eddiebruk:


Dey there dey deceive yourself, your small cousin when dem born which day go soon marry

caramelll: Madam OP "Mz vox",saw dis write-up on FB a month ago,it wont hurt 2give credit 2d original writer•#jst sayin#

Okija_juju:


Women:: If you know that you wanna get married, then you better go out there and hunt down the man for you and marry him.. There is no right or wrong in things like this. What worked for the OP will/may not work for you. The Ideal man for Adaobi will/may not be the ideal man for Ogugua.. Stop listening to all these women who think they got men/relationships all figured out..

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ogugua88: Lovely post! Unfortunately, common sense is not common.

It's easy to say these things and hope that unmarried women heed, but the truth is that societal/cultural and family pressures are partly to blame, if not entirely. Also, a lot of women lack the mental and emotional strength required to stand for themselves, or have become complacent with mediocrity and sacrificed self-respect for a husband. It's from a Nigerian woman's mouth that you will hear things like "cheating is the norm; there's nothing you can do about it". Some unluckily marry the wrong man and will still quote the Bible and tell you that under no circumstances, adultery and domestic violence inclusive, can a woman file for divorce. That's disheartening and is setting a very wrong trend for our daughters to follow. I don't know from where the "a woman's pride is her husband/marriage" came, and I don't know how or why it's unofficially compulsory for a woman to marry before a certain age, hence making some women rush and settle for sub-par males, but it's part of the reason why some men see themselves as gods and do as they wish to them.

Nothing could be truer than the last part of your post. Society, culture, tradition, and even family won't change, not fast enough anyway. The change that's so greatly needed as per this topic can only come from women changing their mindsets and loving themselves to the point that they will not settle for less, even if it means waiting a little longer.

A woman should gain more than a man and ring in marriage. She should gain a partner, a teammate, a companion... someone who appreciates her in totality. And guess what? Such men don't come easily, so be patient.

lekpalicious: what is your problem sef? It seems this topic is really getting to you. I am sure you are the type of man the op was warning us about. Why do you care so much about all the women not married? Will you marry them. Dont take panadol for someone elses headache.

ariseandshine: With this kind of advise your listeners will end up in T.B Joshua's Church at the age of 40 looking for a husband.

eddiebruk: Orisirisi topic, now you will see all the Ada beke's and Olosho popping up to commend the OP, like someone said, so many women are single today because of their pride to be submissive to their husbands, Marriage is not a competition of who owns the best things, some are not married but they are happy, and only their Pillows knows how much pains they feel each night. Nobody should quote me sha

crackhaus: What am I even doing here really...
Am I supposed to see a woman that will disagree with what the OP wrote...
Should I make a more sensible contribution that won't be misinterpreted...
Will it even be worth it...

Abeg make I go siddon for back dey watch wetin dey appen here.

Catch_fire:

Ngwanu, bia yia ogu

AkaOkpo

@tjololade:



So is not true what the Bible said?... Im asking

lekpalicious: what is your problem sef? It seems this topic is really getting to you. I am sure you are the type of man the op was warning us about. Why do you care so much about all the women not married? Will you marry them. Dont take panadol for someone elses headache.

eddiebruk: Orisirisi topic, now you will see all the Ada beke's and Olosho popping up to commend the OP, like someone said, so many women are single today because of their pride to be submissive to their husbands, Marriage is not a competition of who owns the best things, some are not married but they are happy, and only their Pillows knows how much pains they feel each night. Nobody should quote me sha

eddiebruk:

if you know how to handle your man and always keep him occupied, how is he gonna get the chance to go out to look for other women..? It's not just about saying i am married, it is actually about keeping a man

Okija_juju:


[b]Bros..


Please, accept this glass of Scotch.. ..

Mrs.Chima:
Damn I was in a mood to fight!

Bravo!

Okija_juju:


Well...


Point is I'm tired of all these women always trying to define what the ideal man is as if their fake hair and make-up wearing asses are ideal...


Women:: If you know that you wanna get married, then you better go out there and hunt down the man for you and marry him.. There is no right or wrong in things like this. What worked for the OP will/may not work for you. The Ideal man for Adaobi will/may not be the ideal man for Ogugua.. Stop listening to all these women who think they got men/relationships all figured out..

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eddiebruk:


The fact that you cannot keep a man doesn't mean that all men are bad, what have you been doing since your youth, Or you thought PhD go land you automatic husband...? Pride and over sabi is the main reason so many of you are still hunting for Mr right, dey there dey deceive yourself, na for night we go know how it feels to be cuddled in the warm arms of a loving husband.

eddiebruk:


Dey there dey deceive yourself, your small cousin when dem born which day go soon marry

eddiebruk:

You for add Kolanut join na bros

Shooo.. You wan pour libation with scotch?!

Idowuogbo:
Abeg serve dis guy odeku Biko!

Gbammest!

Idowu!!

You mean say you buy Odeku for me?!


Thats it!! I can now die a happy man..

ghettodreamz:

I know say you too go follow see am for FB.

Longest time, how garage?

ogugua88: Lovely post! Unfortunately, common sense is not common.

It's easy to say these things and hope that unmarried women heed, but the truth is that societal/cultural and family pressures are partly to blame, if not entirely. Also, a lot of women lack the mental and emotional strength required to stand for themselves, or have become complacent with mediocrity and sacrificed self-respect for a husband. It's from a Nigerian woman's mouth that you will hear things like "cheating is the norm; there's nothing you can do about it". Some unluckily marry the wrong man and will still quote the Bible and tell you that under no circumstances, adultery and domestic violence inclusive, can a woman file for divorce. That's disheartening and is setting a very wrong trend for our daughters to follow. I don't know from where the "a woman's pride is her husband/marriage" came, and I don't know how or why it's unofficially compulsory for a woman to marry before a certain age, hence making some women rush and settle for sub-par males, but it's part of the reason why some men see themselves as gods and do as they wish to them.

Nothing could be truer than the last part of your post. Society, culture, tradition, and even family won't change, not fast enough anyway. The change that's so greatly needed as per this topic can only come from women changing their mindsets and loving themselves to the point that they will not settle for less, even if it means waiting a little longer.

A woman should gain more than a man and ring in marriage. She should gain a partner, a teammate, a companion... someone who appreciates her in totality. And guess what? Such men don't come easily, so be patient.

uj_sizzle:
This is funny. Why should a man need to be reminded that he took a vow of loyalty when he got married?
You're trying to tell me he's free to roam after every hot thing in skirts the moment he decides his wife isn't good enough for him?
Where does communication in a relationship come in then? If you think she's losing what attracted you to her, then discuss it! Don't make that an excuse to cheat please.
It's bad enough some men are incapable of loyalty, and much worse when he blames his wife for it.

lekpalicious: Lmao. When did i say that all men are bad. Secondly keeping a man is no problem. I have a good man who loves and respects me and he is type of guy i always wanted and its not out of desperation. The only reason i am unmarried yet is because we are not there financially yet. So dont worry your lil head about me. I am fine. But why you so bitter though lmao. Dont worry no matter what there will always be stupid girls who will be desperate enough for the likes of you.

eddiebruk:


The fact that you cannot keep a man doesn't mean that all men are bad, what have you been doing since your youth, Or you thought PhD go land you automatic husband...? Pride and over sabi is the main reason so many of you are still hunting for Mr right, dey there dey deceive yourself, na for night we go know how it feels to be cuddled in the warm arms of a loving husband.

nyere84: Its useful...!!!

Life does not begin wit husband.!!
Life will not end wit husband..!!

There is more to life to enjoy, to give you happiness and make you fulfilled.

#say no to an abusive man#