ladyconfessor:
facing some life challenges now
I've been withdrawn from school
Bf jilted me
Elder sis hubby making it a must to join his church
Don't even know where to start from.

2014 wasn't that rosy for me ... Pls i need some words of encouragement.

SuperMartins:
Dearie..sm1 shared this post and i got to see ur write-up..
I think u re going through sm tough times but hun,we av people who av far more daring issues than urs and re tryn to fyt and struggle thru even if the thought of ending it all comes to mind..I av issues jxt like every1else who myt also be goin thru alot but tryn to find a way out..abt u leaving sch,it isnt d end of d world sweedie,we av people who re billionaires even wothout going close to any school..am not advising on u not goin but am saying,ur world doesnt totally revolve around school..u can make it really big and even attend d best of schools with time..

Bf jilting u..Trust me,i was jilted by my 1st love and i felt d pain for 4 good years..i saw nothing good in d world anymore but smhw,i found sm1 who made me see that my Ex was even a burden..hun,u gona find a better man dat wuld make u see ur ex as sm1 u even managed to date..pls dnt let d guy win cos u cnt get over him and feeling depressed over his issue..

And abt ur sis husband bothering u abt church issues ,i think u av every right to choose ir mode of worship and how\where u wana worship.. but in dis case,i want to blive u stay with them,so jxt close ur eyes and go with them..maybe after smtime,u can av ur own independence and choose how i wan lead ir religiois life..Take it easy sweethrt,Its gona get better,ok ..
Be good and dnt feel bad anymore or am gona come scare u tonyt..lol

ladyconfessor:
Thanks alot.. You really made my day.

bellong:


Why were you withdrawn from school?

How old are you?

Which church are you currently attending and which church are you being forced to attend?

Do you live with your sister?

ladyconfessor:
Was withdrawn cos i couldn't meet the cut off mark, I'm 24, I attend RCCG, My sis attends Church Of Christ, yes i live with my sis.

bellong:


If your course of study is either medicine or pharmacy, I believe you can still be allowed to transfer to other department. However, you will have to take the bull by the horn, dust yourself and take it as one of the challenges of life one must encounter to get to the promised land. Buy another JAMB form, sit for the exam again and be prepared to best your previous performances. Be determined not to be withdrawn again from school by getting good grades in all your courses. IT IS NOT TOO LATE TO START AGAIN.

You should also strife to get admitted in the course you really want because alternatives sometimes discourage one from being serious with school since it is not what you want. Nevertheless, whatever you get, be filled with positives to get something good out of it.

Forget about the boyfriend that jilted you. There are millions of guys out there better than him. Probably he was one of the reasons for your withdrawal from school as you couldn't concentrate on your studies. Meanwhile, I think your energy this time should be directed at getting back to school and not about guys. You will have enough time for guys. You need to lay a good foundation for your tomorrow by being educated. Free your mind about looking for boyfriend. A good guy will find you out when the time is ripe. Nobody is interested in associating with failure, chase excellence and successful guys will follow bumper to bumper

Since you are still being fed by your sister and her husband, it is wise that you should be following her to their church for the time being. A time will come when you will have liberty and freedom to choose where you want to worship.

Keep only good friends who can help and support you out of the academic issues you have. It is well with you.

ladyconfessor:
Thanks alot.. You really made my day.

ladyconfessor:
Thanks Sir God Bless You... was actually running a PT Program... Thinking of rewriting Jamb

bellong:

^^^ First step to getting solution is talking.

Do you care to talk about it?

BornSad:

Jesus loves me, right? They say he doesn't but somehow, I know he does. I feel it. I communicate with him much more than they think. He's my ONLY friend.

BornSad:


You're now wondering what's wrong with me. I'm hoping you'd guess without I saying it.

bellong:


Do you have an addiction you think you can't get over?

BornSad:


I hate that word, "addiction". I was born this way, believe it or not!

BornSad:


I hate that word, "addiction". I was born this way, believe it or not!

RoyalRoy:


Hmm, I do believe your situation can't be a unique case.

Maybe you should sort out people who have same situation with you.

People who understand your orientation.
They can be of help in guiding you.


Dont ever run away from your challenges, dig your heels in and fight it!!!!

bellong:


I am sorry for using the word. Is there something you wish to change about yourself?

BornSad:


Sorry for sounding harsh, I was not in a good mood yesterday.

Even 'change' is an inappropriate word here. No one can change his sexual orientation. I repeat, no one; not you not me.

Now, you know!

BornSad:


This is a public forum. No one can see me nor touch me so I try to pour it out just the way it comes from my wounded heart. I try to say it all but I get hooked cause I fear rejection. See, I'm like the Chinese white frog, I've come to learn I don't belong. I'm not acceptable; not at home, not in school, not in the church, not at work and definitely not on Nairaland. They see me, they think I'm happy, they call me super smart, the think I'm a high achever and they say, "may my children be like you". Such a curse upon their children. Not their fault, they don't know I am born sad. They don't know I would sacrifice anything, everything just to belong. Just to be acceptable. Just to have real friends. Yeah, I too want to have friends that will call me names, annoy me sometimes and make me smile at other times so that I will have my own story like every other guy out there. But even on Nairaland, no one follows a fugitive. Have you ever considered the feeling of being alone in whole world with no other human around? Scary? Welcome to my world.

I wish I were poor, ugly, dull, anything just to belong! Everyday worse than the previous. And yet peeps here say to me, "change, give your life to Christ". No one, no single person understands and that is more saddening than the condition itself. Even the blind and crippled are better off, people accept and understand them. I'm not depressed, no. But I'm not far from it.

Jesus loves me, right? They say he doesn't but somehow, I know he does. I feel it. I communicate with him much more than they think. He's my ONLY friend.

Lol, now you're bored. Everyone is. I know I've said a lot without saying much. This is how far my courage tonight permits me to go...

zeb04:
I don't mind being your friend
I will call you by your name and still call you "names".
I will annoy you a lot, These one is sure

BornSad:


I AM GAY

zeb04:
even better

Now I know there can't be any sexual tension betwwen us,I am all in.

ifyalways:
Life is hard and most times not fair. Some of us need to step out from our fairytale secured wall/ world and face the REALITY!

I want to commit suicide cos my pastor dad does not support my calling bla bla. C'mon are you Fucking kidding me?

One day at a time BUT please, let's be strong for ourselves. Thinking or threatening suicide at every slight disappointment or setback means you don't even deserve the Oxygen u breath. When life fvcks u up, fight it. Fight and fight till you win.