Was on fone with my hubby yesterday while my friend was beside me....I was kallin to tell him to hep me get sum soup ingredient from the market since he was around dere...my friend said It's sumhow...obviously her hubby wouldn't do dat for waeva reason....now MEN.....wat are ur views....is it wrong Does it make him less a man?

No

Every relationship is unique

Yes. It makes him less a man. I won't eat for days if my wife did that to me

busolayemi: Was on fone with my hubby yesterday while my friend was beside me....I was kallin to tell him to hep me get sum soup ingredient from the market since he was around dere...my friend said It's sumhow...obviously her hubby wouldn't do dat for waeva reason....now MEN.....wat are ur views....is it wrong Does it make him less a man?

What works for you doesn't necessarily have to work for others. Your man was kind and helpful enough to aid you with your request...and you're here wondering if him helping you out makes him less of a man? Na wa for some women. Questions like these make me wonder if some of you (your type), are built for domestic slave labour.

Your husband is a real man for doing what he did. Don't let your 'friend' sow seeds if doubt in your mind.

I don't see him as less of a man oo. The wife is supposed to be a helper not a maid or slave.

Mynd_44: I don't see him as less of a man oo. The wife is supposed to be a helper not a maid or slave.

Ur siggy is fricky

biolabee:

Ur siggy is fricky

Get used to it

Mynd_44:
Get used to it

The fact that its your siggy or wat it says....

It makes you out as a fatalist

biolabee:

The fact that its your siggy or wat it says....

It makes you out as a fatalist

Get used to the both of them and I am not a fatalist. Stop derailing

Mynd_44:
Get used to the both of them and I am not a fatalist. Stop derailing

That's cool

Your friend should shut her face and stop turning green , jelosiejelosie go kill some people ,

if it'll make you feel better , mine picks up from drug store; my panty liner, sanitary pads and tampons , summers eve douche and feminine wash/ wipes , Canesten , Trojan /Ky lubricants warming sensations .... to list few . Na Wetin?

He will even be on the phone sef. Na Lof

Runs off thread before Mynd catch me Adios Amigo Mynd

Yes it offends 99% of nigerian men in nigeria. What they know best is cross their legs and watch m united while scratching their blokos. Waiting for pounded yam and egusi soup.

busolayemi: Was on fone with my hubby yesterday while my friend was beside me....I was kallin to tell him to hep me get sum soup ingredient from the market since he was around dere...my friend said It's sumhow...obviously her hubby wouldn't do dat for waeva reason....now MEN.....wat are ur views....is it wrong Does it make him less a man?

I feel sorry for your friend already even without knowing her.
Picking groceries/ soup ingredients for food that he's going to eat in make him less of a man ke?
If a man can't help his wife do these kinda basic stuff, who would he help?
Even without asking him to, he should know to pick up stuff he thinks his wife might need if he passes by them on his way home.
All the real men I know do all these things and more for their wives and their d1cks remain in their pants still!

slimyem: I feel sorry for your friend already even without knowing her.
Picking groceries/ soup ingredients for food that he's going to eat in make him less of a man ke?
If a man can't help his wife do these kinda basic stuff, who would he help?
Even without asking him to, he should know to pick up stuff he thinks his wife might need if he passes by them on his way home.
All the real men I know do all these things and more for their wives and their d1cks remain in their pants still!

Most of these men dont do ot because of the women. Imagine a market woman selling these things asking the man what his wife is doing that he had to come himself. Or a scenerio where they will even ask them ti go marry. The society thinking needs to be brought down with bulldozer and rebuilt

Chillisauce:

Most of these men dont do ot because of the women. Imagine a market woman selling these things asking the man what his wife is doing that he had to come himself. Or a scenerio where they will even ask them ti go marry. The society thinking needs to be brought down with bulldozer and rebuilt

I'm not sure market women ask those questions and even if they do, so what?
Can't you just ignore or move on to the next market woman who is less chatty?

slimyem: I'm not sure market women ask those questions and even if they do, so what?
Can't you just ignore or move on to the next market woman who is less chatty?

I had a male colleage like that. Wife works in bank and closes late, while he works offshore and during his time off he does the food stuff. He complains everytime how they keep asking him these questions in the market. But he is the few men still left in Naija with common sense. He ignores, educate, explains but it keeps occuring. Some men might stop doing because of these. Thats where the men and boys are separated.


I weep

U better leave your friend to run her mouth,she doesn't av a say in ur marriage so she shld shift abeg.As long as ur man is ok wt it u dnt av anythng 2 worry abt.

Different stroke! dont ever compare marriages, if your friend's hubby cant do it, its their marriage, there might be some other things her hubby can do that your own hubby cant do. And for you that her hubby is doing it, thank God for your own, but i know for sure that, not everything you want him to do that he will always do, thats the uniqueness in marriages. Lets all be appreciative for what we have.
May God help us all.

Actually....it doesn't boda me...cos a lot of times we go to the market togeda...so even most of those women know him....am suo even if he goes their alone....dey'll know he's jst helping...I rily dnt see anytin wrong with it.....individual things sha

First off, My Lady and I go to the market together. All her regulars know me as well and only ask of her health if I am there without her. Come to think of it, they ask of me whenever she has to go alone too. While I was in Abuja, the Area 2 market seemed to be a "bankers market". It's open till late and you see all sorts of suits with bank pins shopping there both male and female and no one gives a possums behind. I don't know what market woman will ask a man what his wife is doing at home. Never heard it before.

Poster, Please write full words so serious mature people can answer without getting a headache from reading.
Nothing is wrong, your husband was well raised, too many spoilt men running around acting like babies.
Yes Market women do the stare and some ask questions, some assume he is a widower, now they are use to seeing him and he even has teir numbers.
Most times he is free weekends, I am away, He buys the things boils some and keeps for me so when I get back sundays I can make soups and stews. Imagine getting back on sunday from a trip rushing to the market, coming back boiling meat, stew and making over 5 pots of stew.

Chillisauce: Yes it offends 99% of nigerian men in nigeria. What they know best is cross their legs and watch m united while scratching their blokos. Waiting for pounded yam and egusi soup.

How did u come about this stat?

Topic
Most of these our so called friends r out to destroy simply bc they r not enjoyin d same privilege.let's be careful of whom we call friends

There is nothing wrong with what he does.as long as u don't take him for granted.for more than a year now in my house I don't turn semo and the rest.I can tell him to buy anything for me.what is wrong in that? Is he not ur husband again? Pls,relax and enjoy ur man.correct guy,I must say.

Chillisauce:

Most of these men dont do ot because of the women. Imagine a market woman selling these things asking the man what his wife is doing that he had to come himself. Or a scenerio where they will even ask them ti go marry. The society thinking needs to be brought down with bulldozer and rebuilt

R they not poknosin? Their duty is to sell whatever.
Give them d correct answer and they will shut up.nansense.

jidegirl12: Your friend should shut her face and stop turning green , jelosiejelosie go kill some people ,

if it'll make you feel better , mine picks up from drug store; my panty liner, sanitary pads and tampons , summers eve douche and feminine wash/ wipes , Canesten , Trojan /Ky lubricants warming sensations .... to list few . Na Wetin?

He will even be on the phone sef. Na Lof

Runs off thread before Mynd catch me Adios Amigo Mynd

You are blessed to have a husband like that. A lot of men would not. I have single friends who would not even help a girl they are dating pick up something from the store while going to her place and the excuse they give is "it will set a bad precedence"

and I am not pursuing you ooo. You will come by yourself

slimyem: I'm not sure market women ask those questions and even if they do, so what?
Can't you just ignore or move on to the next market woman who is less chatty?

Actually, market women do ask those questions but they don't mean it is a bad way, most of the times, they joke with the man and even advise him on what to buy.

I have noticed that market women are actually more polite to men than women maybe it is out of pity though

Chillisauce: Yes it offends 99% of nigerian men in nigeria. What they know best is cross their legs and watch m united while scratching their blokos. Waiting for pounded yam and egusi soup.

Haha!

You forgot to add: "While nursing a chilled glass of beer for their pot bellies..."

yellowpawpaw:
How did u come about this stat?

Topic
Most of these our so called friends r out to destroy simply bc they r not enjoyin d same privilege.let's be careful of whom we call friends

There is nothing wrong with what he does.as long as u don't take him for granted.for more than a year now in my house I don't turn semo and the rest.I can tell him to buy anything for me.what is wrong in that? Is he not ur husband again? Pls,relax and enjoy ur man.correct guy,I must say.

Go to www.ajuju.gov.ng for the stats.

Efemena_xy:

Haha!

You forgot to add: "While nursing a chilled glass of beer for their pot bellies..."

....orishirishi!

Before a man got married, was he not going to the market as a bachelor? How will he become less of a man suddenly. Madam, If your husband is not complaining and you are not always abusing the advantage, do not let any friend's advice ruin the good relationship you have with your husband.

If she has an arrogant husband at home doesn't mean she should equate him to yours. Going to market does not reduce his manliness. Infact, he is in a better position to understand how you spend the money on groceries in the market. Keep on keeping on, may the Lord continue to bless your home.

bellong: Before a man got married, was he not going to the market as a bachelor? How will he become less of a man suddenly. Madam, If your husband is not complaining and you are not always abusing the advantage, do not let any friend's advice ruin the good relationship you have with your husband.

If she has an arrogant husband at home doesn't mean she should equate him to yours. Going to market does not reduce his manliness. Infact, he is in a better position to understand how you spend the money on groceries in the market. Keep on keeping on, may the Lord continue to bless your home.

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