While i was dating her, i noticed some changes in her actions. She doesn't want me to touch her phone again, but i do play games, watch movies, make calls on her phone (cos na me buy d card) before.
I had to employed some tactics to get her phone. I checked her inbox and was able to to find out that she's been dating another guy.
She apologised and told me that the relationship was just a week old and that her mum is in support of it. We settled it in a mature manner and she promised me not to date the guy, but there was this cold communication' between us.
To cut the story short, I forgot her birthday( though i opologizd) and 2months later, she forgot mine too. Tit 4 tat, i guess?
She stopped picking my calls and won't borther to reply my msg...though she do cme around at some times.
I started making new frds, declined contacting her, eliminated her from my life. It was tough though, but we never spoke from that day I broke up with her until yesterday around 11pm when she called me with a strange number.
She sent me a msg this morning and also droped a msg on my whatsapp telling me that she "still cares"
I know she's been stalking me, casually viewing all my happy status update and pix on internet.
I don't want to go back to her because things will still remain the same and i don't want to get hurt again.
Please, how should i handle her?

Guseh: While i was dating her, i noticed some changes in her actions. She doesn't want me to touch her phone again, but i do play games, watch movies, make calls on her phone (cos na me buy d card) before.
I had to employed some tactics to get her phone. I checked her inbox and was able to to find out that she's been dating another guy.
She apologised and told me that the relationship was just a week old and that her mum is in support of it. We settled it in a mature manner and she promised me not to date the guy, but there was this cold communication' between us.
To cut the story short, I forgot her birthday( though i opologizd) and 2months later, she forgot mine too. Tit 4 tat, i guess?
She stopped picking my calls and won't borther to reply my msg...though she do cme around at some times.
I started making new frds, declined contacting her, eliminated her from my life. It was tough though, but we never spoke from that day I broke up with her until yesterday around 11pm when she called me with a strange number.
She sent me a msg this morning and also droped a msg on my whatsapp telling me that she "still cares"
I know she's been stalking me, casually viewing all my happy status update and pix on internet.
I don't want to go back to her because things will still remain the same and i don't want to get hurt again.
Please, how should i handle her?

@OP,

First, your thread title is wrong because it is more like she dumped you.

What do you mean by 'settled maturedly' when you first discovered she was cheating on you?

Does her mother know about your relationship? If yes, was the mother encouraging her daughter to double date? Confirm this

I want to believe your relationship died a natural death and it is not always one should give a second chance. She obviously was not sorry cheating on you and might continue to do so since

1. She has her mother's backing (if true)
2. She did not show remorse (unless you are not telling the full story)

She said 'she cares'... as per courtesy, tell her thanks and delete her number sharp sharp. She is not worth your time. You do not have anything binding you both together now. If she still continues to stalk you, warn her severely and report her to her family or get your parents to warn hers (if you have the liver to tell them sha) if she still persists.

It is well.

Looks like you are the one that 'Wants Her Back'
Just a simple text 'still cares' shouldnt send your head haywire for a girl who should have been out of your system.
Quit thinking about her and move forward.
If it were me she send such a text, I would have laugh over it and delete or reply 'yea still care for a Bleep, i know he cant handle you the way i did'.

bukatyne:

@OP,

First, your thread title is wrong because it is more like she dumped you.

What do you mean by 'settled maturedly' when you first discovered she was cheating on you?

Does her mother know about your relationship? If yes, was the mother encouraging her daughter to double date? Confirm this

I want to believe your relationship died a natural death and it is not always one should give a second chance. She obviously was not sorry cheating on you and might continue to do so since

1. She has her mother's backing (if true)
2. She did not show remorse (unless you are not telling the full story)

She said 'she cares'... as per courtesy, tell her thanks and delete her number sharp sharp. She is not worth your time. You do not have anything binding you both together now. If she still continues to stalk you, warn her severely and report her to her family or get your parents to warn hers (if you have the liver to tell them sha) if she still persists.

It is well.

the story was nt in full, i broke up with her d last tym she payed me a visit.
I quite appreciate ur comment'

ITbomb: Looks like you are the one that 'Wants Her Back'
Just a simple text 'still cares' shouldnt send your head haywire for a girl who should have been out of your system.
Quit thinking about her and move forward.
If it were me she send such a text, I would have laugh over it and delete or reply 'yea still care for a Bleep, i know he cant handle you the way i did'.

bruv, i have moved on...don't need her anymore. But, just want to handle this situation in a more diplomatic way. Tanx

Diplomacy in this situation is dumb... I am not insinuating that you are dumb.

What happened to something like this:

Its been a long time I heard from you Tola and telling me you still care after so many months is worrisome. I may try to want to understand how you feel and the situation you are in but I have moved on. I am sorry. I am more focused now and do not want to associate with drama anymore.

Its funny because she doesnt even know if you are lame or something at the moment. Would she still care?.

Hey son, that's one. It doesn't matter who dumped who.

You've moved on, I'd advice you keep it that way.

What you need in this woman business is experience, lots of it. And you can only get it after running through plenty of them.

You want to get to a place where you can buy condoms for someone to bang your chic and not give a fvck. A lot of this mindset will come after you don see them finish - and mostly know what to expect.

You also seem to be emotionally vulnerable to this one, a very good reason to avoid her at all costs. Keep doing what you are doing and get another babe.

But if you still want to bang her once in a while, never raise up any of the issues from the past. Just be cool with her and she'll keep tendering it. Tell her you want you guys to be just friends - right off the bat. This means no jealous poke-nosing in her business again too.

Richfella: Hey son, that's one. It doesn't matter who dumped who.

You've moved on, I'd advice you keep it that way.

What you need in this woman business is experience, lots of it. And you can only get it after running through plenty of them.

You want to get to a place where you can buy condoms for someone to bang your chic and not give a fvck. A lot of this mindset will come after you don see them finish - and mostly know what to expect.

You also seem to be emotionally vulnerable to this one, a very good reason to avoid her at all costs. Keep doing what you are doing and get another babe.

But if you still want to bang her once in a while, never raise up any of the issues from the past. Just be cool with her and she'll keep tendering it. Tell her you want you guys to be friends - right off the bat. This means no jealous poke-nosing in her business again too.

What kind of advice is this?

OP please don't listen to it

Richfella: Hey son, that's one. It doesn't matter who dumped who.

You've moved on, I'd advice you keep it that way.

What you need in this woman business is experience, lots of it. And you can only get it after running through plenty of them.

You want to get to a place where you can buy condoms for someone to bang your chic and not give a fvck. A lot of this mindset will come after you don see them finish - and mostly know what to expect.

You also seem to be emotionally vulnerable to this one, a very good reason to avoid her at all costs. Keep doing what you are doing and get another babe.

But if you still want to bang her once in a while, never raise up any of the issues from the past. Just be cool with her and she'll keep tendering it. Tell her you want you guys to be friends - right off the bat. This means no jealous poke-nosing in her business again too.

OP Take this advice

Pretend as if u didnt see d message nd dnt reply.Dnt go bk 2 her cos she wil repeat it again.she must av come bk 2 after realisn dat she couldnt replace u

You shouldn't be bothered by her "still cares" message, if you yourself have surely moved on.
Someone who has moved on will simply ignore and delete that message, aka. not respond.
If she messages you again, then tell her that you are not interested.

If that's the true story you recounted up there, then you didn't really dump her.
You both drifted apart, initiated by her, and you eventually stopped communicating.

Richfella: Hey son, that's one. It doesn't matter who dumped who.

You've moved on, I'd advice you keep it that way.

What you need in this woman business is experience, lots of it. And you can only get it after running through plenty of them.

You want to get to a place where you can buy condoms for someone to bang your chic and not give a fvck. A lot of this mindset will come after you don see them finish - and mostly know what to expect.

You also seem to be emotionally vulnerable to this one, a very good reason to avoid her at all costs. Keep doing what you are doing and get another babe.

But if you still want to bang her once in a while, never raise up any of the issues from the past. Just be cool with her and she'll keep tendering it. Tell her you want you guys to be just friends - right off the bat. This means no jealous poke-nosing in her business again too.

Whoever she was, she really did a number on you Why are some girl so wicked

Royal^Pearl^:
Whoever she was, she really did a number on you Why are some girl so wicked

you really need to ask oh. They're just too wicked

Same old ish just a different day

Guseh: While i was dating her, i noticed some changes in her actions. She doesn't want me to touch her phone again, but i do play games, watch movies, make calls on her phone (cos na me buy d card) before.
I had to employed some tactics to get her phone. I checked her inbox and was able to to find out that she's been dating another guy.
She apologised and told me that the relationship was just a week old and that her mum is in support of it. We settled it in a mature manner and she promised me not to date the guy, but there was this cold communication' between us.
To cut the story short, I forgot her birthday( though i opologizd) and 2months later, she forgot mine too. Tit 4 tat, i guess?
She stopped picking my calls and won't borther to reply my msg...though she do cme around at some times.
I started making new frds, declined contacting her, eliminated her from my life. It was tough though, but we never spoke from that day I broke up with her until yesterday around 11pm when she called me with a strange number.
She sent me a msg this morning and also droped a msg on my whatsapp telling me that she "still cares"
I know she's been stalking me, casually viewing all my happy status update and pix on internet.
I don't want to go back to her because things will still remain the same and i don't want to get hurt again.
Please, how should i handle her?

Let her go for your own good because she must have been thrown out by the other guy and she wants to come back. NEVER allow her back. Let her keep monitoring your progress and die with envy. You are a new person and never eat your vomit.

Thanks, i quite appreciate your comment(s)

Maybe.........Maybe!
Maybe she loves d fukcomyccin, kissoquine n romanticillin she gets from u to cure her boredom/loneliness. As we know, d sickness cannot be cured permanently.

Richfella: Hey son, that's one. It doesn't matter who dumped who.

You've moved on, I'd advice you keep it that way.

What you need in this woman business is experience, lots of it. And you can only get it after running through plenty of them.

You want to get to a place where you can buy condoms for someone to bang your chic and not give a fvck. A lot of this mindset will come after you don see them finish - and mostly know what to expect.

You also seem to be emotionally vulnerable to this one, a very good reason to avoid her at all costs. Keep doing what you are doing and get another babe.

But if you still want to bang her once in a while, never raise up any of the issues from the past. Just be cool with her and she'll keep tendering it. Tell her you want you guys to be just friends - right off the bat. This means no jealous poke-nosing in her business again too.

Remember i don't want her anymore.
But, you be badt player ooo

Exponental: Maybe.........Maybe!
Maybe she loves d fukcomyccin, kissoquine n romanticillin she gets from u to cure her boredom/loneliness. As we know, d sickness cannot be cured permanently.

I thought as much, but am not a "shock-absorber". Lolzzz...

Royal^Pearl^:
Whoever she was, she really did a number on you Why are some girl so wicked

LMAO! Badt girls make the world go round

Guseh:
I thought as much, but am not a "shock-absorber". Lolzzz...

Guseh:
Remember i don't want her anymore.
But, you be badt player ooo

You are more sensible than I thought.

Please take it as a compliment

bukatyne:



You are more sensible than I thought.

Please take it as a compliment

A thankful sigh!