Learning how to hold your temper in a fight isn't easy at all.And when you're done lashing out, you realise later that maybe you should have been calm and composed instead of throwing your temper on the person- be it your loved one, family e.t.c.
But here are a couple of tricks that will save you the trouble of being guilty after a fight.

Put yourself in the other's shoes
The best way to control your temper is by
trading places with the other person- the
one who is on the recieving end of your
fury.Think about what he/she must be
feeling while you are yelling or screaming
at them.This will help you control your
anger immediately and calm you down.

Is it worth your anger
Think about the problem that is making you so hyper.Is it really worth so much aggression? Think about the issue calmly whether it is worth all this madness that you are into.If the anwer is no, then put your energy into something else.Honestly, half of the fights most of us get into do not deserve that much energy and madness.

Talk about it
When you communicate about your problems to your loved ones or your family, half of the trouble is over, then and there.Talking about your expectations and what is hurting you can save up on unnecessary trouble.This saves up on a lot of time and will not sap your energy out of you for nothing.

Take deep breaths
Deep breathing will ease your mind and will help you think better about your problems.Just a couple of deep breaths and you will realise what exactly you've been trying to fight and why you are so angry.This one will save you from blowing up every time.

Walk away
The best and the last resort any fights, is to walk away from the problem.If you think that you are not in the condition to talk about the issue with your partner or your family, then just walk away from it.When you are okay, and on the right frame of mind to deal on the problem again, talk about it then.
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Easier said than done.

Some people just 'snap' if you know what I mean.

I only hold my temper AFTER THE FACT!
You go hearrrrrrrrrrrram!
Simple!

MY FAMILY AND MEN LOVE ME JUST LIKE THAT!

No shakinnngggg! At least no pretence. . . or BACK-STABBING HOLY NWENJE CHRISTIAN LOVE. . . YOU WILL KNOW WHEN I WANNO KILL YA AZZZE. . . WITH A LONG NOTICE, so you can defend ya azzzze!

Unlike the religious HYPOCRITES. . .looking for IMAGINARY chemical-weapons of 'mass-destruction' TO LOVE THEIR H-ENEMIES as themselves!

LIKE OBAMA AKA BLACK MAN IN GEORGE BUSH-MAN SKIN!

Nice. Buh I dont fight.

I don't get angry!

Have some more sex....

adrainuche: Have some more sex....

...and much more sex.

easier said than done.

The only thing i do is to walk away for @least 1hr

Calculate:::
Look at the opponent,consider his size,consider the muscles..
If what you saw made you 'shiver',then my brother,walk-away.. I repeat 'walk-away'...
..
All izz well!

wellmax: I don't get angry!

then u are nt human

but dis dude dont get angry easily..nd by d way.its good 2 be on d ist page

Kslib: Calculate:::
Look at the opponent,consider his size,consider the muscles..
If what you saw made you 'shiver' ,then my brother,walk-away
..
All izz well!

U were doin just fine wen u started d post wit present tense then u switched over to past tense
U shud av continued thus
if what you see makes you shiver
..
All izz well!

adrainuche: Have some more sex....

Lesson, don't use sex to solve problems

alex1612: If you can't control your temper, the Bible liken you as a fool. if you have control over your temper, You are helping yourself, in so many ways you can't understand or explain sometimes

i pity u

Tanx for dis. I have serious anger issues nd I need help wish I could attend anger management class cos its getting worse

anger is carried out inadvertently...its usually very difficult 2 think b4 acting wen angry...4 me even wen i walked away,i wil stil make sure i fight u wen next we meet on d street...

Actually, The real best way is just to ignore, and walk away..
Gentility ain't Stupidity.

A big laugh can help!

Anger? It has been long I experience that

Do I get angry?. Not sure. *Thinking*

Its not easy OP,Especially puttting your self in the person's shoes. Person wey ready to kill you, u go dey give am consideration?

But the again, Its also better to let it all out, Than to keep everything bottled up inside.. Thats lethal.

GudluckIBB: Its not easy OP,Especially puttting your self in the person's shoes. Person wey ready to kill you, u go dey give am consideration?

crap

Thank you op

I was exposed to cellular radiation when I was younger, now whenever I get angry, I smash cellular phones. I have been through so many phones, and the docs say there's no cure. Just yesterday's I used my phone to stone one hediot that bashed my car. I believe I can manage my condition now with the steps you outlined.

Kanwulia: I only hold my temper AFTER THE FACT!
You go hearrrrrrrrrrrram!
Simple!

MY FAMILY AND MEN LOVE ME JUST LIKE THAT!

No shakinnngggg! At least no pretence. . . or BACK-STABBING HOLY NWENJE CHRISTIAN LOVE. . . YOU WILL KNOW WHEN I WANNO KILL YA AZZZE. . . WITH A LONG NOTICE, so you can defend ya azzzze!

Unlike the religious HYPOCRITES. . .looking for IMAGINARY chemical-weapons of 'mass-destruction' TO LOVE THEIR H-ENEMIES as themselves!

LIKE OBAMA AKA BLACK MAN IN GEORGE BUSH-MAN SKIN!

this comment is inspired by w*e*e*d

Walk away, go listen to your favourite music...but my personal preference, transfer your aggression on to the one who's trying to make you loose it. Do this by deliberately doing or saying something you know will make them feel bad, then you will feel so much better.

Word to all those with temper tantrums and anger issues; know that no matter how much craze you feel you got, there's always someone out there with a lot more of it. Don't pick a fight with a kid or woman because they're weaker, it might just be your worst mistake.

Kingsley Jay:
U were doin just fine wen u started d post wit present tense then u switched over to past tense
U shud av continued thus
if what you see makes you shiver
..
All izz well!

I believe he's right. "If" most times is followed by a verb in its past tense.

Aint gat no anger issues,cux if u Bleep up....u go hear am hot hot[color=#006600][/color]

i love No. 5 so much