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Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Ngokafor(f): 4:10pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Awwww @crystalballs!!...you sure do sound like a nice guy and a caring husband...*sighs*...I pray your wife comes around soon cos this is a serious issue for married couples any day...compatibility sexwise is really important when choosing a life partner. 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Nobody: 4:11pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Crystal u need God 2 see u through All dis,pls don't cheat on her,just manage her like dat,am hoping dat one day she will loosen up. 3 Likes |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Nobody: 4:19pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
crystalballs: That's the spirit! WoW .... I'm speechless.. You are a good man. I pray for all your heart desires even concerning your marriage , God will perfect all imperfections in your marriage, all your worries shall come to pass .. this holy day IJN . It is well with you and your family and mine too. 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Paterico: 4:31pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Increase the quality and quantity of time you spend with her. And appreciate her a lot. Make her wet her mind so she can adore your sexual moment with and be ready for intimate for you. 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by safeLove(f): 4:42pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
@op, If I married someone I didn't love,I would never initiate love making,I would 'submit' to his sexual advances just to keep the marriage, I would see love making with him as rape thereby crying and feeling sad when we are at it. How does your wife feel about you cos from one of your posts above,you know people marry for different reasons.Is your wife 'truly' in love with you? I think you should find that out,then take it from there? 2 Likes |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Nobody: 5:13pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Op, sorry to say this, but your wife was never in love with you in the first place, neither did she have any s3xual feelings towards you from onset... She probably sees u as a friend, and I bet you sweet talked her into getting married to you... Which is not a bad thing o.... But she's not into you, at all.... Try and be her friend.... Leave out s3x for a period of time and watch how she behaves after a period of no intimacy...if she beckones on you , to make love to her afterwards, then know its sumthing , both of you can talk about... But if she doesn't come close to you say after one year!......my dear, start searching for a second wife.... Bitter truth, but the reality.... Sorry. |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by hrmkz: 5:20pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
safeLove: @op, If I married someone I didn't love,I would never initiate love making,I would 'submit' to his sexual advances just to keep the marriage, I would see love making with him as rape thereby crying and feeling sad when we are at it.Dis ur post na waaa, after 2 kids and expecting the 3rd. So, he should check if she love him or not and send away later abi? 3 Likes |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by greatgod2012(f): 5:22pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Hhhhhhhhmmmmmm! *sighs* Marriage! Marriage! Marriage! Every marriage with it's unique challenge. I can almost swear that, there is no marriage without its unique challenge(s). May God give all of us the grace and power to overcome our marital challenges. For all yet-to-marry peeps............ Never envy anyone's marriage, pray for your own, i mean what you really want in your own marriage, never tell God to make your marriage be like Mr A or Mrs B's marriage, because you never can tell what is happening or the challenge(s) in that person's marriage. May God help us all. @op, it is well, keep on the good work. 2 Likes |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by safeLove(f): 5:28pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
@HRMKZ,I never wrote that he should send her away,pls read again and stop assuming. He needs to get his wife to fall in love with him. Obviously,having 3 kids hasn't made either of them happy,has it? The most important people in a marriage is the couple. They need to start again. Forever is a long time to keep patching things. See what lack of love costing the poor dude. Hope de doesn't take someone's advice of going to UniLag. |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by dasparrow: 5:42pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
crystalballs: I suspect your wife was sexually molested as a child. Nigeria is a country crawling with paedophiles and paedophiles get away with defiling little girls quite often. If your wife was fortunate enough to have been living in the western world, she would have probably skipped marriage altogether because there are many women out there who do not like or enjoy sex. I can imagine it is not easy having someone constantly insert a foreign hard object like an erect male organ into a lady's private part especially if the private organ is too big and bruising the lady's private part. I doubt all that thrusting is even comfortable for many ladies out there. However, since she is unfortunately born and raised a Nigerian and living in Nigerian society where people are forced to get married whether they want it or not or risk getting stigmatized, so she has no choice but cave into societal pressure and get married while living out her days on earth miserably. Poor lady! |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by hrmkz: 5:46pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
safeLove: @HRMKZ,I never wrote that he should send her away,pls read again and stop assuming. He needs to get his wife to fall in love with him. Obviously,having 3 kids hasn't made either of them happy,has it?No hard feelings dear. 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by simdam500(m): 5:55pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
..shebi i answer you anytime you want sex. lolz dat got me laughin... And it also sound like u are d one wantin sex while she's offerin u d sex... Over a month now, no sex and she's not bothered *complicated* 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by dBard: 6:18pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Ngokafor: Awwww @crystalballs!!...you sure do sound like a nice guy and a caring husband...*sighs*...I pray your wife comes around soon cos this is a serious issue for married couples any day...compatibility sexwise is really important when choosing a life partner. True.. Dats y am on d fence wen it comes t d whole 'sex bf marraige' issue. Still kinda an advocate tho 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by deols(f): 6:20pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
what advice can I possibly have? Bad things dont only happen to bad people but to the good ones as well. Remain good please. 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by dBard: 6:28pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
dasparrow: wat stops her from opening up to her husband Especially one that so obviously cares, instead of paying him back f sins he didn't commit. We should stop making excuses f her..she wasn't forced into d marraige. Whateva it is..sexual dissatisfaction, psychological hang ups..wateva, Communicate it. I can bet d marraige counselling wont do naught unless she is a willing partner, which so far, going by d o.ps posts, she ain't. Don't u ladies ve an idea how frustrating a month of sexual coldness can be talkless of 3 yrs She Has To Show the willingness t work on d problem.. Sorry but I dey vex |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Nobody: 8:03pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
i always say if your girl cant fvkc due to seeing her period, pregnancy or whatever, just tell her to lay down........... and open her mouth. |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by ireneidiva(f): 8:39pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
She just does not love you. Stop trying so hard. This is so sad. |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by crystalballs: 8:47pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Hmmmmm. Am grateful to you all. Really I got really tired of the situation and needed to purge myself. 2 Likes |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Nobody: 8:53pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
crystalballs: Hmmmmm. You do well. Now work on those reasonable given advices and see what happens then go from there... after-all when you see a marriage councillor you'll be given exercise work on for progress assessment. I wish you well 2 Likes |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by baggy4luv(m): 9:05pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
she has something weighty on her mind,,you need to stir the deep waters to get answers.... may be she is guilty of something.... think of what you can do to get response from her very few people have the gift of discerning whats going on in a woman's mind...goodu luck 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Sissie(f): 9:19pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
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Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by hob200: 9:23pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Hummm, I have read thru ur post and all the replies and I am ordinarily not the writing type, but i felt a need to reply to your post, Pls from experience I know blackmail works, Try blackmailing her and working on her physic and emotions. eg say something like how she is pushing you out of the marriage with her attitude, how u really are worried for her sake, how if there is a problem she can confide in you cause you are her friend and will keep it sacred, how if there is need for her to seek help you will be there all thru... you really need to find a way to make her talk, silence is not the solution she has to TALK, note the capital letter, you have to make her talk that is the only way you can know what is the problem. also counselling can only work when both parties accept to it and are willing to talk and seek a solution. I wish you well. Finally can you drag her to nairaland let her read this post, she will know you care and may be willing to tell you what the problem is after that. really try it and u may be surprised the outcome. Good luck 4 Likes |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Isiterere(m): 9:30pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
crystalballs: Seems you marry the wrong 1(my 1cent though) |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Isiterere(m): 9:31pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
safeLove: @op, If I married someone I didn't love,I would never initiate love making,I would 'submit' to his sexual advances just to keep the marriage, I would see love making with him as rape thereby crying and feeling sad when we are at it. You actually took this from my mouth . #Gbammest |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Isiterere(m): 9:32pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Amelian: Op, sorry to say this, but your wife was never in love with you in the first place, neither did she have any s3xual feelings towards you from onset... She probably sees u as a friend, and I bet you sweet talked her into getting married to you... Which is not a bad thing o.... But she's not into you, at all.... Try and be her friend.... Leave out s3x for a period of time and watch how she behaves after a period of no intimacy...if she beckones on you , to make love to her afterwards, then know its sumthing , both of you can talk about... But if she doesn't come close to you say after one year!......my dear, start searching for a second wife.... Bitter truth, but the reality.... It is the truth though hard to accept . |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Isiterere(m): 9:45pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
@OP pls send a link of this post to your wife ; I bet it with you that she will speak up cos I don't accept the idea of counselor, but if she refuse; she may never open up till thy kingdom come . Your kind of a man is rare this days. I just pray your marital challenges come to an end very soon. 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by dahmie2013: 10:04pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
@OP, I like ur spirit. But its rada unfortunate ur wife doesn't know ur worth. Pls don't give up, well done! 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by busar(m): 10:32pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
I think what you should do now is to invite her relatives since talking to her yourself proves abortive. Inform them(may be her father, mother etc) of what's going on, she might open up to them. I love seeing couples and I love marriage. |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Ngokafor(f): 10:54pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
dBard:My dear,am not an advocate as such but i personally indulge in it regularly with my fiance..i feel slighly guilty as a xtian but with the kind of man i have...abstaining is not an option for him and am not ashamed to admit i enjoy every minute of it n am so glad he cajoled the life out me initially...*shamefaced*....God please forgive meooo! |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Ngokafor(f): 11:14pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
@crystalballs i understand your frustrations cos i know how important sex is to a normal red-blooded male.I feel really sorry for you at the moment cos you clearly sound like a good guy who is almost at his wits end right now....i feel sorry for your wife as well cos am sure it's no tea-party for her as well....kai i dont even know what to say anymore honestly!!!!... but May God bless you and help you with a solution soon.Amen! 1 Like |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by dBard: 11:26pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Ngokafor: My dear,am not an advocate as such but i personally indulge in it regularly with my fiance..i feel slighly guilty as a xtian but with the kind of man i have...abstaining is not an option for him and am not ashamed to admit i enjoy every minute of it n am so glad he cajoled the life out me initially...*shamefaced*....God please forgive meooo! chei..u r finished Ride on..**tongue in cheek * |
Re: Am Scared To Touch My Wife. by Nobody: 11:27pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
Never marry a no testing |
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