Help me pls! am in love with someone whom am not suppose to love. l want to stop this feeling. it kills. pls give honest answer.

The bad news is there is no method to stop LOVING someone.
The good news is you don't love this person in question, it's just a strange feeling you have for the person.

How to stop it- stop being around the person, if that is not feasible, pick on one of the person's inadequacies and magnify it, thereby making you see the person as far from perfect. When you think about the person, that's the only thing you think about.

Thank me later!

lt's been a year now and the feeling is growing each day. we are so close, so it is hard for me to cut off contact with her. Thank you!

Simeoneyituoyo: lt's been a year now and the feeling is growing each day. we are so close, so it is hard for me to cut off contact with her. Thank you!

CUT OFF THE CONTACT!
You'll just keep punishing yourself unnecessarily.

Ok, thanks a lot!

@Op, hope u never nak her akpako??

fredopayee: @Op, hope u never nak her akpako??

what kind of question is dis U want 2 help nak the Apako?

Is he/she married? Is that why you're "not supposed" to love them?

Simeoneyituoyo: Help me pls! am in love with someone whom am not suppose to love. l want to stop this feeling. it kills. pls give honest answer.

Why are you not to love her? why is she forbidden to you?

the reason is that th girl in question is my cousin. l believe now you know my reasons.

Simeoneyituoyo: the reason is that th girl in question is my cousin. l believe now you know my reasons.

Oooo yeah, you need to find someone else

alutacontinua: The bad news is there is no method to stop LOVING someone.
The good news is you don't love this person in question, it's just a strange feeling you have for the person.

How to stop it- stop being around the person, if that is not feasible, pick on one of the person's inadequacies and magnify it, thereby making you see the person as far from perfect. When you think about the person, that's the only thing you think about.

Thank me later!

U baaaaad! Lol.

obyrich: U baaaaad! Lol.

Simeoneyituoyo: the reason is that th girl in question is my cousin. l believe now you know my reasons.

Definately forbidden. You will get over her eventually.

Simeoneyituoyo: Help me pls! am in love with someone whom am not suppose to love. l want to stop this feeling. it kills. pls give honest answer.

Do the things she hates! More trouble, more distance, love dies.

It depends on your religion and tradition. The muslims in northern Nigeria especially the fulani's see nothing wrong in marrying their cousins. I know so many couples who are related by blood in the North. Not that i support it, but whatever works for them. Op i am hoping you are either a muslim or a fulani man so you can date and probably marry this cousin you so much love but if you aint, too bad just let her go.

Don't go there. You just like her enough to protect her. It ain't love perhaps.

In simple terms, it is either you are lusting or you are just sick. Sorry if that sounds like insult.

See a shrink

Get a girlfriend..

l tried all that you guys told me, but l can't stop loving her. l just can't.

Simeoneyituoyo: l tried all that you guys told me, but l can't stop loving her. l just can't.

I think you don't want to.
The feelings is not gonna evaporate in a day, it's a gradual process.
Or you wan make I e-slap your head to reality, you yourself, read wetin you type for your own cousin. U just can't stop loving your own cousin...what arrant rubbish?
Abeg, forget it and park well somewhere jor...SMH!

Person need tell am to stop b4 him go stop? he want comit incent b4 hm stop.Una get time dey advice am.

Just cut off all means of communication and ya gonna be Okay before it gets too late..

Thanks so much for the piece of advice. l will try.

You don't need any advice to stop 'loving' your cousin. You need serious flogging instead! Are you okay?! Abi girls finish for your area?

kokoA: You don't need any advice to stop 'loving' your cousin. You need serious flogging instead! Are you okay?! Abi girls finish for your area?

Lmao.......

@op, are you insane?
Always remind yourself that she's your cousin.
And if you can always bring your GF home.
avoid being alone in her room or yours.

I guess you read on the news headline today how brother and sister died during sex intercourse.....

Let me also correct you, you don't love her, you're just lusting after her punny...plain truth

Film tricks

I loved (obsession describes it better) my primary school classmate for 12 years. (Thats correct, 12!)
And as far as I know, only time and a few other circumstances will stop it.
Its hard, very hard.
You can speed up the process by embracing, new location, endeavors and objectives.

I found this online:

Making yourself stop loving someone is very hard, but it is possible.

Steps

1. Don't email, chat, phone, or even say hi; it will open wounds that you are trying to close. Don't answer calls from them either.
2. Tell him/her that it's over just to be sure so he/she doesn't still ponder on the idea and make a stupid decision to try to undo everything you've done. If he/she broke up with you, then leave it. Give them the time they need for themselves and maybe you can be platonic friends in the future. Usually relationships happen for a reason.
3. Realize that you two weren't meant for each other, so the sooner you give him/her up, the sooner you can find the guy/girl who is.
4. Get rid of all memories of him/her no matter how hard it seems. This will help so much.
5. Know you can do it. Once you've started, just keep on going.
6. Don't close the book, just turn the page; you have many potential soul mates and reminiscing about the past only means you're not happy with your own life, not because you are without a partner.
7. Keep away from all the stuff that will remind you of your ex like stuffed toys, pillows, accessories, pictures, cards, letters, etc.
8. Stop mentioning his or her name!
9. Organize as many things as possible in your social diary. The more you have to occupy you, the less time you'll have to dwell on the past.
10. If you still feel upset about the past relationship, try talking to someone like a friend or a counselor to help along the process of getting over them.
11. Try to meditate to clear your mind of what he/she looks like.
12. Never go anywhere with the person anymore and try to get a new girlfriend/boyfriend.
13. Play games or do things that get your mind off of that person, it might help.
14. If you do decide to be friends after a while, don't hang out one on one, avoid deep conversations or places that held significant meaning for the two of you such as the location of your first kiss.

source:- wikihow

Thank you all so much. Am gradually seeing her as my cousin and not a soulmate. Guess these methods works best.