what do l do to have my freedom and
respect back because l don't get any respect from her anymore.little things she tells the mum and she
calls to start advising me which l find
uncomfortable .confused right now.we have 2 kids
now.need good advice.

DarqChild: My guy you will die before your time in the hands of a woman like that if you continue to live with her. Forget the fact that you have two children with her. You should first off stop telling about her your financial state. (the lion is the king of the jungle and actually has many females as wives yet he doesn't hunt for game. The women do.) When a woman knows exactly how much you earn then my brother you are in hot soup and secondly, you'd better kick her out of your life or else you'll lose your dignity as a man and your "pants" will literally be stripped off you. If you are not man enough to shackle her and bring her to order then let her off before you actually become shackled and lose your life. Adios.

critique101:

Bad advice. Marriage is 4 better 4 worse.

Always make sure you make a good choice!

idnoble135:
Get a high paying job or look for avenue to create multiple stream income. Keep your focus. Let this make you and not break you.
Goodluck.

critique101: I feel you.
This is the main set back in a marriage where the wife has more money than the guy. It seems you are a soft hearted person that is why your wife is taking advantage of you.

To overcome this problem, you need tobring out the man in you.

When next she does that, (take cord or insult you), intimidate her.shout at her.
REmind her that you are the husband.

Threaten to leave her if she tries it again.

Tell her if she can't share with you or respect you, you will leave her so she can watch it alone.

Tell her there are women out there who will gladly take her place and who will respect you.

If you don't do this, she will frustrate your life and reduce your lifespan. Be wise. She is not the first woman to have more than her husband so why shouldn't she respect you?

After shouting at her, form that you have vexed. Spend late nights outside, don't eat her food for a week. Spend most of your time away from home for a week. And don't smile for her.

She will be shocked to see this side of you. And she will think. How many men will want to marry a mother of 2

put a password on your phone.


If she becomes nicer to you, pretend to still b annoyed. For a week then gradually start eating her food.

You need to let her know that you mean everthing you have said.

Marriage is for better for worse. You have to make it work. In your wife's case, you have to teach her a lesson or else you are doomed n will grow old b4 your time

critique101: I feel you.
This is the main set back in a marriage where the wife has more money than the guy. It seems you are a soft hearted person that is why your wife is taking advantage of you.

To overcome this problem, you need tobring out the man in you.

When next she does that, (take cord or insult you), intimidate her.shout at her.
REmind her that you are the husband.

Threaten to leave her if she tries it again.

Tell her if she can't share with you or respect you, you will leave her so she can watch it alone.

Tell her there are women out there who will gladly take her place and who will respect you.

If you don't do this, she will frustrate your life and reduce your lifespan. Be wise. She is not the first woman to have more than her husband so why shouldn't she respect you?

After shouting at her, form that you have vexed. Spend late nights outside, don't eat her food for a week. Spend most of your time away from home for a week. And don't smile for her.

She will be shocked to see this side of you. And she will think. How many men will want to marry a mother of 2

put a password on your phone.


If she becomes nicer to you, pretend to still b annoyed. For a week then gradually start eating her food.

You need to let her know that you mean everthing you have said.

Marriage is for better for worse. You have to make it work. In your wife's case, you have to teach her a lesson or else you are doomed n will grow old b4 your time

Nashville: Not sure you need to remind him of this as we are
all trying to earn more.

Ellatyra: I'm first oh,just incase this makes front page...
By the way,i'm about your wife!

How old are u

Nashville:

Not sure you need to remind him of this as we are all trying to earn more.

Poster this is tricky and honestly if care is not taken can ruin your marriage. First of all, your wife also needs to be respected. You mentioned that anytime you try to control her, she will say that her money is also there. May you should stop controlling her too. The fact that the husband is the head of the wife does not mean he should just order her around. How can you be fighting your wife over TV? Cant one of you record it and then watch it later? You are the head of the family so focus on the big things and provide direction for the family not fight over remote control. You are a big brother and even a father to her. I am a man and I dont do that. I will rather watch my own later but that itself is not a sign of weakness and you should remember that. Sometimes conceeding to your spouse is not a sign of weakness, it may even be a sign of headship as you are saying - I am bigger than that.

Having said that, your wife's behaviour is not ideal. A good wife should never talk like that as it seems she is rubbing her money in your face and that is not good. I will advice you to teach her. And the word is teach. Let her know that it is wrong to do what she is doing. Let her understand that both of you are one and the same and who bought what, should not matter and it is a clear sign of disrespect for her to say such things to you. I will also advice that you buy things you can afford and stop forcing her to contribute. If you can't afford it, then dont buy it but reduce the number of times you want her to contribute. Women look to men for leadership and you can still provide that leadership even if you earn less. Do the needful as you deem fit and leave her money for her. My prayer for you is that God will give you a better job so that this does not continue for too long because it is not the best.

majalisa: @op u and ur wyf nid to really do something fast about ur nuptial lyf b4 it hit d rocks..u know her better than we all do...be creative and figure a way out of this bend..I culd tell u to flog her cos I don't know her yet d best thing to do is spank her

mysticgal:


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olodo rakpata,you never see where husband and wife the wear the same sokoto.go spank your mother,,,,,,say women na pickin mtcheeeew

Nashville:

Not sure you need to remind him of this as we are all trying to earn more.

Poster this is tricky and honestly if care is not taken can ruin your marriage. First of all, your wife also needs to be respected. You mentioned that anytime you try to control her, she will say that her money is also there. May you should stop controlling her too. The fact that the husband is the head of the wife does not mean he should just order her around. How can you be fighting your wife over TV? Cant one of you record it and then watch it later? You are the head of the family so focus on the big things and provide direction for the family not fight over remote control. You are a big brother and even a father to her. I am a man and I dont do that. I will rather watch my own later but that itself is not a sign of weakness and you should remember that. Sometimes conceeding to your spouse is not a sign of weakness, it may even be a sign of headship as you are saying - I am bigger than that.

Having said that, your wife's behaviour is not ideal. A good wife should never talk like that as it seems she is rubbing her money in your face and that is not good. I will advice you to teach her. And the word is teach. Let her know that it is wrong to do what she is doing. Let her understand that both of you are one and the same and who bought what, should not matter and it is a clear sign of disrespect for her to say such things to you. I will also advice that you buy things you can afford and stop forcing her to contribute. If you can't afford it, then dont buy it but reduce the number of times you want her to contribute. Women look to men for leadership and you can still provide that leadership even if you earn less. Do the needful as you deem fit and leave her money for her. My prayer for you is that God will give you a better job so that this does not continue for too long because it is not the best.

ikuoma4rea: My wife just developed an attitude that is quite disturbing.just because l get her involved in any project in the house by contributing her own share because she works so that we can get something better for the family.Anytime time l control her she says stuffs like after all my money was involved.but her income is more than mine but l ensure that the rent and running of the house is been handled by me except for the cooking that sometimes l just give her what l have to add to what she has.l could not watch a program just because she was watching a program and when l insisted she disconnected the television set and left with the cord to her room after all l joined my own money in purchasing the television set.she is always against me going to club and hanging out with friends,did that last nite and when l got home she refused to open the door and l had to put a call to the mum before she opened the door at 4am.she is working and earns more than l do but can't l have peace in my own house without her throwing tantrums on me even without been worried about our neighbors.what do l do to have my freedom and respect back because l don't get any respect from her anymore.little things she tells the mum and she calls to start advising me which l find uncomfortable .confused right now.we have 2 kids now.need good advice.

critique101: I feel you.
This is the main set back in a marriage where the wife has more money than the guy. It seems you are a soft hearted person that is why your wife is taking advantage of you.

To overcome this problem, you need tobring out the man in you.

When next she does that, (take cord or insult you), intimidate her.shout at her.
REmind her that you are the husband.

Threaten to leave her if she tries it again.

Tell her if she can't share with you or respect you, you will leave her so she can watch it alone.

Tell her there are women out there who will gladly take her place and who will respect you.

If you don't do this, she will frustrate your life and reduce your lifespan. Be wise. She is not the first woman to have more than her husband so why shouldn't she respect you?

After shouting at her, form that you have vexed. Spend late nights outside, don't eat her food for a week. Spend most of your time away from home for a week. And don't smile for her.

She will be shocked to see this side of you. And she will think. How many men will want to marry a mother of 2

put a password on your phone.


If she becomes nicer to you, pretend to still b annoyed. For a week then gradually start eating her food.

You need to let her know that you mean everthing you have said.

Marriage is for better for worse. You have to make it work. In your wife's case, you have to teach her a lesson or else you are doomed n will grow old b4 your time

judii: are you for real? So you think the op is innocent in all of these? I strongly believe this op never treated the wife well when she wasn't earning anything or there's a way he goes about things that's not right. I honestly don't believe any woman in her right frame of mind would deliberately disrespect a man she married by reporting every misunderstanding between them 2 her family, thereby belittling the man. IMO, there's more to this story!