Ogojohn: Women don make some men women. What are we debating here.? That a man don't have a right to stop her wife from wearing trousers. Na once I go talk am. unless I am not her husband. what are men of nowadays turning to. Jelly beans. I suppose.

MostHigh:



So being asked to stop wearing trousers by your husband will make a girl miserable as you say?

Ever heard of self sacrifice? this should be practiced in every home by both partners for the sake of the marriage and children

Old woman like you talking like a little spoilt child......

Lost your shiny toy and your all miserable

So what do you expect the children to emulate?

SELFISHNESS

I hope not all women are as shallow AND SELF INVOLVED as you

bukatyne:

can't the sacrifice this time be from the man's side?

Ayatullah:

What an evil question you are asking...............when has not wearing trouser become the alternative to fornicating? Yours should be a dirty mind
Why cant you Christian women who take delight in wearing trouser stop this act the Bible frowned at..........a good Christian Lady/Woman will only
emulate MARY, the mother of Jesus. Or who else should be the Christian woman role model? Definitely not the likes of Tonto Dike and other So-called Nollywood or Hollywood stars.

MostHigh:

LWKM true...

Well luckily for me again she didn't life would have been proper boring

That being said regarding life and its ups and downs she has held her own quite well.

Let me try again...

Can you depend on her in times of.....

Is she the kind to adapt to life changes and still come out strong?

The husband in question is asking his wife to adapt to changes he feels are important and has even given her REASON

ARE COUPLES NOT SUPPOSED TO REASON TOGETHER

bukatyne:

Is the husband reasoning with the wife in this case? Or is it only a woman the sacrifices in marriages?

jaydonv: Well, without adopting the superciliousness of a compulsive chauvinist, I think the wife should try and put off her own dogged beliefs in yielding to her spouse. On one hand, wearing of trousers by women is considered a norm where as in another it is a thing associated with opprobrious immorality.

By no measure should this frivolous matter result in incendiary disputation between the couple. It is an issue to be resolved amicably while defenestrating any domestic skirmish into complete oblivion.

Thanks

Adikam: What of if she stop wearin trousers and start wearin mini skirts nko?

soledadd: Wearing of trousers is not a do or die tin. If she has enough love and respect for her husband she should drop it. Its not a big deal. You can get other good and confortable clothes in the market. Before i met my husband i stopped wearing trousers by myself and when i met him he insisted i should wear it cos he likes it. Then i accepted. You dont have to take trivial matters seriously lest they ruin your relationship. Think and act wisely. Those giving you advice may not be there when your home is broken. Its a reality that you must face. Its not like you are single.

bukatyne:

It is women like you who make marriage sound like a bondage. 'She is no longer single, it's a reality she must face.'

It's always good to compare oranges to oranges. Your husband told you before you got married that he loves trousers; the key word is before marriage. He didn't wait until after marriage b/4 shifting the goal post.

Their relationship is already ruined. If the husband loved and respected his wife, he would have told her his feelings on her dressing b/4 they got married.

P.S. You do not have a mind/conviction of your own.

Havana: If the lady in question is a christian, then Bible should be her watchword:

1. 1Cor.7:34 but she that is married cared for the things of the world, how she may pleased her husband. remember that verse also says a man that is married cared for the things of the world, how he may please his wife

2. Eph 5:33b the wife should submit to her husband and the husband should love his wife

3. 1Tim 3:12 Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
The man is bound to rule the entire family well, by correcting whatever needs to be corrected.

A man does not rule his wife except you are telling me that the children are more important

4. 1Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
The wife should accept her husband decision so that his prayer will not be hindered.



This ought to have been finalized in courtship. It is a great lesson to those that are yet to marry. Courtship is not a Tantalizer or Tasty Fried chicken affair, though you can meet there but don't forget to ask the right question. Do not be overpowered with emotion, ask all necessary questions please.
Thank you.

MostHigh:

On the contrary she has spoken her mind clearly.

MostHigh:

Its not the trouser that questions waywardness, although most men will use it as a yardstick

Its the obedience issue

And regarding your future Na only you know your innermost thoughts

But some form of character always simmers to the top

filcast: hello nairalanders,.
I need to advise a friend urgently.He has been married to his wife for about 1 year and recenty requested the wife to stop wearing trouser,except for sport activitiess.His reason is that both their families belong to religious faiths that view a female wearing trouser as immoral.This request however has not gone down well with the wife who has become unhappy and bitter.she faulted the husband for not raising the issue during courtship as she is already used to wearing trousers. Pls advise this young man on how to handle this to save the union some stress.Does my friend have the right to demand this of his wife.

berem: He wants his wife to stop wearing trousers, but he can commit adultery with other women who wear trousers abi?

Op, tell your friend say Bomb dey im head!!

Religious faith my black a$$!

bukatyne:

She spoke her husband's her mind but clearly has no conviction

biolabee:

I dont agree with you on this comment

She is very wise keeping her home together

Too many smart but unwise ladies around.. using their own hands to destroy their own marriage

What use is happiness (getting what you want) without peace (true joy)

bukatyne:

The last I remembered, Marriage is built by both husband and wife. Sacrifice and compromise doesn't come from one party else there will be disappointment and bitterness. A lot of women are so bitter and caustic because all their lives they have sacrificed without getting anything in return.

Happiness is not necessarily getting what you want. Peace doesn't equate true joy either. If I were a slave, I can decide to do my master's bidding for peace to reign but I will never be truly happy

I said she doesn't have conviction because she wore trousers at her fiancée's insistence. I wonder what posters like Acidosis will say. Why did she stop in the first place?

A woman is NOT a zombie to follow her hubby brainlessly. If the hubby asked her to do something wrong, will she do it for peace to reign? Remember Ananias and Sapphira in The Bible. The first person to obey/respect is God.

My major problem is that the hubby was comfortable with it till after marriage. I dislike wicked people like that. He knows the woman is going no where and he starts saying don't do this, don't do that. What will he bring on tomorrow? And the woman keeps changing to satisfy him and when she becomes bitter, he will start complaining that she has changed.