carefreewannabe: From my experience: To be ignored out of anger CAN be worse than to be yelled at.

Bunchers stab: dis 1 don change guys tire

Mz Vox: Dunno wia 2 start frm bt I gat 2 start frm somewia, my Fiance is such a guy that talks a lot, any course of misunderstandin btwn us, he starts yellin, d nxt fin I see him is reportin me 2 factually every member of my family, and even went 2 d extent of leakin out my secret 2 ma mum in which I neva expected frm him... But he later comes bck apologisin.. His behaviours always startles me, wat amai gonna do abt it pls?

Blackgold09: ogar marry dat ur babe na

simdam500: Would just sit, stare and watch u yell

Mz Vox: Dunno wia 2 start frm bt I gat 2 start frm somewia, my Fiance is such a guy that talks a lot, any course of misunderstandin btwn us, he starts yellin, d nxt fin I see him is reportin me 2 factually every member of my family, and even went 2 d extent of leakin out my secret 2 ma mum in which I neva expected frm him... But he later comes bck apologisin.. His behaviours always startles me, wat amai gonna do abt it pls?

ifyalways: Nowadays,I sit and reflect honestly first then apologize. I try to analyze "what went wrong, how we could have resolved it and how to avoid same scenario from repeating itself" .
Afterwards,I go to my man on bended knees,stark naked, hail him, massage his isi nkwocha, tell him we both behaved like kids,bring up my already thought out "better conflict resolution" plans then end it with correct kpekus.

There and then,all sins are forgotten and forgiven.

soledadd: Couples differ in ways of settling quarrels. And its better one finds a way suitable for ones spouse so that issues may not escalat. My own i think may be different. And if applied by another may not work but it has been workng for us. Initially i usually appologise, but hubby sees it as if because i find it easy to render appology it makes me to always be misbehaving then if i appologise it does'nt seem to go down well with him. Again in our case there is nothing like one partner shouting to the other, because if i shout he would shout back and if he shouts i will fire back immediately saying everything i need to say before it becomes too late. At the end we would have quarrelled. No matter what after that we give ourselves some space for one or two hours. Then we would forget everyting and start conversing again as if nothing happened. After the quarrel, from what we voiced out each person will make amendment towards the others grieviances and we move on. No appologies no regrets from any side and no one is expecting appology. Its from quarelling that we reshape our behaviours to suit ourselves.

bebe2:

hahaha, na wa o, some men have it good,

and me go keep malice for 3days all the please and petting will go on deaf ears.

i fit try ur system o, but i bet my hubby will think its a trap

Mz Vox: Dunno wia 2 start frm bt I gat 2 start frm somewia, my Fiance is such a guy that talks a lot, any course of misunderstandin btwn us, he starts yellin, d nxt fin I see him is reportin me 2 factually every member of my family, and even went 2 d extent of leakin out my secret 2 ma mum in which I neva expected frm him... But he later comes bck apologisin.. His behaviours always startles me, wat amai gonna do abt it pls?

yellowpawpaw:


Dear, its in u. If u want to curb pride and quick temper,u can do it. Nobody was born with such. Its the environment we find ourselves in that moulded us to what we r and we accepted that as normal.
Look at those around u, like beget like.
Eg nl family section, if u hv d time check out various posters and whom they attract.
Having a r/ship with someone that is like u will worsen it. U need d opposite.
Involve urself into humanitarian work.
It humbles pple. One of my friend is very very proud with sassy mouth. She wouldn't allow u to even talk. I quietly withdrew myself.
Also learn how to walk away. It might be rude but its better to walk away than spew rubbish from ur mouth.
Practice with nairaland if u hv d time. It might look funny but this is one training ground for many. Eg, ur post might attract negative comments. Out of anger u might want to lash out. After typing, pause and read then delete or leave d typed whatever and go,come back later and delete it. U will feel so happy within.
As u r advising somebody, u r equally advising urself in any post. it gives joy and makes u want to improve more unknowingly.
Check ur background and know if there r some diggin to do.
At times its good to deny ourselves some certain things u know.humbles us.
Look at life differently.
I made friends with d elderly and wise ones. Learnt a lot from them.
In ur r/ship, always look out for the other party. If u feel tensed up about something,don't wait,u can ping d person,then talk about it later.
Always know that we r very imperfect including u.
Take each day as it comes. No too much expectations from anybody.
And on and on........


I don't even know if I make sense.
(Muah)

yellowpawpaw:


Dear, its in u. If u want to curb pride and quick temper,u can do it. Nobody was born with such. Its the environment we find ourselves in that moulded us to what we r and we accepted that as normal.
Look at those around u, like beget like.
Eg nl family section, if u hv d time check out various posters and whom they attract.
Having a r/ship with someone that is like u will worsen it. U need d opposite.
Involve urself into humanitarian work.
It humbles pple. One of my friend is very very proud with sassy mouth. She wouldn't allow u to even talk. I quietly withdrew myself.
Also learn how to walk away. It might be rude but its better to walk away than spew rubbish from ur mouth.
Practice with nairaland if u hv d time. It might look funny but this is one training ground for many. Eg, ur post might attract negative comments. Out of anger u might want to lash out. After typing, pause and read then delete or leave d typed whatever and go,come back later and delete it. U will feel so happy within.
As u r advising somebody, u r equally advising urself in any post. it gives joy and makes u want to improve more unknowingly.
Check ur background and know if there r some diggin to do.
At times its good to deny ourselves some certain things u know.humbles us.
Look at life differently.
I made friends with d elderly and wise ones. Learnt a lot from them.
In ur r/ship, always look out for the other party. If u feel tensed up about something,don't wait,u can ping d person,then talk about it later.
Always know that we r very imperfect including u.
Take each day as it comes. No too much expectations from anybody.
And on and on........


I don't even know if I make sense.
(Muah)

ifyalways: Nowadays,I sit and reflect honestly first then apologize. I try to analyze "what went wrong, how we could have resolved it and how to avoid same scenario from repeating itself" .
Afterwards,I go to my man on bended knees,stark naked, hail him, massage his isi nkwocha, tell him we both behaved like kids,bring up my already thought out "better conflict resolution" plans then end it with correct kpekus.

There and then,all sins are forgotten and forgiven.

Mz Vox: Dunno wia 2 start frm bt I gat 2 start frm somewia, my Fiance is such a guy that talks a lot, any course of misunderstandin btwn us, he starts yellin, d nxt fin I see him is reportin me 2 factually every member of my family, and even went 2 d extent of leakin out my secret 2 ma mum in which I neva expected frm him... But he later comes bck apologisin.. His behaviours always startles me, wat amai gonna do abt it pls?

Mz Vox: Dunno wia 2 start frm bt I gat 2 start frm somewia, my Fiance is such a guy that talks a lot, any course of misunderstandin btwn us, he starts yellin, d nxt fin I see him is reportin me 2 factually every member of my family, and even went 2 d extent of leakin out my secret 2 ma mum in which I neva expected frm him... But he later comes bck apologisin.. His behaviours always startles me, wat amai gonna do abt it pls?