to love begins to dwindle. U guys can still work it out. Change most routine ways you guys go abt ur love life. Introduce interesting features into your love artinery. It works. Or maybe you guys see too often. Give yourselves some breathing space. You would be amazed how it works. At least no be say anoda person don dey chop your kitten. Another major factor might possibly be his looks. Maybe you just realised that he does not have that drop dead gorgeous looks u need in your man. But from your first post you dont want to loose him. So learn to love him.
_{Always remain simple}

sagacious:

I can't understand what my problem is .Something is wrong with my relationship ,I've being dating this guy for almost three years now and I loved him when we started ,but two years later i noticed that the love is no where to be found, in which i didn't let d guy realise i don't feel the way he is feeling.And this is the man we are planning to live together 4ever.Not that i'm in love with someone else .The guy love me alot and i won't like to miss him.What will i do to love him back in return?

your ex (first love) is the cause.