Ab025: Hmmm......maybe he wants to suprise u wit 2nd wife.......

passionate88: It isn't. Something tells me you are in the habit of arguing with your husband.

If he asks you to fear him, just keep quiet (I knw it's very hard to do that as u are a woman).

ileobatojo: Kreami, I've been waiting for you to talk about your husband on that other thread since. You've just been dropping bits and pieces sha. Guess you're not ready to tell the full story yet. Anyway, do what you can and keep your
head up but don't compromise your safety if it ever comes to that (hopefully not).

Ngokafor: I would go with respect not fear.Respect is actually more sustainable than fear..

..@op perhaps he meant respect..a lot of us confuse fear for respect and vice versa...

kreami diva:



Hahaha ... this woman! I no fit shout o.

The man fit see all these things so no be for my mouth you go hear anything.!

Anyway,i know what to do if push comes to shove.

kreami diva:

@CC and Ng, i would have thought so too but my mum told him expressly that I'm scared of him therefore there are certain things i would want to say but simply shut up out of fear. And his response was "if she doesn't fear me,who would she fear".

He repeated it in his father's presence and the man was nodding in affirmation. I told them that it's only God I'll fear and not man. I'd rather respect him.

In essence,he knows what he's saying.

ileobatojo:

Keep your spirits up! God dey.

Ab025: Hmmm......maybe he wants to suprise u wit 2nd wife.......

kreami diva:

Noooo. No be argument. That is his point of view. That a woman should fear her husband. While I'm of a different opinion. If he goes on about it,i simply keep quiet.

mysticgal: is ileobatojo a woman

kreami diva:

@CC and Ng, i would have thought so too but my mum told him expressly that I'm scared of him therefore there are certain things i would want to say but simply shut up out of fear. And his response was "if she doesn't fear me,who would she fear".

He repeated it in his father's presence and the man was nodding in affirmation. I told them that it's only God I'll fear and not man. I'd rather respect him.

In essence,he knows what he's saying.

Atawewe27: I smell an abusive husband here

deols: This man asking to be feared. I have a thought that he probably can only get the respect by instilling fear.

He probably is the door mat where he works or among his colleagues and constantly needs the reassurance that he is a man.

who else to lord it over other than his helpless wife.

I don't know what to say to you, diva. Please make sure you don't lose your self esteem to anyone. Fear can not make your marriage work. You'd be coming from work and would prefer to stay outside for FeAR of what you'll meet when you get back. You wont be able to express yourself. That is not a way to live.