Salam alaikum uktys,
I decided to create a thread for the Muslim sisters on NL, following tbaba's advice, this will be a no holds barred thread for the Muslim sisters.

We will discuss life, love, family, religion, career, and everything that concerns us, reminding ourselves about the religion, and helping each other grow

Please this is a no judgement thread, we should be sincere and honest and not judge each other.

wa alaykum salam.

This is a good thread. Let us get it going.

Salam sis
For the fashion conscious hijab/veil wearing sisters, "hijabchic" sisters, how do you combine the both, following the hijab rules and still look chic.
I know our imam level is different and some of us struggle with it and we should try and encourage each other, some of us transition fast, some of us struggle with it.

Salam my sisters in Islam..

gmumeen: Salam my sisters in Islam..

Salam to you too.

gmumeen: Salam my sisters in Islam..

are you female? Your name doesnt sound it.

wa alaykum salam.

Sissie: Salam sis
For the fashion conscious hijab/veil wearing sisters, "hijabchic" sisters, how do you combine the both, following the hijab rules and still look chic.
I know our imam level is different and some of us struggle with it and we should try and encourage each other, some of us transition fast, some of us struggle with it.

Actually, the issue is one that I don't like to talk about because I am not PERFECT at it. I painstakingly take care of my looks but I don't go extreme at being chic.

So, I am just going to speak about how I think everyone's hijab should look like. We should all work towards perfection.

*A hijab is an outer garment that covers all of our adornment.

*It is free i.e not tight fitted

*The prophet described the addition of an arm length after reaching the ankles

*Aisha's(r.a) was described as what makes her appear like a penguin
[img]http://t0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcStjxiBD5KTuFnQ-ZuduUSaBR5-p4hrtHK_2IabW3ajLdAB-cJ7z8wbpjsH[/img]
with the picture you can understand why some that you see are like the above picture.

*but then, a description of how it should be sown, I haven't seen or heard of. That makes me believe that the goal is of my point one.


Everyone should strive to achieve the best. May Allah help us.

SAW,
Welldone sissie for creating this thread, and for mac and tbaba, I know u have the interest of the sisters at heart. May Allah reward our deeds and accept them as acts of ibadah, ameen.

sweettweet: SAW,
Welldone sissie for creating this thread, and for mac and tbaba, I know u have the interest of the sisters at heart. May Allah reward our deeds and accept them as acts of ibadah, ameen.

wa alaykum salam.

What do you think of the hijab issue raised?

thumbs up sissie..
Wow! This is d first time i am hearing abt d penguin hadith frm Aisha(R.A).If it is true,then it lends credence to d khimar sewn in naija now.the 'salafi' style if i cld call it that. It is d closest lookin to those pic above.

deols:

wa alaykum salam.

What do you think of the hijab issue raised?

In as much as sisters need to look chic, I think we should not undermine the commandment of Allah regarding hijab. We should try not to compromise, though difficult. I get comments at work on how they see muslim sisters that use "chic" hijabs and they feel mine's too big, but the bottomline is I am doin it to please Allah so nothing else matters.

Thanks to you all too.
About the hijab issue raised, the point is about helping ourselves improve, without necessarily sound like we are "preaching" but reminding ourselves, I want a thread whereby even the none hijab wearing sisters, can share their views and we can advise each other, I.e how do you tell someone struggling to dress like a "penguin" LOL.
Most of us know Islam's rules about hijab but still don't follow it.
Where are the sisters!!!!!!
We are one ummah!!!!
@sweettweet do you know chic hijab sisters and what do you tell them?
Please share your views.

sweettweet:
In as much as sisters need to look chic, I think we should not undermine the commandment of Allah regarding hijab. We should try not to compromise, though difficult. I get comments at work on how they see muslim sisters that use "chic" hijabs and they feel mine's too big, but the bottomline is I am doin it to please Allah so nothing else matters.

Masha Allah, may Allah strengthen your iman

deols:

are you female? Your name doesnt sound it.

wa alaykum salam.

,inshaAllah,i am,is dat my real name?nd aw dos fmale name sound?

gmumeen: ,inshaAllah,i am,is dat my real name?nd aw dos fmale name sound?

I only needed to clarify that you are.

no qualms.

Salam alaykum sisters.
Wonderful thread. On the issue of hijab, I believe what's worth doing at all is worth doinf well. The funky hijabs I see these days are a no no. Imagine someone wearing a transparent hijab, barely passing her shoulders, then wears a fitted top and tight jeans ? I see a lot of these in lagos. Even in the North, the hausa girls use their Hijab more as a fashion statement. I'm not judging o, but I feel the Hijab should be used in obedience to Allah and not an accessory.

She didn't mean dress to look like a penguin, but the dressing should be inspired by d penguin look ie the parts of the penguin covered should also be covered (neck downwards)

Salaam alaykum sisters. I pray that Allah make islam easy for us, amin.

I want it ask something sensitive, i've discuss this with some b4 but haven't got clear answer.
is 'french kiss' ok in islam with husband?
can wife sleep on thier chest facing down while husband do it from back, putting his thing in the right place (VI....)?

i hope u understand, hope to hear back soo.

Wa alaykum salam.

Well, I don't know Islam's position on french kissing but encourages displays of affection between couples even during Ramadan, as long as there's no exchange of body fluids.

On th other question, there's a part in Surah 2, that says a man can have vag.inal sex with his wife from any position as long as he isn't penetrating the anus. So there you go

k4kenny: Salam alaykum sisters.
Wonderful thread. On the issue of hijab, I believe what's worth doing at all is worth doinf well. The funky hijabs I see these days are a no no. Imagine someone wearing a transparent hijab, barely passing her shoulders, then wears a fitted top and tight jeans ? I see a lot of these in lagos. Even in the North, the hausa girls use their Hijab more as a fashion statement. I'm not judging o, but I feel the Hijab should be used in obedience to Allah and not an accessory.

Salam sister,
That's a general statement which isn't true, some Hausa girls use it as a fashion statement, some southerners are guilty.

salam sister and thank u. now i am satisfied with the answer.

k4kenny: Wa alaykum salam.

Well, I don't know Islam's position on french kissing but encourages displays of affection between couples even during Ramadan, as long as there's no exchange of body fluids.

On th other question, there's a part in Surah 2, that says a man can have vag.inal sex with his wife from any position as long as he isn't penetrating the anus. So there you go

Aslmn alykm.Ramadan kareem.As regards,chick sisters using hijab,One can look chick,beautiful and islamic .

The hijab should at least cover the bosom[for starters].
If the hijab is not longer than the bosom part,then try to wear a long sleeved top and free skirt.
If you can try to allow the hijab cover the buttocks,then wear any top with a long skirt[flaired,A-shaped,etc]
When wearing leggings,jean,or any fitted trouser,then wear abayyah on it,you can use a short hijab that covers the bossom.
For people that work in places with dress code e.g bank, wear trousers and long sleeved shirts,trouser suits with hijab that covers the bosom instead of short skirt.You can wear abayyah on it and remove it when you get to work.

May Allah ease our affairs

k4kenny: Salam alaykum sisters.
Wonderful thread. On the issue of hijab, I believe what's worth doing at all is worth doinf well. The funky hijabs I see these days are a no no. Imagine someone wearing a transparent hijab, barely passing her shoulders, then wears a fitted top and tight jeans ? I see a lot of these in lagos. Even in the North, the hausa girls use their Hijab more as a fashion statement. I'm not judging o, but I feel the Hijab should be used in obedience to Allah and not an accessory.

Wa alaikum assalam.wallahi I agree 100% anything that's worth doing is worth doing well especially if it's related to one's religion.I personally know that it's not easy but we should strive to wear it properly and ask Allah to help us

Salam alaykum sis. Ramadan Kareem to yall

ramadan kareem to you all.
Alhamdulillah for your responses.
but please i noticed a trend, the hijab question was about how you dress, your challenges and how you've been able to improve.
the aim isn't necessarily preaching or dawaah, but reminding ourselves.
i noticed we muslims (general statement) just talk generally and talk bout how other people are doing or not doing certain things. but we need to talk about ourselves. if we don't tell ourselves our problem, how do we then improve and advice ourselves. or if we talk about others mistakes, how then do they open up to us.
the reason am saying this is i.e i talk bout hijab with non hijab wearing sisters and most of the time the response i get is about how the hijab wearing sisters are not encouraging at all but judgmental instead.
Hijab is something i have personal struggles with, and Alhamdulillah i have been able to improve and obey some rules of hijab.
may ALLAH(SWT) make it easier and make us better muslims

salam sisters
how do you find time to do ibadah during ramadan, being a worker/student, mother and doing the cooking for iftar and sahur, how do you juggle going for tarawih, reading the quran and doing tahajud.
i think the men finds it easier than us.
personally, i go to work, immediately i get home, i head to the kitchen to cook, break my fast, pray, read the Quran but praying tarawih is a struggle and waking up for tahajud is another.
am sure its tougher for married women, who work and have little children and demanding husbands.
i know its just the beginning and i will adjust to the situation but then how do we still do it.
we women multitask alot.

Salam sisters, Ramadan Kareem.
I'm hoping to use this Ramadan to re-ignite my Imaan and be more commited in my worship of Allah. Can't even remember the last time i woke up at nigjt to observe tahajud . Like a sister said earlier, its not easy to juggle the Ramadan responsibilities with everyday life as a woman. As a studying mother with two small children, Its so much harder for me. I've been constantly talking to Allah about the situation of my Faith and I believe he will increase it this Holy Month (Masha Allah).
I pray Allah ease our affairs and accept our iba'adah this Ramadan. Ma Salam

dominique: Salam sisters, Ramadan Kareem.
I'm hoping to use this Ramadan to re-ignite my Imaan and be more commited in my worship of Allah. Can't even remember the last time i woke up at nigjt to observe tahajud . Like a sister said earlier, its not easy to juggle the Ramadan responsibilities with everyday life as a woman. As a studying mother with two small children, Its so much harder for me. I've been constantly talking to Allah about the situation of my Faith and I believe he will increase it this Holy Month (Masha Allah).
I pray Allah ease our affairs and accept our iba'adah this Ramadan. Ma Salam

salam.
ramadan is a the perfect time to start, may Allah (SWT) make it easier for you (us). masha Allah.

salam alaykum ma'ams. so sorry for intruding, just cant resist it.
as a brother,father,husband and son to u all, i appreciate ds thread and ur discussions. may Allah reward u all esp dose multitaskng in ds holy month.

you r exactly in my shoe except my husband is not demanding but i have 3 kids (age 4- to cater for, 3 bedroom house with 2 stairs, garade and garden to keep clean always.ironing, cooking, cleaning and many more. I find it hard waking up at night for tahjud and I pray ALLAH have mecry on us.

Sissie: salam sisters
how do you find time to do ibadah during ramadan, being a worker/student, mother and doing the cooking for iftar and sahur, how do you juggle going for tarawih, reading the quran and doing tahajud.
i think the men finds it easier than us.
personally, i go to work, immediately i get home, i head to the kitchen to cook, break my fast, pray, read the Quran but praying tarawih is a struggle and waking up for tahajud is another.
am sure its tougher for married women, who work and have little children and demanding husbands.
i know its just the beginning and i will adjust to the situation but then how do we still do it.
we women multitask alot.