My babe called me two days ago and told me she had been called for an interview for a job as an air hostess for one of these Nigerian Airlines. About 30mins ago she told me she had been contacted by the airline to come for the second interview and subsequently her employment letter. i told her my mind about the job(i'm not in town with her presently), and she just went all moody and unhappy, saying i'm not happy for her.

Left to me I wouldn't have minded, but my fear is that with the recent happenings in the aviation industry and other aspects in the country, i wouldn't want her to be flying around in any unsafe aircraft.
I don't feel comfortable about it at all. Her mom too doesn't like it. Should i hide my fears and let her accept this job or do i tell her not to go for it if she eventually gets it?

i understand u,mennnnnnnnnnn air hostess ke?in all dis naija planes wey dey crash anyhow?may dat job be far from me


anyway just keep praying for her,it will be alright

I think its her decision and you should support her regardless and incase you don't know accident can happen anywhere.

are you afraid she will be seeing hot guys, say the truth?

my ex did that job before ok, depends on the airline, besides she wont fly every day, she could possibly fly once a week, i hope its international flights not local? she will have a lot of time to herself and possibly do other things, personally there isnt anything wrong for me, i know of people who died in plane crash the first day they boarded a flight.
death can meet you in your bed room, i feel your fears go beyond the crash thingy.

Just be happy for her, as you pray 4 her too. it is well.

zheroes:

are you afraid she will be seeing hot guys, say the truth?

I was going to ask the same thing but just thought i should leave it out?

It's not that i don't support her, infact i'm really happy that she's getting so many job interviews here and there. I just don't feel happy about her flying around the country in all these planes of ours. I don't want to lose her to anything.

Besides she has a job right now. She got called yesterday for the interview and she was all elated and happy that she was called again. I told her i don't want her to accept the job and she got angry and hung up on me. Maybe u're right. We are not yet married. it's her decision.

Her reaction might have been based on the way you approached her about the job. No offense but Naija men often have this daddy-ish way of telling their gfs not to do something like, "I forbid you to do it! How dare you do it?". The girl's instinctive reaction will be you, "you forbid wetin? (hiss)" se you get? Try seating her down if you truly love this girl and are worried for her wellbeing and explain to her in a reasonable manner why you are worried about her taking this job. Who knows? She may be thinking you are just making noise because you want to control her or because you think air hostesses are bimbos. If you explain to her it's coming from a place of love and fear for her safety am sure she will understand. Also, suggest and help her find an alternative job-wise because as situation be for Naija she may be seeing this as her only opportunity. Good luck to you both!

Eyah, pele,

It must be very hard 4 u, bt, u jst ave 2 give her d support dat she needs,

mayb she'l come around n cee d light , who knws?

If you are not married, she can tell you to go to hell. Would you abandon a job for her? No.

Seun:

If you are not married, she can tell you to go to hell. Would you abandon a job for her? No.

nawa o, he is just worried for her, try to understand him

the problem is everyone is trying to make her decision for her,
you shd let her be and support her in her decision,
the poor girl is happy about getting such a glamorous job and the only thing she heres from people i show uncomfortable they are with it,
did you congratulate her? the screening process is quite vigorous and you shd be proud that she made it through
be happy for her first and worry about her later!

Sheeesh!!!!

If you can't support your girl's dreams, you don't deserve her.
Life is too short to spend it being held back by people who claim to love you.

Every educated person knows that air travel is safer than road travel.
So what's the problem?

the problem is everyone is trying to make her decision for her,

Exactly.

did you congratulate her? the screening process is quite vigorous and you should be proud that she made it through
be happy for her first and worry about her later!

Please tell him. Teach him.

@seun

how is air travel safer dan road travel?

Hmm, he's only human and cares for the girl so I'm not suprised that that was his first reaction, put yourself in his shoes sha, air travel may be safer than road travel, especially in nigeria, but it still doesn't change the fact that accidents still do happen in the air, I'm not saying she should leave her job but she should understand how he feels

jennykadry:

@seun

how is air travel safer dan road travel?

Yes it is - At least in nigeria 

@seun

how is air travel safer dan road travel?

Lmao. When last have you been to Nigeria?

Most he can do is pray that she is safe everytime she goes to work. That's all

OR if he actually wants to be useful instead of whining, he could help her get a job as such with INTERNATIONAL airlines. Until then, be quiet and be happy for her.

If she sat and did nothing and depended on your for money and stuff, you'd be the first one to be crying on Nairaland.

@d-reloaded

dis year

jennykadry:

@d-reloaded

this year

Talking of naija road accident:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-136096.0.html#msg2286896

jennykadry:
@seun
how is air travel safer dan road travel?

About 7000-10,000 people are reported killed in road accidents each year. See:
http://www.roadsafetynigeria.com/information.html
http://www.nigerianstat.gov.ng/default1.php?recordID2=27%20&recordID3=79

How many people are killed in air crashes on an average year? Sometimes zero.

Your girlfriend is safer as an air hostess than as an executive going to work by road every day. Gbam.

Safety is of the Lord,But one needs to be careful especially the ongoings in Nigeria aviation sector.

@poster
anyway sha, all i can say is prayer works, the Lord be with both of you

For those who did not see what i typed in one of my earlier posts, here it is:-

klassyguy:

It's not that i don't support her, infact i'm really happy that she's getting so many job interviews here and there. I just don't feel happy about her flying around the country in all these planes of ours. I don't want to lose her to anything.

Besides she has a job right now. She got called yesterday for the interview and she was all elated and happy that she was called again. I told her i don't want her to accept the job and she got angry and hung up on me. Maybe u're right. We are not yet married. it's her decision.

She has her own steady income and therefore does not depent wholly on me. Besides i just wanted your views and i'm not whining. It's her decision she took to even go for the interview in the first place, and all i said was that i wasn't comfortable with the job.

@Seun, no pun intended, but u said i do not deserve her. Where were you when all those planes were falling out of the skies some years back? How deserving can one get if you know the level of insecurity in such an industry(besides in the whole country sef), and still someone you luv and care so much about wants to go into the same situation that claimed so many lives sometime ago? How will you feel if it were you? If i was being insensitive about the whole idea, i would have told her from the word GO that she shouldn't even go for the interview. So guy, please be more sensitive and try and understand things well before criticising.

klassyguy:

For those who did not see what i typed in one of my earlier posts, here it is:-

She has her own steady income and therefore does not depent wholly on me. Besides i just wanted your views and i'm not whining. It's her decision she took to even go for the interview in the first place, and all i said was that i wasn't comfortable with the job.

@Seun, no pun intended, but u said i do not deserve her. [b]Where were you when all those planes were falling out of the skies some years back? How deserving can one get if you know the level of insecurity in such an industry(besides in the whole country sef), and still someone you love and care so much about wants to go into the same situation that claimed so many lives sometime ago? How will you feel if it were you? If i was being insensitive about the whole idea, i would have told her from the word GO that she shouldn't even go for the interview. So guy, please be more sensitive and try and understand things well before criticising.[/b]

Hehehe, he was on nairaland

The job she has now, which pays more? Besides maybe she's sick of that one

I understand your concerns but let her be.






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@ poster

what is her course of study? i just hope her job is in line with her course of study even though she is happy with it anyway.

would u have prefered her to be a hostess for ABC transport than BELLVIEW AIRLINE?

would u prefer to keep her at home and pay her stipends?

my opinion is that, the job will change her for good because it deserves a lot of courtesy and neetness etc. just hope you're not afraid she will develop all these. free her and pray 4 her safety kichikwo

@poster
she has the guts to hagng up the phone on you? ha!! watin that one come mean now? watin she dey feel like?

leave her, let her go and marry the plane,

see ma guy she really really Bleep up for hanging fone on you. A whole you!!!! this is very serious

look the next thing i want to hear from you is the you are not dating that girl (i have a feeling she must be very hot)

frank 3.16:

@poster
she has the guts to hagng up the phone on you? ha!! watin that one come mean now? watin she dey feel like?

leave her, let her go and marry the plane,

see ma guy she really really mess up for hanging phone on you. A whole you!!!! this is very serious

look the next thing i want to hear from you is the you are not dating that girl (i have a feeling she must be very hot)

sho! which one be your own? she hang up on u?

clearly she was upset its understandable and definitely 4givable.

@poster- if its what she really wants, i'd advise support her and love her all the same, for a relationship to work, atimes u have to lay certain things on the altar of compromise.

this frank person sounds like a psychopath