alutacontinua: I GIVVUP ON THAT ORGAN CALLED P*ENIS!!!
BRB

fumisko: am so confused on how to advice my best friend (shes abt 19). shes been looking down for some weeks now and has been trying to cover up yesterday i walked into her room and found her bed soaked with tears. she had to open up.

I was so lost that i had no words to tell her. her story: shes very close to her dad since she can remember and as she grew up he could enter to use the toilet and he can still enter her room while shes dressing, undressing like its no big deal and shes got the best dad in the world i can say so cause i know him(hes so caring and all that).

According to her she sometimes sleep off in her dad's room like maybe they were jisting and it becomes so late and she is so sleepy. about two years ago she said she started noticing her father would give her longer hugs than usual or smack her bombom playfully when shes passing by or look at her burst like when she isnt wearing a bra at home maybe at night and that his hand would rest on her bosom if he wanted to hug her like if he came back from work. but she dint feel anything was wrong, she thought since they were close it wasn't any big deal.besides its her dad. but about 2 months ago she slept off in her dad's room one night and woke up from someone touching her and she realized it was him. she said she had to remind him over 9 times pleading that it was wrong before his brain could calm his desires at that point in time. he later apologized and told her he would never hurt her and had already started seeing a psychologist about his attraction to her. he also told her to keep it away from his wife so their blissful home can remain blissful. my question.

Is it actually normal for some men to get attracted to their growing teenage daughters?

Secondly whats her behavior towards him meant to be like? is it that he needs help and she should see it as such or he needs to be dealt with?
also she wants to know how she can try to behave normal like it never happened since he has started seeking help over the unlawful desire.

How can she stop him from wanting her and what if she actually gets Molested? what should she do? i know her mum knows they are so close but expecting such from him is unbelievable. it sounded like she was lying to me because that guy seems too good. but its true.

how can i help?

DMainMan: If only your freind's family had followed Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAW) sunnah this wouldnt have occured. According to the Holy Prophet:

A child of ten must not sleep in the
same bed as the husband and wife.

When a child reaches the age of ten,
he must not sleep in the same room as
his sister, mother or another woman
except his wife.

"When children are old enough, do not let them enter a house (or bedroom) without permission at times of rest and sleep."

"After reaching the age of ten, do not let
brothers and sisters sleep together (in
the same room). When a child is
conscious enough, do not let that child
(boy) see those parts of a woman's body
that are normally covered, even if it is the
child's mother, sister or aunts."

DMainMan: If only your freind's family had followed Holy Prophet Muhammad (SAW) sunnah this wouldnt have occured. According to the Holy Prophet:

A child of ten must not sleep in the
same bed as the husband and wife.

When a child reaches the age of ten,
he must not sleep in the same room as
his sister, mother or another woman
except his wife.

"When children are old enough, do not let them enter a house (or bedroom) without permission at times of rest and sleep."

"After reaching the age of ten, do not let
brothers and sisters sleep together (in
the same room). When a child is
conscious enough, do not let that child
(boy) see those parts of a woman's body
that are normally covered, even if it is the
child's mother, sister or aunts."

chuksbogus: to be candid, its normal for a father to get attached to the female child right from birth . as she grows up it increases giving rise to jelousy when he sees her with men and over protection.the issue here is how the father deals with and thats very important.the man went too far?but then, the girl shld handle it ,she is 19. since d father is geting help for that.she shld avoid being alone with him, she shld ensure she is wearing a well coverd dress at home.avoid those fatherly hugs and peck etc.over time it will wear off.telln the mother is causing trouble dat over time she will regreat if d problem caused by telling d mum get messy. in marrige u dont say everything you see ?

chuksbogus: to be candid, its normal for a father to get attached to the female child right from birth . as she grows up it increases giving rise to jelousy when he sees her with men and over protection.the issue here is how the father deals with and thats very important.the man went too far?but then, the girl shld handle it ,she is 19. since d father is geting help for that.she shld avoid being alone with him, she shld ensure she is wearing a well coverd dress at home.avoid those fatherly hugs and peck etc.over time it will wear off.telln the mother is causing trouble dat over time she will regreat if d problem caused by telling d mum get messy. in marrige u dont say everything you see ?

true2god: Please ask your irresponsible neighbour to stop being naked in the presense of her father. If konji hold the man and he misbehave it is pple like u dat will come to nairaland to crucify the poor man.


Women's body, especially teenagers, are vry sensitive. As a barchelor with two teenage sisters, i make sure they stay with my parents while i assist them financially.

Prevention is better than cure. Konji no get tablet wen it comes.

kshowhanif:
Theirs a big problem with the family morality, when yarima said women should be married out imediately after attaining puberty, una say na rape's him be. If u see a muslim lady covering all part of her body, una go say she is not wise. If we say to huge a lady is prohibited, una go say we are extremised. Now make una tell me where the sense dey for westernization? Man marry man, woman marry woman, papa f**k pikin, son f**k mother (motherf**k), broda frnd sister etc. Test before marriage, if nah ur sister u go gree? Lets be realistic, islam is the continuation from where jesus stop. If you want to know about true islam, read the history of the nobel prophet muhammad (saw).