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How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by lostgirl85(f): 4:48pm On Sep 05, 2013
Hey there,
It's me again smiley looking for some advice as always. So I am curious how long after dating a nigerian man should I be worried if I have not met his mother? (If you need more details just let me know so I can clarify)

Thanks in advance xoxo
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by Danhumprey: 6:59pm On Sep 05, 2013
Keep waiting still when you grow old. Only then would you understand the significant of meeting his parents earlier. I don't know why some ladies don't use their brain well.
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by Gudintent: 7:05pm On Sep 05, 2013
Depends.
The guy won't take every date home, imagine introducing every girl he beds to mum shocked

So the question is how serious is he about you?
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by lostgirl85(f): 10:24pm On Sep 05, 2013
Gudintent: Depends.
The guy won't take every date home, imagine introducing every girl he beds to mum shocked

So the question is how serious is he about you?


It's a mutual understanding that we are in a serious committed relationship
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by lostgirl85(f): 10:24pm On Sep 05, 2013
Danhumprey: Keep waiting still when you grow old. Only then would you understand the significant of meeting his parents earlier. I don't know why some ladies don't use their brain well.



How was that helpful?? Either help or shut up

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Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by deshclones(m): 6:29am On Sep 06, 2013
lostgirl85: Hey there,
It's me again smiley looking for some advice as always. So I am curious how long after dating a nigerian man should I be worried if I have not met his mother? (If you need more details just let me know so I can clarify)

Thanks in advance xoxo

It depends....esp if the guy in question is very serious with you...I tOok ma gal home when I was still asking her out sef...looked her in the eye in the eye in the prescence of ma parents and introduced her as the woman I wanted to marry...d reception was wow...she agreed some weeks later..so it depends dear.!
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by Monicasque(f): 6:56am On Sep 06, 2013
not every guy who takes u home will marry u sweetheart. Some guys even introduce everyone. Just ask how long will u wait till he gives u his name

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Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by Mynd44: 8:21am On Sep 06, 2013
There is not time frame but personally, I believe 6 months is enough (that's if you both agree that you are in a serious long term relationship that is headed somewhere)

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Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by lostgirl85(f): 8:30am On Sep 06, 2013
deshclones:

It depends....esp if the guy in question is very serious with you...I tOok ma gal home when I was still asking her out sef...looked her in the eye in the eye in the prescence of ma parents and introduced her as the woman I wanted to marry...d reception was wow...she agreed some weeks later..so it depends dear.!



Awwwww that sounds absolutely romantic kiss I'm a sucker for romance stories. Wish you all the best

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Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by lostgirl85(f): 8:34am On Sep 06, 2013
Monicasque: not every guy who takes u home will marry u sweetheart. Some guys even introduce everyone. Just ask how long will u wait till he gives u his name



I am not Nigerian so in we actually talked about how different our cultures were in the dating part of our relationship. Long story short, he made it know that he doesn't just introduce any woman to his mother only 1 woman has met her before. He also said that if I meet his mum the marriage is not too far ahead and he will want our family's to meet. I was just looking for a generalisation of when that would be because where I come from is so small that if a date a man and tell my mum his last name her or my dad know their parents. So it's not a big deal to meat a mans mother. But thanks anyway for your input grin
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by lostgirl85(f): 8:37am On Sep 06, 2013
Mynd_44: There is not time frame but personally, I believe 6 months is enough (that's if you both agree that you are in a serious long term relationship that is headed somewhere)



You hit the nail right on the head. I thought that was appropriate timing but I know I can be so pushy at times. I will keep a mental note and in a few more months find out what's going in if I have not met the woman that gave birth to such a wonderful man.
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by Monicasque(f): 12:38pm On Sep 06, 2013
lostgirl85:



I am not Nigerian so in we actually talked about how different our cultures were in the dating part of our relationship. Long story short, he made it know that he doesn't just introduce any woman to his mother only 1 woman has met her before. He also said that if I meet his mum the marriage is not too far ahead and he will want our family's to meet. I was just looking for a generalisation of when that would be because where I come from is so small that if a date a man and tell my mum his last name her or my dad know their parents. So it's not a big deal to meat a mans mother. But thanks anyway for your input grin


AND what happens if u meet the parents and they dont like u and they do everything in their power to keep him from u. rather be joyful if u meet the parent after brideprice my friend that way u know 4 sho he yos
 
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by True2myself24(f): 12:45pm On Sep 06, 2013
lostgirl85:



You hit the nail right on the head. I thought that was appropriate timing but I know I can be so pushy at times. I will keep a mental note and in a few more months find out what's going in if I have not met the woman that gave birth to such a wonderful man.

I don't think you can really put an exact number on it because what works for one may not work for the other. I'd say when you both feel you're ready to get married and you have both agreed it will be soon, then it wouldn't hurt meeting each other's parents.
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by Nobody: 2:54pm On Sep 06, 2013
Ahah cheesy you again? That was pretty quick haha. And homegirls be crying, searching,stepping into 40's without a man.

Anyway! I don't take no female to my parents unless I'm truly and honestly serious with her cuz my mom is too nice and welcoming to my liking. Just to avoid questions like where is she and what happened and blah blah and blah. I used to do that within 8months -1yr until I noticed that I actually hurt 2 people whenever I end a relationship "my mom and my partner lol"

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Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by deshclones(m): 3:27pm On Sep 06, 2013
REALITY101: Ahah cheesy you again? That was pretty quick haha. And homegirls be crying, searching,stepping into 40's without a man.

Anyway! I don't take no female to my parents unless I'm truly and honestly serious with her cuz my mom is too nice and welcoming to my liking. Just to avoid questions like where is she and what happened and blah blah and blah. I used to do that within 8months -1yr until I noticed that I actually hurt 2 people whenever I end a relationship "my mom and my partner lol"

You referring to cork??....damn you guys are so in love...go get a room...
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by Nobody: 4:30pm On Sep 06, 2013
deshclones:

You referring to cork??....damn you guys are so in love...go get a room...

Your mom cured her STDS already?
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by deshclones(m): 1:46pm On Sep 07, 2013
REALITY101:

My mom cured her STDS already,so i will continue nyashing her till cork recuperates from his backdoor injuries.



Fixed batty boy
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by UyiIredia(m): 5:59pm On Sep 07, 2013
Mynd_44: There is not time frame but personally, I believe 6 months is enough (that's if you both agree that you are in a serious long term relationship that is headed somewhere)

Agreed.

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Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by lostgirl85(f): 6:41pm On Sep 07, 2013
Monicasque:


AND what happens if u meet the parents and they dont like u and they do everything in their power to keep him from u. rather be joyful if u meet the parent after brideprice my friend that way u know 4 sho he yos


Oh no everybody loves me smileylol but okay what is a bride price??
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by lostgirl85(f): 6:43pm On Sep 07, 2013
REALITY101: Ahah cheesy you again? That was pretty quick haha. And homegirls be crying, searching,stepping into 40's without a man.

Anyway! I don't take no female to my parents unless I'm truly and honestly serious with her cuz my mom is too nice and welcoming to my liking. Just to avoid questions like where is she and what happened and blah blah and blah. I used to do that within 8months -1yr until I noticed that I actually hurt 2 people whenever I end a relationship "my mom and my partner lol"


Okay..... Thanks as always and I don't waste anytime would hate to wast a year on a man that is playing games with me. Maybe I should keep my options open I swear I am too faithful
Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by Nobody: 7:45pm On Sep 07, 2013
lostgirl85:


Okay..... Thanks as always and I don't waste anytime would hate to wast a year on a man that is playing games with me. Maybe I should keep my options open I swear I am too faithful

You welcome....Good Luck and be careful. I'm pretty sure only 6 out of 40 Nigerian men wants to settle with a foreigner for good "especially those born and raise in Nigeria" and that 6/40 are in UK here in the United States hmm lets say 2 and that 6/10 in the UK gotta be from Yoruba tribe. What tribe is he?

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Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by Nobody: 7:55pm On Sep 07, 2013
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Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by Gudintent: 2:01pm On Sep 15, 2013
lostgirl85:


Long story short, he made it know that he doesn't just introduce any woman to his mother only 1 woman has met her before. He also said that if I meet his mum the marriage is not too far ahead and he will want our family's to meet.

^^ that right there says to me he is NOT ready to take you anywhere. Before progressing on to mum, have you met any of his siblings? Cousins? Or even close friends?

One step at a time mami. If you have a mutual understanding and you are both committed to it then you don't have to stress. It will happen in His time. This thing can't be hurried wink

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Re: How Long Should I Wait To Meet His Parents by 9jagobetta: 6:38pm On Sep 06
many things u need to consider b4 u start thinking of seeing his mama, u will actually start the relationship with ur head, clear and sure u are save, b4 u bring in ur heart into it and every other good things will start falling in naturally. seeing his mama does not guarantee anything good, for it might even sour the whole thing if u have not perfectly won ur man already, who might have to fight ur course if seeing her turn out to spell doom for u. if u are a believer pray and apply faith; for its all a black market.

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