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Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by armyofone(m): 8:52pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
CNN had a docu movie yesterday "Girl Rising" I'm looking forward to the day when ladies will take a firm stand and say no to a man wanting to make them 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc wife. 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 9:11pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
armyofone: CNN had a docu movie yesterday "Girl Rising"Husband scarce naw.boys r born daily more than gals but b4 adulthood we hv more gals than boys. Besides,religion does not make it easier eg,koran.even d bible said that during end time, ladies will be fightin over one man just to answer his name. Maybe this is end time. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by lovelydoll: 10:36pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
biolabee: So men are going to start dying in droves again? if so ,there will still be no use for polygamy marriage , cause there are many ways to make babies,and support yourself. 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 10:43pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
lovelydoll: not sure wat u mean but i meant that marriage will be A thing of the past |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by lovelydoll: 10:46pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
biolabee: Oooo ok ,you are right about that |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 12:27pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
lovelydoll: Tragic..but that is civilisation |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Pretty4ril: 2:28pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
How can someone in the right thinking sense encourage polygamy. Nawaoo i can't stand another woman coming to share my dadd with mum not to talk of sharing my hubby Nooooooo. My grandfather did but is was disaster/chaos big one,can't go into details cos it was a lesson to all his children. Presently and in future it is not in our family values by God's grace. 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 2:48pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
@lovelydoll Just came across this Polyamory - will it take root? According to them, they engage in consensual, ethical and responsible non-monogamy
Exotic that's how the gay movement started Interesting world we live in |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by effisyman: 2:51pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Nice thread, one of the many issues affecting every home today. Firstly, am a muslim and my religion accept of polygamy. I have also discorvered that many muslim females despise polygamy. These i find a bit intriguing because, i expect everybody to accept the doctrines of his/her chosen religion. Secondly, of 1000 men out there it is very hard to find 10men that have not sleep with another woman after marriage. Thirdly, when you think of the problems associated with polygamous home...my dear na no go area. Finally, non muslims have been marrying more than one wife and have either enjoy or regret it. Am still baffled by the acts of muslim women who reject polygamy, why not embrace your religion in full and all christains to also abide by their religious doctrines. Let the man who has no claim to either being a muslim or christain lives as it suits him, and everybody carry his cross. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 7:36pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
from the same article http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2013/06/polyamory_should_be_legal_it_s_consensual_and_fine_for_children.single.html But studies have found that diverse parenting environments, including polyamorous ones, aren’t necessarily better or worse for the children involved. In fact, children in some plural families can actually benefit from the increased resources, care, and flexibility that additional adults provide. From a global and historical perspective, the phenomenon of the two-parent nuclear family is relatively new, and not the only environment that can be healthy for children. The happiness and well-being of kids in all kinds of families (monogamous, polyamorous, heterosexual, homosexual, or single-parent) depend far more on things like stability, boundaries, support, and love—not on the private, responsibly conducted sex lives of the adults involved. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by spoilt(f): 7:59pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
I do not blame the men that want to marry several women. I baffle at the women that actually form a straight file and move in to share of all things a man. . .an imperfect man. Your religion has thrust this absurdity upon you? Time to decamp perhaps. Just saying. 2 Likes |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by somegirl1: 8:39pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
effisyman: Nice thread, one of the many issues affecting every home today. I doubt you'd be baffled if islam accepted and promoted polyandry. Women just like men are territorial regardless of belief. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by chatterly: 12:40pm On Jul 01, 2013 |
For me there is nothing wrong with polygamy if the parties involved are upfront with each other,I am a monogamist ,will never marry another wife and my parents have been married for about 50 years.Traditionally we Africans were polygamist in nature and we had a way of life that worked for us,modernity and religion brought about the changes that we have now,but I ask myself these questions 1..is it not better for a man to keep 2 or more officially than having one wife and multiple concubines with the attendant problems that come with these. 2.why are we complaining about young girls not getting married when the are already automatically disadvantaged as there are more women than men and women tend to mature faster than men,meaning that by the time they are ready to get married,their age mates are still fooling around in most cases and by the time their mates are finally ready,their mates are seen as being too old. 3.the white man brought about this issue of monogamy to us but now they are the ones promoting gay marriage etal,won't be suprised if bestiality or incense is legalized in the next 50yrs(Shebi,it's the rights of individuals to do whatever they want that is being promoted) My take, we do not have to take everything promoted by the white man hook line and sinker,let us develop a way of lifetime that is suited for us!,!,!,! 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 2:41am On Jul 03, 2013 |
For me there is nothing wrong with polygamy if the parties involved are upfront with each other,I am a monogamist ,will never marry another wife and my parents have been married for about 50 years.Traditionally we Africans were polygamist in nature and we had a way of life that worked for us,modernity and religion brought about the changes that we have now,but I ask myself these questions Nothing wrong with it yet all the responders raised in it said they will never practice it themselves and so do you,interesting.
The act of polygamy in itself contradicts fidelity so your point is moot. A polygamous man is incapable of being faithful.if he could,he would have one wife. 2.why are we complaining about young girls not getting married when the are already automatically disadvantaged as there are more women than men and womenThis is a lie See world fact sheets,there are more men than women even in Nigeria So i have no clue who is spreading these lies that we have heard a thousand times In Muslim countries the disparity is even worse,some have almost twice as many men as women ,the women ought to marry 2 husbands in some f these places No wonder they are marrying six and nine year old girls since the women supply are limited. 3.the white man brought about this issue of monogamy to us but now they are the ones promoting gay marriage etal,won't be suprised if bestiality or incense is legalized in the next 50yrs(Shebi,it's the rights of individuals to do whatever they want that is being promoted)You accept most things the white man brought to you and bash monogamy,funny. Get off the Internet,turn your phone and pick up a gong to transmit messages,let's see ow far you will go My take, we do not have to take everything promoted by the white man hook line and sinker,let us develop a way of lifetime that is suited for us!,!, And polygamy is that lifestyle that suits us? In a continent ridden with AIDS and poverty you advocate a man sleeping with 3 or more women without protection since they are called wives ,a set up where the participants stand chances of sharing diseases amongst themselves should one person become infected? Are you serious? 3 Likes |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by tintingz(m): 6:21am On Jul 03, 2013 |
LOLZ. . .Ofcos there are happy polygamous family... My dadd married two wives and we live happily, have never for once seen my mum and my step mum fighting...they are like sisters Isaac of the bible married one wife, what happened at the end?? Polygamy is part man nature there is nothing you can do about it... All this feminist ranting against polygamy will be the one fighting their hubby for dating a misstress ''monogamy my azz'' it is better for a man to marry officialy to another wife than sleeping around with women that the wife doesn't know about the adultery for monogamy sake. The western have really damage the nature of man and afrika... Those days when a woman will set out to look for another wife to marry her husband cuz she doesn't want ''monogamy sake adultery'' I will say it again there are happy polygamous home like the home i turn up with, my mum was the one that raise the two male child of the second wife, a christian neigbour i know who is like a father to me married two wives... so ya'll feminist should shut tha f-ck up! 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by kunle4toyeyaho: 8:33am On Jul 03, 2013 |
I think men are just polygamist in nature dt is why in d west a man wil divorce his wife of 30yrs giving d excuse dt he is no more in love with her or a man who is a serial divorcee. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by tintingz(m): 11:38am On Jul 03, 2013 |
Ya'll stinking mouth NL feminist should visit this thread Legalize Polygamy! Jillian Keenan A Feminist www.nairaland.com/1345679/legalize-polygamy-jillian-keenan-feminist |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 1:32pm On Jul 03, 2013 |
kunle4toye@yaho: That is serial monogamy... this to me is as bad if not worse than polygamy |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 1:52pm On Jul 03, 2013 |
tintingz: LOLZ. . .Ofcos there are happy polygamous family... I have read some of your posts and I can say that you are a living proof for why polygamy should be ILLEGAL. Didn't your father have enough time to teach you how to have a matter-of-fact argument without becoming abusive? You talk in a very aggressive and vulgar way and you are the living proof of what comes out of a polygamous home, people who often lack a proper home training and in many cases education (see your spelling). And before you say that people have a "dirty mouth", watch your language first. 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by Nobody: 2:03pm On Jul 03, 2013 |
kunle4toye@yaho: I don't agree. SOME men are rather polygamists and others are fine with one woman. Same with women, some fancy having many men, others are fine with one. If men were polygamist by nature and women were not, only men would cheat but that is not the case. Also consider that there are cultures where women have several husbands. So it's a lame excuse to say men are polygamous by nature. I also disagree when you say that men who divorce their wives of 30 yrs do that because they are polygamist by nature. Women do the same, they initiate a divorce after many yrs of marriage but it's RARELY because of a third party, in most cases it's for different reasons. Anyway, if it was true that divorce after 30 yrs of marriage proved that men are polygamist by nature, then it also proved that women are polygamists by nature because in some European countries most divorces are initiated by women. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by tintingz(m): 8:49pm On Jul 03, 2013 |
carefreewannabe:Hun?? Are you high on something or what? Didn't your father have enough time to teach you how to have a matter-of-fact argument without becoming abusive? You talk in a very aggressive and vulgar way and you are the living proof of what comes out of a polygamous home,its because ya'll feminist against polygamy are not making sense and Why putting my father into these if you don't know me it is better for you to shun your mouth cos you dont what i learn from my dear father people who often lack a proper home training and in many cases education (see your spelling). And before you say that people have a "dirty mouth", watch your language first.You did not only lack home training you rejected home training. . .can you point out my spelling error Are all monogamous home in happy state? starting from Isaac of the bible a monogamous home Scroll up and visit the link 1 Like |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by ifyude(f): 10:28am On Jul 04, 2013 |
There are no happy polygamous family talking from experience. my dad married two wives,all the happiness you see are all pretense,deep down all you see is hatred,jealousy and unnecessary competition. my dad tried his best to bring us close when we were small and truly we were,if he wants to buy anything he buys for every body he treated all equally and it was fun growing up for we the kids,money is not a problem but trust women before you know it they tie us apart and we started seeing each other as mortal enemies,when my mum passed on some years back I thought peace will be restored since the other woman is no more but alas no way things became worse,a year and seven months later my dad followed our mum and hell was let loose,my step mum does not want to see us,always making up stories against us to her children,but thank God that we are all doing well if not our name go be sorry. We the children still relate well but all is pretense. Their is no gain in polygamy. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 11:19am On Jul 04, 2013 |
Wow... So even when the man tries to satsisfy the women and thewir kids, the wAr still continues Some Women may just be innately adversarial to one another and when there is monogamy and no woman to fight, to the man Either way the man loses |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by vivianc(f): 11:39am On Jul 04, 2013 |
biolabee: Wow... So even when the man tries to satsisfy the women and thewir kids, the wAr still continues I can see you really like polygamy, do u wanna marry a second wife? |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 11:53am On Jul 04, 2013 |
vivianc: a hasty conclusion with no basis for your assumptions |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by vivianc(f): 12:10pm On Jul 04, 2013 |
biolabee: Ok, easy tiger, that was a joke. There was no need for all the grammar which I obviously don't understand at this Time of day. Why is every so upTight Today sef? I'm sorry thaT goT to you. |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by tintingz(m): 12:30pm On Jul 04, 2013 |
ifyude: There are no happy polygamous family talking from experience. my dad married two wives,all the happiness you see are all pretense,deep down all you see is hatred,jealousy and unnecessary competition. my dad tried his best to bring us close when we were small and truly we were,if he wants to buy anything he buys for every body he treated all equally and it was fun growing up for we the kids,money is not a problem but trust women before you know it they tie us apart and we started seeing each other as mortal enemies,when my mum passed on some years back I thought peace will be restored since the other woman is no more but alas no way things became worse,a year and seven months later my dad followed our mum and hell was let loose,my step mum does not want to see us,always making up stories against us to her children,but thank God that we are all doing well if not our name go be sorry. We the children still relate well but all is pretense. Their is no gain in polygamy.Talking from experience too. . .my dadd married two wives my mumm is the first wife, she was the one that took care of the two sons of my step mum... My mum is late now, my step mum is the one i look up now like my mum... I guess your mum and your step mum did not share same thinking and agree with themselves, even when your father struggle to make them happy |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 12:32pm On Jul 04, 2013 |
vivianc: dear viv, sorry if it seemed offish to you also.. no offense taken... |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 11:52am On Aug 21, 2013 |
Some stuff i saw on the BBC... cray ish http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-23726120 [size=18pt]How does a polyamorous relationship between four people work?[/size] |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by tintingz(m): 12:25pm On Aug 21, 2013 |
^^Interesting |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 2:54am On Aug 22, 2013 |
Badoo tintingz: ^^Interesting |
Re: Is There A Happy Polygamous Home? by biolabee(m): 7:39pm On Aug 26, 2013 |
Interesting thread.. seems modernisation is comin up gradually https://www.nairaland.com/1412711/two-kenyan-men-agree-marry |
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