the issue of women having compund surnames
that is, merging their father's name with that of their husbands

what's ur own view??
as a man: would u mind your wife to still use her maiden name combined with urs
as a woman: would you do so?and why? what if he objects?

it would still be better to have a woman who combines her maiden name with mine, and who is the definition of Kimba's wife in all respects, rather than,

having someone who bears my name, gives me hell at home, making me to daily interceed for deliverance,

IT'S A THING OF CHOICE -CAN C CELEBRITIES DOING IT! IF UR HUBBY DSNT FIND ANY WAHALA WITH IT! DO AM

honey when i got i did not even change my name, more over i never used his (WHAT FOR)

I would still like to keep my maiden name after marriage because of the complexity of changing names on documents and records.Any man would surely understand that.

desiree:

I would still like to keep my maiden name after marriage because of the complexity of changing names on documents and records.Any man would surely understand that.

u cant just conclude like that, well i realy dont know where u r from, but generally, men from my part of the world (Nigeria- Yoruba precisely), except exceptional guys wld understand. cos i personally dont see dat as an excuse (complexity of changing names, ) when u pay dowry uv paid for all including name.

COCO29:

honey when i got i did not even change my name, more over i never used his (WHAT FOR)

well really it really depends on him, happy for u, but i still appreciate the fact that from u use my surname(if i were him).u said what 4??.same it's my culture

i think it has a lot to do with your cultural backgrd. and ur personal opinion.

edatika:

u can't just conclude like that, well i realy don't know where you're from, but generally, men from my part of the world (Nigeria- Yoruba precisely), except exceptional guys would understand. because i personally don't see that as an excuse (complexity of changing names, ) when u pay dowry uv paid for all including name.
well really it really depends on him, happy for u, but i still appreciate the fact that from u use my surname(if i were him).u said what 4??.same it's my culture

i think it has a lot to do with your cultural backgrd. and your personal opinion.

So because a man paid your dowry you must give up your life to him life- meaning livelihood as well. I would bear his name, yes fine (before God and those that care to know) but i will not go into the tedious process of changing my name as it appears on certificates, bank records, National insurance and Health records etc, that is absolutely unnecessary. If I was living in Nigeria that would be another story entirely and besides my Yoruba culture does not stipulate paying the bride price. 

Desiree,
so u are even yoruba,
anyway, like i said it depends on the guy
and mind u, u dont have to change your names on your certificates et al.
just d name u use regularly, put nee, (for example: Mrs Ngozi John (nee James))
that will cater for the records,

u sound like one tough girl, kilode.
u really dont have go do all the tedioous tasks,
maybe u dont even wish to settle down wit a Nigerian (cos u aint in Nigeria) talk less of a yoruba.

edatika:

maybe u don't even wish to settle down wit a Nigerian (because u aint in Nigeria) talk less of a yoruba.

maybe, maybe not!!! it all depends.

even if u settle with a Nigerian, he just might not mind your retaining ur father's name,

but if he was like me,

i would like it but it all depends on what he likes but i don't think getting married means throwing my father's name to the trash so i will like to use both names(husband and my father's name)

HI GUYS,
WATS IN A NAME - ITS JUST A FREAKING IDENTITY.
IF MY WIFEY WANTS TO BEAR HER ANCESTORS NAME FROM HEAVEN/HELL SO BE IT.
IT DOESNT BOTHER ME ONE SHIT.
BUT MY KIDS,
THEY GATCHA BEAR MY NAME FOR AS LONG AS TRHEY REMAIN MY KIDS UNTIL THEY R OF AGE.
IF THEM LIKE THEN MAKE THEM GO BEAR STONE/BUSH/TAYLOR/WWOD/SHIT SEF NA THEM SABI

oKEY oooooooooooo @ TOY

@toy boy


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sure i would like to bear my middle name which happens to be my dad's name cause its so cool. but definitely not my surname cause it would just be to long bearing my dad's name,surname and my husband's name.

it becoming popuplar
Except you have made a name with that surname and you dont just want to drop it like- thats fine.
But the new trend of women that just do it to feel funky- i dont dig it at all.

For me am ready to fling my surname at any time T. I would promote being me not being my father's child.

most women do it her anyway . .some names when combined are nice
others are awkward
but on the whole i don't think i'll combine my maiden name with my husbands name

i have been carrying that maiden name since birth , its time for a change . i am gettin married so i have to drop it ,

exactly

yeh now , papa;s own for long . .

My name is my identity why shld i discard it?, if my hussies surname is Williams
my name is goina be Mrs E.A Anni-Williams, lol nice eh

may be

i think women do this if they have an influential father; esp. if they marry a man that is not well known or out of love for their father. but either way, its alrite so far ur children bear his name.

If my wife wants to keep her maiden name, let her remain unmarried, or better still, go marry her dad! The problem with people of this day is that they want to eat their cakes and still have it! Ain't it madness? That's one of the reasons why most of what they embark upon end up a flop! Sitting on the fence is not allowed in this world! Even the book says it - I will spit you out!

i'd like to take jst my husband's name, but then again, i like my last name,
i'm still thinking about it, still got a long way to go

Any lady can own any property, but i still subscribe to the lady telling d husband, was trust not the basis of their marriage? Dont feel threatened jooo

Not a big deal for a woman to combine her maiden name with her husband's last name. My mom did so, and I am referring to a couple who got married decades ago.

@Jigoo. Good answer. A woman can own properties, but she needs to tell her husband. Without doing so, means trust is lacking in the marriage. Moreoever, any man who embarks on the acquisition of property without consulting his wife is also disrespecting her.

I don't think it's a bad idea.

I will not change ma maiden name after marriage oh,simply 4 d fact dat ma dad's name is very posh-sonding.and i rilly wudnt want to change it to some ogbologbo name.

HAve you considered marrying a guy whose dad's name is very posh-sonding like yours?
that could help

@charla, if your maiden name is so important to you, then give up on marriage!!!

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if i was married to someone of another nationality, i would combine my maiden name to my husband's because i would like my child to remember thier african roots. if its to another african/nigerian man, then i wouldn't make such a deal about combining my maiden name.

Men who make such a big fuss about women combining their maiden name with their husband's name, seem to have an 'insecurity' complex. Guys with intact egos, are not really bothered about it.

Like I overheard a friend saying recently: "She can call herself whatever she likes, but at the end of the day, as long as she is in my bed & in my house doing what needs to be done to keep our family together, I really don't give a hoot."