Hello fellow NL... I am an upcomming enterprisising young man. I met a young lady some months ago and proposed marriage to her which she accepted in good fate. Having told her that 'I am not already made' which means i am God's work in progress. On a rrecent visit to talk about our introduction to her family which date has been sett for the 26th of this month, our clothes are ready, invited guests on standby etc only for her to tell me unilaterally that she has shifted the date to December.
Should i call of the entire relationship?
Should i start a Pseudo relationnship just incase?
Should i feel regret or disappointed?

Well, God's work in progress jam Marriage in progress equation balance noni

Why are you in a rush? Itz better this way you will have more time to really know her. Plus if you really love her you won't wana call it quits just because shez not yet ready

I'm looking for Caro

dont, just be patient with her, probably her decision is for the interest of the relationship, beside she need time to clear of some of her toasters and all of that.

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Why not ask her the reason for the postponement

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Maybe she don get another richer bobo! So she's just using style to tell you that the relationship is OVER

onyenro: Should i feel regret or disappointed?

it's ok...you can feel disappointed

Why she changb dat why u want to brk so many questns

techwiz4: hey this school is really romantic http://faithfoundationschools.com/

School is romantic kwa?

Dude she's keeping you by the side and probably hoping for a 'work completed' bobo


The ladies that responded initially are funny


first of all,

why should she adjust the dates without an understanding agreement from both sides?


Not even a notice


she doesn't believe in your 'work in progress '

Abu Mikey: I'm looking for Caro

no b carolina, then continue looking

How she tabled d issue matters. Did she just announce with(out) reasons or u discussed?

what was her reason ? you should talk to her

If I could make sense into ur post ,
The annoying part is that she UNILATERALLY postponed it to december .
Sit her down n tell her that is not how things would be run. If u give in now , it will set a bad precedent and backing out when u don't really know her motives (could be for good) is equally not wise .
let her explain , if the motive is good then make sure you fix a date other than what she wanted

She needs time; don't try to force her into what she's not totally into. She has started reconsidering her options. Let her have the time she asked for.

They say a broken engagement is far more better than a broken marriage.

ITbomb: If I could make sense into ur post ,
The annoying part is that she UNILATERALLY postponed it to december .
Sit her down n tell her that is not how things would be run. If u give in now , it will set a bad precedent and backing out when u don't really know her motives (could be for good) is equally not wise .
let her explain , if the motive is good then make sure you fix a date other than what she wanted

Seconded!!!
You have to start early to take charge of your relationship "work in progress" or "work completed".
Whenever a guy decides to marry, he has become a grown man, and should begin to act same.

On a cautionary note, I have this feeling something may be cooking. Open your eyes!

Ask orunmila...orunmila said broken english is better than broken engagement

I think you should ask her why she unilaterally postponed the introduction without seeking your opinion, then you can plan on how to work things out or decide on what to do.

@ Op, why then is your phone stammering

Thanx to you all. I stood my grounds and the date remain the one we earlier agreed to. I was later told that her mum did not have her full backing and that is over now....i apprecate

Enegod: it's ok...you can feel disappointed

Like seriously?Does he require permission in this?

Okay am hungry.Should I chew the food or should I lick it?

hang on, bro but nothing stops you from having a plan B. if it doesnt work, it does not work naani. life wont end due to that. it may be an opportunity to actualise God's plan for you.

UM THE GRAMMAR IS TOO MUCH, AND HOW ARE U GOD'S WORK IN PROGRESS? DAT ONE NA EVERLASTING POVERTY NI O! ABEG MAKE THE GIRL FIND HER CUBE ROOT FAST B4 DEVIL GO MANIFEST IN THAT RUBBISH ENGAGEMENT OF URS, U WAN PUNISH OMOLOMO FOR LIFE NI? DEM SWEAR FOR U?

@op
toor, pele o, life happens

Why will a lady take a such a decision without informing her finacee?
Postponement is not the issue but not giving prior notice is strange.
That, MR OP is a very strong message she just passed across.

If you are absolutely convinced she is the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, let her know there should be an agreement before such a decision can be made. What roles are the two families playing ( her's and your's )? Are both of you staying far apart from eachother?

Patience is a virtue. Relax and watch as events unfold before December, whatever her reasons are will be exposed by then. Unless she is top class pretender, her body langugage should tell you a lot whenever something like this is cooking if you are observant.