I'm 21, she's 24! I'm in my 4th year whil she's in her 3rd. we startd out as just friends but now, we just can't do without each other! I love her so much (infact she's d only girl i hav been close to all my life), I kno she luvs me a lot too. We talk about our future together regularly but she doesnt see it workin yet she can't seem to take a walk. She tels me I'm the best thin to ever happen to her (this I kno myself). She tels me we coulda been a perfect couple if we're to be in the age bracket (YES)! One night, I asked her why she luvs me this much, she said she can't help it! Everybdy in d family except dad knew her as my girl (mum even calls her without my knowledge) I understands how she feels about d age thin but I think I should be d one frettin and not her, or what do u think? Lest I forget, we do kiss! She's afraid to commit herself totally because she feels I might later dump her. How can I ever convince her? I need help!!!

Bump up your age!!!!
Start acting 28.

I'm sorry, but do you mind if I ask why she doesn't see "it" working?

Young man face your studies

@ POSTER!
no romance without finance. If you're pocket is empty and you still depends on mimsie and popsie for pockek money, I beg you in the name of God, face your studies! She will break your heart, your pocket and your head

U guyz re not takin me seriously, dis is a mattr of life & death if una no kno, if i leav dis girl, she fit commit suicide, i need help badly

@ Poster

The babe dey pity you. She don reason the waka, look am say na you go loose so she just no wan do wetin go make people talk say she dey wicked small pikin.
and 21 is a young age. just chill hommes and see how things play out. I bet you in a couple of years you'll be singing a different tune.

Ess, read dis piece well! u dont seem to understand it

donkay:

You guys re not takin me seriously, this is a mattr of life & death if una no kno, if i leav this girl, she fit commit suicide, i need help badly

You are 21, dude.

Believe me u know next to nothing to what constitutes life and death.


If I were You, my studies would be the first priority. Rarely do undergrad sweet hearts end up together as life partners in Nigeria. I stand to be corrected.

donkay:

You guys re not takin me seriously, this is a mattr of life & death if una no kno, if i leav this girl, she fit commit suicide, i need help badly

guy carry on with her,the only problem shld be will u be able to live 4ever with some one older than u?? or may wrinkle b4 u?? ask ur self if uve got no probs with that, uve got no probs.

ps;trying being mature around her,well its not as if maturity and age are parallel
show her ur man enuff for her one way or another.

donkay:

Ess, read this piece well! u don't seem to understand it

What's there to understand again??

She does not want to commit, abi?? She has your interest and hers at heart. I doubt your family will consent to your union giving the difference in their ages. you are just 21, a gaullible age if you ask me. You cant tell your left from his right. She prolly just trying to protect herself. She prolly doesnt even see you in the same light. Just give yourself some time, you still have a lot of growing up to do man.
Just cos she says she loves you, dont mean nuttin. I know of a 28 year old chick who ws doing a 23 year old dude, and the boy taught he had found julliet but she always told me that she knows it's not leading anywhere. Get all the experience you can my guy from this chick and get your act togerther.

I'm sure it's you who might kill yourself and not her.

@donkay- i find the fact that she's refuses a committed relationship with u and the idea that she could commit suicide if u leave her ironic!!

for the record, like someone said, its not a matter of life and death. before u were born, relationship were failin and after u go, they it will still be the same. pele.

She says the relationship won't work out because of age difference.

She will commit suicide if you leave her.

SHE needs to make HER mind on what SHE wants.

Ess, maybe u shd just gimme ur email ddress, then we can talk 1-on-1, maybe thr's more i shd tel u guyz,

U are 21, u r in the experimenting stage and yes you will eventually dump her, u are just thinking its life/death situation because she first girl you've been ever close 2. Take your time, enjoy wateva she has to offer now. If she is yours u guys will surely be together.

look just make her drunk and Bleep her, after that juicy time promise her that u will never leave her and start acting like salvador lorenzo. hahahahahahaha Bleep her she will like u and commit herself totolly to you.

"maria Carey and nick canon"
i think everyone here that has a clear knowledge of their age differences,
please tell this dude that he has no problem so long as his pocket is Bulgy and his attitude depicts true maturity,
Guy, take charge, *_{while it lasts}*

wetin dey worrry the girl sef?
she wan tell me say she never FLABAR any guy b4?
all these girls sef, when dem don see one maga ,dem go wan dey form like say dem no no man.
she come dey hold u local with yans say she dey fear to commit herself.kai, why e' no be me??

Guy, notin dey hapen, Pineh this scambo jooooo,
now u are in isreal,make sure u get in2 jerusalem,
but always remember to trunk your cable all the time.

ummmmmmmmm

My guy, there is more to the relationship than what u can see. Sorry to say, the girl's probably using you. I'd advise you enjoy the relationship while it last. You never know, in a few years while she's 27 and you are 24, if you are still together, she would be the one begging for commitment, I mean thats if you are still together,

For now, enjoy it while it last and try not to be distracted from your book. Your future looks promising and I think thats why she dating you in the first place.

full depth:

wetin dey worrry the girl sef?
she wan tell me say she never FLABAR any guy before?
all these girls sef, when them don see one maga ,them go wan dey form like say them no no man.
she come dey hold u local with yans say she dey fear to commit herself.kai, why e' no be me??

Guy, notin dey hapen, Pineh this scambo jooooo,
now u are in isreal,make sure u get in2 jerusalem,
but always remember to trunk your cable all the time.

lol

There is no law that says a man shouldn’t marry a girl older than him.

If you are full convinced that you love her; then what are you waiting for; it mean you’re made for each other; just go ahead and tell her how you feel and if she feel the same way, then rejoice because you’ve found love

You won't because she has decided she won't marry you. Look elsewhere!

You won't because she has decided she won't marry you

You can't be so sure

crazykid:

You can't be so sure

Believe me this woman nor go marry even if she wanted. Abi nor be Naija we dey? Maybe now his parents might accept her, but tomorrow when trouble comes, she'll become the old woman who ripped their son of his freshness!

@poster
You just wanna get in-between her legs.
Yes, you might be crazy about her now but believe me, after enough tryst with her, you will get tired and feel you deserve younger girls.

Please let her be.
There is no future between th both of you.

Being a student, no plans for marriage yet. Abeg give us another gist.

@michelin89

I would agree with you one part; but on the other part, I won’t; if they are meant for each other, then nothing would come between them; we all know that there are usually usps and downs in marriages but how you over come them would depend on the strength of your love and commitment for each other in that marriage.

opokonwa:

@poster
You just want to get in-between her legs.
Yes, you might be crazy about her now but believe me, after enough tryst with her, you will get tired and feel you deserve younger girls.

Please let her be.
There is no future between th both of you.

Being a student, no plans for marriage yet. Abeg give us another gist.

You are very shallow and this makes you post qualified for the most stupid post ever.   Just because you want to get into the panties of older girls doesn't mean other men are like you. Rot in your dirt but be sensible enough not to drag other people with you.  

crazykid:

@michelin89

I would agree with you one part; but on the other part, I won’t; if they are meant for each other, then nothing would come between them; we all know that there are usually usps and downs in marriages but how you over come them would depend on the strength of your love and commitment for each other in that marriage.

I can see you are very optimistic. But you know, sometimes this love of a thing is not enough. There are other factors which determine a successful marriage. Love might be a strong foundation but it can't stand alone!

Love can’t stand alone agreed; but once there is understanding and trust between both parties, then the love would stand.

crazykid:

Love can’t stand alone agreed; but once there is understanding and trust between both parties, then the love would stand.

In this case there is no understanding, because the guy is failing to see and understand why the woman won't accept. It'd be lovely if he could actually get his heart desire but sometime we can't eradicate certain fears in people. Even if she accepts now, will she ever feel confident of herself?

Word

U want to Chop Elders MEAT, u no dey fear ?
Better face ur studies an come out with a good grade b4 u become regular visitor 4 job section