sihom: No way, I wouldn't want to know because I'm a vindictive woman I like to get even with people and I struggle with forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't come easily to me that man had better keep his affairs a top secret and apply the 11th commandment when dealing with me.

The 11th commandment being ''Do not be caught'', whether he confessed without any prompting or I found him out on my own, will not make a difference to me I will get my pound of flesh and IT WON'T BE by having an affair of my own, there are other ways to take down a foe.

I'm using Sihom's account as a woman to say my piece.

mechummy: Whether I was into them or not doesn't matter

Once you're caught, I cut out

Juell: Tell her and u're a dead man.

peggykorol: Since the day I found out my hubby f ucks girls in a motel not too far from our house,all my emotions for him Started dying away.sometimes it's good to know so you know the kind of person you actually live with rather than live in ignorance

Toks2008: This is interesting.

I have been with my wife for 12 years and i had only slept with just one female asides her and that was when she left the marriage for months.

I told her anyway and i made her realize that but for her leaving i wouldn't even think of such. I guess she understood because for the first time after 7months of her leaving, she came around yesterday and it was a great experience and she never even allowed what i told her disturb her psyche maybe because she knew she caused it.

So i guess it depends on what led to it and not just about jumping into bed with another lady when your woman is always there for you,

Odunharry: na ladies thread..i wnda wetin sm guys dy comment here...
Make i waka go the next thread

Mai pride: Ignorance is not bliss.... "My people perish for lack of knowledge....

†ђξ betrayal and dsapointment will be more heartbreaking if she eventually finds out on her own...

IMO, Just tell her and free yourself of †ђξ guilt.... What's †ђξ essence of confessing to God and knwing deep down that you av wronged your better half Your peace aint complete dt way...
It aint easy to forgive and forget but ℓ̊ will save my marriage and forgive with †ђξ hope and promise that he won't do it again

chidyhels: I confess to almighty God,and to you my brothers and sister. . . . . .

She has to know,if truely ur sorry and wish it doesnt happen again.

Hezron Lorraine: Not all secrets are meant to be discovered.In the same vain,telling the truth can help build a greater relationship.It only matters on how you built started,how strong your foundation is.If it's very strong,he will open up to you.

iLUMeN8:

The fact that you cheated is no biggie to her cos she has probably been engaging in serious, intense, nyashing and Congo shining sessions for seven months as well

Toks2008: This is interesting.

I have been with my wife for 12 years and i had only slept with just one female asides her and that was when she left the marriage for months.

I told her anyway and i made her realize that but for her leaving i wouldn't even think of such. I guess she understood because for the first time after 7months of her leaving, she came around yesterday and it was a great experience and she never even allowed what i told her disturb her psyche maybe because she knew she caused it.

So i guess it depends on what led to it and not just about jumping into bed with another lady when your woman is always there for you,

PrettySpicey:

@Toks2008
until u start taking responsibility for ur actions u r not truly responsible. Ur wife didn't 'cause' u to cheat. NO. U CHOSE to cheat.
Just wanted to point that out. Thanks.

iLUMeN8:
The fact that you cheated is no biggie to her cos she has probably been engaging in serious, intense, nyashing and Congo shining sessions for seven months as well

druid06:

Hmm, interesting.

mechummy:

pauloh-girlie:
All ve sin. Telling u wat he had done secretly means he lovs u nd his even ready for change or total devotion to his family. Its your reaction to d issue that will determine his final withdraw or further commitment to illegal relationship. As for me i ll forgive him,love him more and b praying more him.

Bukato:
Interesting post I must say. My husband nd I av bn married for 6yrs nw. We live more like frnds or siblings, dat pple arnd confess to d kind of rltnship we share.

Honestly on some occasions 'he' had confessed jokingly to me nd even showed me pictures. I cautioned him thou, nd even joke d lady wznt even my match in terms of beauty n class. On anthr occasion he gave d fone to me to discard a lady he slept wit nd wz chocking on him.

At d long run, he got tired nd remain wit us (d fmly) nd I tag dz ladies as "loosers". I know I own my husband forever by HIS grace.

Women, we need to b patient nd draw our husbands close to us, do not push them out further to d jezebels by our act of nagging, public display of madness in d name of fighting d intruders(so I'l call dem)

Most men will wnt to av d experience of xtra marital affairs, wch if d wife isn't careful, can mk d man see "a better woman in the jezebel"

Careful ladies! B strong! Its jst 4 a while. Cheers!!

uniqueval:


Trust me,
Walking away from a cheating partner isn't as easy as you imagine. Esply one u've been wit for a long time and had many fun memories with. In as much as there are no acceptable reasons for cheating, there is always a motive. People don't just choose to sleep and wake up one night and decided to cheat. Except for chronic womanizers or flirts. If your partner was caught cheating, try to find out why it happened it the first place befor concludin he/she deserves a penalty or sld undergo penance. #MyOneCent

druid06:

So mechummy, I see you don't frequent twitter, are you on facebook?

mechummy: Yep