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Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by greatgod2012(f): 8:05pm On Jun 16, 2013 |
Mynd_44: lol. Parenthood is such a great task, afi ki Olorun ran awa obi lowo. Sometimes, i dont know why, but i have seen an extremely nice and godly parent whose one of their children turn out very bad, i dont know why is this. I have also seen a highly rebellious parent whose one or more of their children is extremely enviable, why Is it destiny is it their luck Why Afi ki Olorun ran wa lowo. (Only God can help us all). |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Mynd44: 8:09pm On Jun 16, 2013 |
Yomieluv: first,for a child to be wayward shows that the parents have failed in their responsibilities.Wrong. Some kids just decide to become problems. When a child becomes an adult, there is not much you can do again concerning his/her decisions. What will a parent do if a 20 year old boy becomes a yahoo boy, starts making money and joins a school cult? 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Nobody: 8:30pm On Jun 16, 2013 |
Mynd_44:train a child in the way of God,and he wont depart from it.. a person would always make a reference to his upbringing ,no matter what. when i got admission,my mum pleaded with me never to become a cultist,that kept me going through out my university days.... i had so many temptation,but i always remember the promises i made to my mum.... meaning that i stuck to her training on me. parental responsibility goes on long way in a child life. |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Mynd44: 8:35pm On Jun 16, 2013 |
Yomieluv: train a child in the way of God,and he wont depart from it..So are you willing to blame every bad youth out there on their parenting? |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Nobody: 9:07pm On Jun 16, 2013 |
kind of Mynd_44: |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Mynd44: 9:12pm On Jun 16, 2013 |
Yomieluv: kind ofThere is no way in heaven, earth or hell I am gonna grace this with a reply that is bent on proving you wrong dude. I will rather sit back and watch |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Nobody: 9:16pm On Jun 16, 2013 |
state your cause man,this is a forum,and am not limited to my ability man. Mynd_44: |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by k2039: 9:33pm On Jun 16, 2013 |
Yomieluv: first,for a child to be wayward shows that the parents have failed in their responsibilities.Omo ti won ko ti o gbeko nko, ejo obi e no ni. Mtchew. |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by k2039: 9:36pm On Jun 16, 2013 |
Yomieluv: train a child in the way of God,and he wont depart from it..So you think those who join yahoo or a cult were not warned by their parents. Abeg, just thank God for your life. Abiko wa, akogba na de wa. Parental responsibility goes a long way, but it's the child's choice to decide to stick with his parents way of life or not. 1 Like |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by damiso(f): 7:03am On Jun 17, 2013 |
k2039:GBAM.From 18 or lets stretch it abit cos adulthood is kinda delayed in Africa 21 an adult is responsible for his or her actions.In this case I might not disown in the sense of disown, but I would definitely take a harder line stance, showing that bro I can decide to mentally write you off.Still does not mean I will not be praying for the child but if love, care,instruction lhas not worked till then, its time to introduce tough love. |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by bellong: 8:33am On Jun 17, 2013 |
Sometimes parents adopt the same style in dealing with all their children. The fact that something worked for a first born does not mean it will work for the second. Some of the problems experienced in wayward children is as a result of the rigid training adopted by parents. It is essential that parents study each of their children and approach them differently. Some parents do compare one kid with the other even from childhood, that alone is enough to sow a seed of bitterness, hatred and rebellion in the child thereby turning him to a "terrorist" to the parents. In all, parents alone can not be blamed for every wayward children but each case should be treated on its merit while examining the genesis and root cause of the problem so as to find a lasting solution. #This is a response to Yomieluv who thinks parents alone should be blamed for every children turned miscreants# It is well with us all. 2 Likes |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by 3ace(m): 3:07pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
There was a recent story of a boy who butchered his father to death. If that man escaped that attack, he will definitely not only disown him, but move far away from him. |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Revolva(m): 3:11pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
well i can disown my child if i was in the case of Laurence fishburne (Matrix the movie star)my own daughter a porn star..Ohh ma Lard |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Mynd44: 3:14pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
3ace: There was a recent story of a boy who butchered his father to death. If that man escaped that attack, he will definitely not only disown him, but move far away from him.that's unfortunately true |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Mynd44: 3:14pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
Revolva: well i can disown my child if i was in the case of Laurence fishburne (Matrix the movie star)my own daughter a porn star..Ohh ma LardLol |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by everyday: 3:20pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
At first i wan in support of disowning a child if he does something terrible like raping his mother but after reading the opinion of some other Nairaland members i guess it will be better to forgive your child no matter what.Leave the judgement to God though if it were my wife my son raped i will shoot him with a gun or better still strangle him with my bare hands |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Nobody: 3:23pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
Yomieluv: first,for a child to be wayward shows that the parents have failed in their responsibilities. Yomieluv: kind of I pray that none of your children turn out to be 'wayward', for your sake anyway lol |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by adexsimply(m): 3:25pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
Yomieluv: train a child in the way of God,and he wont depart from it..Sorry bro..You are not being practical joor...We(I and my two younger siblings) were brought up in a conc. "Deeper Life" home...Only a member of Deeper Life could imagine the kind of Biblical drilling and physical restrictions we were given, despite all these, my younger brother(the last child) almost became something else. He was so badly behaved that he started patronizing girls at a very tender age. Talk of any atrocities(ranging from stealing), and you would meet my brother there. No amount of beating, prayer, counseling etc. could change his life. Not until I told everyone to "let him be on his own"..as in: stop beating him, stop scolding him, stop counseling him, blah blah. Now he has really changed..Very organized, Intelligent, Smart, Creative..in short, he is everything I and my younger sis would never be,although he's still fiercely independent and would not bow to any rule(s) |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by novia22(f): 3:26pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
Yomieluv: first,for a child to be wayward shows that the parents have failed in their responsibilities.Because a child is wayward doesn't mean the parents failed in their responsibility to bring him up rightly.Some kids were just destined to be the devil's walking stick no matter how hard their folks try. 1 Like |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by ifebosco: 3:28pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
jmoore:any day my son do that. he is dead, sorry i will not take that from my children , |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Celepope: 3:28pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
[b]Those people on this thread speaking against disowning have not seen anything from evil children.Some kids their parent have done everything possible to make them a better person yet they have made up their mind to sell their soul to the devil in exchange for nothing.What do you expect the parent to do.Many of you against disowning your own child will certainly harbor that Boko Haram crook the father reported to JTF in Maidugiri last week.Though from my point of view of disowning situation in Nigeria its only the rich that does that simply because they gat what they can use in punishing such kid.A boy with a poor parent have nothing to lose if he is disowned.I have seen a father that disowned his son but he kept on staying in his house except that they don't speak to each other and when this man passed on even the wife was shocked that her late husband willed all his physical cash and asset to charity and Church except for few stakes in his companies to his wife.Funny enough the boy was their only child[/b] 1 Like |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by dd12: 3:31pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
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Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by gagafuc: 3:37pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
I no go disown my child ooo |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by yuzedo: 3:37pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
That stoopid boy can come back with his yeye gay gang to attack his parents o! Cos he is obviously devoid of intellectual functioning! I'd advocate they bundle the boy to a remote village in china where he should be chained and made to carry out community service for a year or three. WTH?! How won't you want to be useful to yourself and your family?! Well what am i saying? Perhaps the parents had a hand in this unfortunate predicament? Maybe past sins or failings i.e. too much indulging while raising the deviant? Pathetic! Before i disown my own flesh and blood, hmmmmm! In fact, i'll rather kill him so he doesn't come back to mete any monkey business on his family; because to be so hopelessly lost, he must obviously be bordering on the psychedelic which can constitute a danger to others. Na God go punish dat pikin wey wen fall my hand! Ah go waste am! |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Nobody: 3:40pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
If my child is a man utd fan,i disown him...because our blood dnt match.,when i av a blue blood.Even most of d galz av made out wit av blue blood...Y wuld i make out wit a red devil?God4bid |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Nobody: 3:42pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
bellong: This is an excellent point! If you end up with a problem child among your children, that means what you are doing is ineffective for that particular child. You need to figure out tactics to help modify that child's behavior. Yes, you will need to leave your comfort zone, you need to let go of your default mode. You need to modify your own behavior first to be able to help that child. You can't just keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. Lack of education, lack of resources contribute to this problem. Also the sheep mentality contributes, 'that's how it's always been done so that's how I will do it'. 1 Like |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by yuzedo: 3:44pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: Mr biolabee,I call them failures bc they hv given up on their son.This your message was hardly articulate but well received, nonetheless. I use God beg you bros, try dey write well abeg make people dey understand you, ABEG! Your comment is touching, though! It stirred emotions in me. |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Afam4eva(m): 3:47pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
Disowning your child is an acceptance of your own failure as a parent to train up your child. If you as a parent had done the right things, the child would not become a burden and a nuisance and so the need to disown that child will not come up. Another word for such parents is "Coward". You don't run away when the going gets tough but prove yourself as a good parent when you see your children through whatever problems or challenges they may be facing. Taking the easy way out is not the solution. Even though i don't usually agree with Coogar because he's baased in London, but i think i agree with his assertion of sending such a child to the war front to learn how to be responsible. |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by adexsimply(m): 3:48pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
yuzedo:I guess He borrowed a leaf from your note we give upp!!! |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by biolabee(m): 4:16pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
Cele-pope: GBAM!!! The prayer is to never see such |
Re: What Can Make You Disown Your Child? by Jerry602(m): 4:20pm On Jun 17, 2013 |
ayobase: Its never right, and should never be condoned......it should be stated as crime!tank God u'r nt jesus n u can neva b. All dsame u stil ve a point. |
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