Father Bless me

Well.. hes now a man....

Jaynec: Am from a family of 7 including our parents. Am the eldest 25 n d only lady in the family of 4 boys. My immediate younger bro is 24 still an undergraduate in a federal poly, he got a part time job with an engr firm in kd. My family reside in PH. Dad retired since 2009 n still struggling to take care of his family. I got a shocking news from my mum that my immediate younger got some one pregnant , d lady gave birth to a baby boy . D lady in question is quite older than him, my bro agreed to marry her. Am really hurting cos my bro is very tender n doesnt knw wat life n marriage is all abt. Please pals i need your advice n contributions. God bless you.

Your brother has a job and he frankly hasn't asked you guys for financial help so what exactly is the problem here?

He is a man and should be left alone to make his own damn decisions.

You need to start MYOB like seriously

jay bee:
Your brother has a job and he frankly hasn't asked you guys for financial help so what exactly is the problem here?

He is a man and should be left alone to make his own damn decisions.

You need to start MYOB like seriously

He is still struggling with schl fees. D engr firm is just a one man stuff n nt realiable.

Jaynec: He is still struggling with schl fees. D engr firm is just a one man stuff n nt realiable.

Did he ask you for help?

Ok, on a more serious note, you guys have to FORCE him in any ways you can to not go ahead with the marriage.

He's still doesn't know shít (my opinion). You guys can offer to keep the baby but pressure him to forget the marriage part until he graduates & gets a STEADY JOB.

On another note, how old is she (please don't tell me 30+)?.

jay bee:
Did he ask you for help?

Jay Bee my man, we all know the kind of jobs an undergrad can get (in Nigeria). That boy most likely doesn't know what he is doing - he's just pússy-whipped & maybe overwhelmed too.

Your brother is talking about marrying her when he doesn't even really know the meaning of marriage.He's probably saying that to save face.
Your brother is a man,young man though.He has to handle his business and take responsibility.

The child is here already!

Richfella:

Jay Bee my man, we all know the kind of jobs an undergrad can get (in Nigeria). That boy most likely doesn't know what he is doing - he's just pússy-whipped & maybe overwhelmed too.

I do understand that but at the same time, it's not nice having other people involved in one's relationship so long as he hasn't specifically asked for help.
Dude is an adult and should be responsible for his actions.

If u can,ensure he doesn't marry now. No man should get married till he is financially capable of taking care of himself,his wife & coming children if not he's gonna regret it.

Richfella:

Ok, on a more serious note, you guys have to FORCE him in any ways you can to not go ahead with the marriage.

He's still doesn't know shít (my opinion). You guys can offer to keep the baby but pressure him to forget the marriage part until he graduates & gets a STEADY JOB.

On another note, how old is she (please don't tell me 30+)?.

he is just 24

jay bee:
I do understand that but at the same time, it's not nice having other people involved in one's relationship so long as he hasn't specifically asked for help.
Dude is an adult and should be responsible for his actions.

jaybee my bro is still too young for dat nw, really i mean it

zeelo2014: If u can,ensure he doesn't marry now. No man should get married till he is financially capable of taking care of himself,his wife & coming children if not he's gonna regret it.

dear wat do u advice we should do?

Does the lady have a job? if so, does it pay well? She can shoulder the financial responsibility until he can fully stand on his two feet. 24 is quite young to be a husband. He has not even experienced life yet. I will advice him to stay with her until he is emotionally mature for marriage and has a meaningful salary. Then he can get married her if they both agree to it

Jaynec: he is just 24

She.

Really sad but what kinda life do you want for the unborn? Do you want to deny the unborn what family means? Admitted your Bra'h has made a mistake and he wonna correct it, support him with prayers.

jay bee:
I do understand that but at the same time, it's not nice having other people involved in one's relationship so long as he hasn't specifically asked for help.
Dude is an adult and should be responsible for his actions.

I will give an example with myself. When I was 22 (6 years ago), I was tripping MADLY for my way-older account officer - who already had a baby. I sincerely felt I wanted to marry her at that point.

Was making lots of money and lived on my own. I was what you would call an 'adult', but in retrospect I was a full rétard; an over-grown baby. Thinking back now, that would have been one VERY DUMB decision.

Believe me he certainly doesn't know what he is doing.

Richfella:

She.

no he

Omo_Alata: Does the lady have a job? if so, does it pay well? She can shoulder the financial responsibility until he can fully stand on his two feet. 24 is quite young to be a husband. He has not even experienced life yet. I will advice him to stay with her until he is emotionally mature for marriage and has a meaningful salary. Then he can get married her if they both agree to it

Dear d girl is nt even educated , she just finished sec

Richfella:


I will give an example with myself. When I was 22 (6 years ago), I was tripping MADLY for my way-older account officer - who already had a baby. I sincerely felt I wanted to marry her at that point.

Was making lots of money and lived on my own. I was what you would call an 'adult', but in retrospect I was a full rétard; an over-grown baby. Thinking back now now that would have been one VERY DUMB decision.

Believe me he certainly doesn't know what he is doing.

thnks dear. I appreciate ur comment.

Jaynec: no he

I mean how old is the lady?

Richfella:

I mean how old is the lady?

shes 25

Jaynec: Dear d girl is nt even educated , she just finished sec

Whoa! does she have any source of income at all? she is pregnant, I highly doubt she will get an abortion at all. So your brother is going to be a father regardless. I will advice him not to get married at this time. He is too too young to emotionally handle that type of commitment. The only thing you can do is to love him and help with care of the unborn baby.

Omo_Alata:

Whoa! does she have any source of income at all? she is pregnant, I highly doubt she will get an abortion at all. So your brother is going to be a father regardless. I will advice him not to get married at this time. He is too too young to emotionally handle that type of commitment. The only thing you can do is to love him and help with care of the unborn baby.

D lady gave birth to a boy in may n has been staying with him in kd. My bro was afraid to tell me until recently . I knw wat he is passing thru, he is nw so slim n old.

Hehhehehehehe!!! Pardon me! She gives it to him real good huh? (Rhetorical). Dude starts making a lil money on the side, then he starts hitting "kpekus", got an aged chick pregnant, then have her deliver the baby, have the balls to come tell his family he wants to get married, oh! He's a man alright. Am sure poster is jst concerned instead him using the little cash to support the family he's going to use it to start another family.

martyns303: Hehhehehehehe!!! Pardon me! She gives it to him real good huh? (Rhetorical). Dude starts making a lil money on the side, then he starts hitting "kpekus", got an aged chick pregnant, then have her deliver the baby, have the balls to come tell his family he wants to get married, oh! He's a man alright. Am sure poster is jst concerned instead him using the little cash to support the family he's going to use it to start another family.

you can say anything u like.

@ Jaynec,why not calm down and find ways of working round the situation.

I'd strongly believe,if you can't zip up then you should take responsibility for every of your action.

When you sleep with the opposite se.x without protection,then u should bear the consequences when it comes calling.

So my dear, don't get all worked up things will take it natural course.

Jaynec: Dear d girl is nt even educated , she just finished sec

25 and just finished sec school?

He's 24, not the definition of much younger

ifee-gee:
@ Jaynec,why not calm down and find ways of working round the situation.

I'd strongly believe,if you can't zip up then you should take responsibility for every of your action.

When you sleep with the opposite se.x without protection,then u should bear the consequences when it comes calling.

So my dear, don't get all worked up things will take it natural course.

what are u talking abt. Pls read well b4 commenting.

He must not necessarily marry her but your family have to figure out a way of taking care of the child, they can get married in future if they are compatible and wish to . nobody should be forced into marriage irrespective of the circumstances.Please calm down and think of a way forward,shit happens.

Jaynec: what are u talking abt. Pls read well b4 commenting.

What are you on about? You ask for an advice, I gave you my honest opinion about the situation.
Any way if you didn't understand my English,let me brakedown.
Since your randy brother could not put his urge under control he should take responsibility period.