Please I need an advice. Someone asked me for a view on this matter: His friend who is Fashion designer and a SSCE holder is in a relationship with a lady who will be finishing her Ph.D programme in few months time. The man is asking if he should continue with the relationship or not as the relationship is gradually going to another deeper level. He feels he may not be compatible with the lady latter on due to her academic status and her circle of friends. What advise do you have for him. Thanks

akanbi3: Please I need an advice. Someone asked me for a view on this matter: His friend who is Fashion designer and a SSCE holder is in a relationship with a lady who will be finishing her Ph.D programme in few months time. The man is asking if he should continue with the relationship or not as the relationship is gradually going to another deeper level. He feels he may not be compatible with the lady latter on due to her academic status and her circle of friends. What advise do you have for him. Thanks

@op, nothing bad, if the graduate accepts, no problem, but in this your friend's case, im suspecting fowl play, forgive me if im been to harsh.

things im seeing here are

...........that lady in question might have already be of age, and she thinks "let me quickly grab this one".......ie shes already frustrated and desperate as well, a marriage of frustration and desperation.
............that lady in question might be too proud to submit to a man, especially a man who is almost at the same cadre with her, hence, looking for a man she can "lord" over, a man she can control, a man she can treat like a houseboy, and if this is the case and your friend end up marrying her, he is on a long thing.


However, some women do it without any hidden agenda, most times, some women do it out of prophecy that the man is her ordained husband, and they accept their fate.

Meanwhile, in any of the case, if the man is loving and lovable, confident, has self esteem, ready to upgrade himself academically and can stand on his feet when taking decision, then, he can cope, but i doubt if ALL that type of marriage can last till the end.

That guy is a long throat and the lady is a desperado!!
All the best to them but they both gon have very many issues!!

Nope,nope,nope.

In the Nigerian setting of marriage? No. Please break up now and save yourselves the drama.

Not really practical in Nigeria.University graduates often have a sense of superiority (sometimes rightly so as the mindset of some non-graduates ) that could make someone who is not have inferiority complex.Some graduate Nigerian men can't even stand a woman earning more not to talk of someone who might (I used might cos some graduates ehn ) be intellectually superior.

I wondered sha as a typical naija gal when in the course of a discussion, the then head of Operations in my company told us her husband was a green grocer. .To me it was like the head of technical operations of First Bank being married to someone who sells vegetables in Oyingbo .

akanbi3: Please I need an advice. Someone asked me for a view on this matter: His friend who is Fashion designer and a SSCE holder is in a relationship with a lady who will be finishing her Ph.D programme in few months time. The man is asking if he should continue with the relationship or not as the relationship is gradually going to another deeper level. He feels he may not be compatible with the lady latter on due to her academic status and her circle of friends. What advise do you have for him. Thanks

Not worth the hassle.

Fake story though.

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