biggirloya2:



sir what made you stop from approaching her? i am soo tired of old men now coz most are so married and others i sometimes get scared that i will become a young widow. are my excuses silly?

Excuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuse me! Gal, u seriously need to see a self esteem specialist ASAP!

Dear, i really feel ur pains but d solution lies in own hand.you must know dis dt
1.guys are not only interested beautiful ladies but smtymz dey get convinced with thier action and d way dey carry themselves
2.you nid to blv in urslve never lok down on urself
3.you nid to dress well(not xposing ur body) it tells d kind of person you are.
4.you nid to smell well
5.check ur parent ,are dey big lik you, it might be hereditary,if so,ask ur mum hw she was able to get over it
6.dnt appear too cheap wen a guy approaches you.dnt be too desperate to have dem,take ur tym,dere are fat ppl i knw who are today happily married.Dnt say you are ugly,dere is inner beauty which you possess and odas do not.Everyone have thier own unique xtics and quality
7.pray along(prayer changes things)i'm nt tryin to bring religion into dis but you may find unexpected solution.God is real

biggirloya2:



do big girls find love? is there someone out there who is big and has gotten real love or is this how we big girls are always treated?

Yes. I have seen big girls love and fall in love too.
I have a colleague twice your size(even if I've not seen your photo before, trust me, she's twice ur size), and she seem happy and content about life and what it throws at her.
It all depends on how you carry yourself, chubby one. You are being treated exactly how you'd hope you'd be treated. The colleague I have sees things differently, you should do same too.

biggirloya2: I have a very beautiful body and personality

There are 2 voices in your head, a dual personality stuff. Lady always listen to the better you. You have a beautiful body and believe me there is someone special dying to explore and it. Instead you're wasting time with a 25-year old Whiz kid fan. Dump is butt and only date mature unmarried people. African 'men' (not boyz) like a woman with extra flesh. I do *winks*

biggirloya2: i am just a fat worthless ugly girl who looks older than she is.

Idowuogbo: u? na so life bi? i see u o!

@op

wen u say big, how big? can i see a pic?

Id, no even allow me start with you here. You berra check the records, come back here and then appologise.

Na wa oo. This is a problem?
All i can tell you is that there will never be another you in this life. If you like hide & cower because you are "big", na u sabi.
Maybe you will be slim in the next life cos you seem not to be interested in this present life.

your story is heartbreaking but not new. We have heard so much about ladies loosing self confidence because of one reason or the other. If you can do something about your weight do. Loos it. If you can't get a make over. There are shopps that sell good clothes for different shapes and sizes, work on your confidence. You are a lady , hair should do the trick. your problem can be solved easly

biggirloya2:


i do not have face book sir. my email is biggirl2@gmail.com

av sent u a message.go and check ur inbox

Dearie, u so much luv and appreciate this said guy. But, i can see he is only after sex and the little he gets 4rm u. My advice is that u nd to work on ur self esteem. No looks down on a woman unless the woman gives him the right to do so. Flunt urself and let the world knw that u are as beautiful as u are.
4get about that dude, a guy who would appreciate u will surely come for u.
I wish i have a girl like u, who will appreciate and luv me!
Love is of the heart!

I totally feel your pain. Give him a subtle confrontation... and tell him exactly what you've said here... then see what happens.
Good luck...

biggirloya2: I have always been a big girl. Bigger than my age that is. I have a very beautiful body and personality but a bit too big for my age. I have always been like this. Now i am 26 but you would swear i am 29 or more. Now i have always attracted older men or bad guys and now i finally thought i had met the one. He is turning 25 in August and i am ( for once in my life) the older one in a relationship. I sometimes hate him coz i get the feeling that because i am fat he wants to treat me like a sugar mommy. but i am only 1 year older than him.I am tired of him hurting me. I get the feeling that he has a younger skinnier lover and me i am just the for sex and do him favours. The dude has never invited me to his home or to meet his people but he knows my home and people like hell. When i dump him he declares his undying love for me but when i decide to stay in the relationship he never has time for me and makes me feel as if he is doing me a favor by spending time with me. Will i ever feel good about myself, will i ever be happy like other people, or am i going to be his dirty secret forever? i am scared of ending things compeletly coz i am a coward and i cant stand to one day see him with a better girl coz i am just a fat worthless ugly girl who looks older than she is.Do you feel my pain?

adusco: Dear, i really feel ur pains but d solution lies in own hand.you must know dis dt
1.guys are not only interested beautiful ladies but smtymz dey get convinced with thier action and d way dey carry themselves
2.you nid to blv in urslve never lok down on urself
3.you nid to dress well(not xposing ur body) it tells d kind of person you are.
4.you nid to smell well
5.check ur parent ,are dey big lik you, it might be hereditary,if so,ask ur mum hw she was able to get over it
6.dnt appear too cheap wen a guy approaches you.dnt be too desperate to have dem,take ur tym,dere are fat ppl i knw who are today happily married.Dnt say you are ugly,dere is inner beauty which you possess and odas do not.Everyone have thier own unique xtics and quality
7.pray along(prayer changes things)i'm nt tryin to bring religion into dis but you may find unexpected solution.God is real

thanks a lot sir

Screwface:

Yes. I have seen big girls love and fall in love too.
I have a colleague twice your size(even if I've not seen your photo before, trust me, she's twice ur size), and she seem happy and content about life and what it throws at her.
It all depends on how you carry yourself, chubby one. You are being treated exactly how you'd hope you'd be treated. The colleague I have sees things differently, you should do same too.

i will try

nenergy:

There are 2 voices in your head, a dual personality stuff. Lady always listen to the better you. You have a beautiful body and believe me there is someone special dying to explore and it. Instead you're wasting time with a 25-year old Whiz kid fan. Dump is butt and only date mature unmarried people. African 'men' (not boyz) like a woman with extra flesh. I do *winks*

wow i feel like some heavy weight has been lifted off my chest

utumunta: Na wa oo. This is a problem?
All i can tell you is that there will never be another you in this life. If you like hide & cower because you are "big", na u sabi.
Maybe you will be slim in the next life cos you seem not to be interested in this present life.

somehow what u are saying wants me to wana live more and try make my life happy

ayodeji752: av sent u a message.go and check ur inbox

sir i did check my email but i just got a friend request from another person not you. did you send to biggirloya2@gmail.com

The best way to be happy is by u making urself happy. Stop this self-condemnation. I can bet with u that my cousin will appreciate ur stature.......he loves it BIG!
Just be yourself!!
As for ur 25yrs old guy, let him go if u wont be able to cope with such.

tomnmenace:



Guy, UIZ DAH SHARPEST KID!

@OP, take a pic of urself n upload it. Lets see some pics then we can TRULLY deal with your issue. No pic, no telling!

***..but ehh!! I dey smell big lie creative arrangee for here***

it hurts me that you see my pain as a creative stroy. There is a time when we have to put aside all sorts of suspisions and be sincere to those in need. i really needed to talk about this today.its been eating my all mylife

biggirloya2:


sir i did check my email but i just got a friend request from another person not you. did you send to biggirloya2@gmail.com

it seems mailing isn't working. Watz d oda way dat i can contact u?

Why do i feel lyk this thread is just a way of attracting unnecessary pity?

Pics pls!

SELF ESTEEM AND CONFIDENCE!!!

biggirloya2: I have always been a big girl. Bigger than my age that is. I have a very beautiful body and personality but a bit too big for my age. I have always been like this. Now i am 26 but you would swear i am 29 or more. Now i have always attracted older men or bad guys and now i finally thought i had met the one. He is turning 25 in August and i am ( for once in my life) the older one in a relationship. I sometimes hate him coz i get the feeling that because i am fat he wants to treat me like a sugar mommy. but i am only 1 year older than him.I am tired of him hurting me. I get the feeling that he has a younger skinnier lover and me i am just the for sex and do him favours. The dude has never invited me to his home or to meet his people but he knows my home and people like hell. When i dump him he declares his undying love for me but when i decide to stay in the relationship he never has time for me and makes me feel as if he is doing me a favor by spending time with me. Will i ever feel good about myself, will i ever be happy like other people, or am i going to be his dirty secret forever? i am scared of ending things compeletly coz i am a coward and i cant stand to one day see him with a better girl coz i am just a fat worthless ugly girl who looks older than she is.Do you feel my pain?

Follow your instinct .. He has a skinner girl you dont even know as girlfriend

ayodeji752: it seems mailing isn't working. Watz d oda way dat i can contact u?

no oga i already got the email don't worry. thank you

alutacontinua: Why do i feel lyk this thread is just a way of attracting unnecessary pity?

Pics pls!

will post one now now

biggirloya2:

will post one now now

Don't post any pictures of you if you don't want to... Use your head

nbright: Don't post any pictures of you if you don't want to... Use your head

okay sir i hear but i do not understand what u mean by '' use your head''

this is me.

u look like type i like to date , can i see a side pic

biggirloya2:


well i am not big in a bad way, i am big in a way that makes me look like a mother instead of my age. My biggest pain is men who are always coming my way are soooo old and mostly married ( probarbly they think i am married too looking for a side thing but hell i am not and am looking for the main thing). People who are around the right age for me , run when they see me

That's the irony of life... When you were there age you might have looked down on them.. Now they are just returning the favours... Take it like a big babe..

biggirloya2:

okay sir i hear but i do not understand what u mean by '' use your head''

Forget about that... You've already done that..

nbright: That's the irony of life... When you were there age you might have looked down on them.. Now they are just returning the favours... Take it like a big babe..

that makes no damn sense