Merkki:

Do statistics also show that baby daddies raise better children?

I think it depends on the father and how mature the mother + father handle the situation.
I have no statistics though.

Yet, I think that we both agree that the healthiest Environment for children is when mother and father are married / together and happy with each other. But not every child is that lucky

Sagamite:

Let me tell you what I think.

- Your aunty is lying to you just to save face.

- Your friend more convincing, probably does not want marriage.

Quite possible. But there is no explanation to support her refusal of suitors.

carefreewannabe:

I think it depends on the father and how mature the mother + father handle the situation.
I have no statistics though.

Yet, I think that we both agree that the healthiest Environment for children is when mother and father are married / together and happy with each other. But not every child is that lucky

I totally agree with you. I feel i have a perfect family. It's so perfect it scares me sometimes. I just wish no child would grow up without a HOME.

Merkki:

Yes i do. Though it depends on when divorce came in. At least, they enjoyed family harmony for a while. With time, they would understand what went wrong and the real issues of life. Reasonable divorce parents would raise them not to make same mistakes they made.

Now compare a child that had no family. He grew up with a father or a mother. No show of love towards the opposite sex in the name of marriage or co-habitation. He could grow up to believe marriage is a sham and unnecessary. He would be denied of family love and unity no matter how little. He would have nothing to learn from. He would see life in a one-sided way and wonder why mum didn't marry daddy. Or why dad never loved mummy enough to marry her. He could even think he was a mistake or a product of over-active pën1s.

Nope.

Virtually always it will always be a sign of failure in their lives and the first major failure they have experienced.

They will adapt to it but deep down it would be one thing in the world they wish they can reverse.

As for your second point, there are many children that grew up in single parent homes who grow up very willing and eager to marry.

I agree he would have not much to learn from and have a one-sided view. But so will the child whose parents divorced when young.

Merkki:

Quite possible. But there is no explanation to support her refusal of suitors.

- The suitors are not the ones that ticked her teenage wish list or she is hoping for a long lost love to see sense and return.
- The suitors were not reliable emotionally and/or financially.
- The suitors are already married.
- The suitors never existed. It was all a made up story.

Sagamite:

Nope.

Virtually always it will always be a sign of failure in their lives and the first major failure they have experienced.

They will adapt to it but deep down it would be one thing in the world they wish they can reverse.

As for your second point, there are many children that grew up in single parent homes who grow up very willing and eager to marry.

I agree he would have not much to learn from and have a one-sided view. But so will the child whose parents divorced when young.

It still boils down to the age of the child. I believe if divorced parents work on their children rather than wallow in self pity or cry over split milk, little harm would be done. Let them understand that when you fall, you should rise again...stronger and with power. Divorce is not a death sentence.

Merkki:

I totally agree with you. I feel i have a perfect family. It's so perfect it scares me sometimes. I just wish no child would grow up without a HOME.

You are blessed with a perfect family. Don't bother yourself thinking of what could happen tomorrow. There is no guarantee in life. Nobody knows tomorro, so enjoy today. My best wishes for you

Sagamite:

- The suitors are not the ones that ticked her teenage wish list or she is hoping for a long lost love to see sense and return.
- The suitors were not reliable emotionally and/or financially.
- The suitors are already married.
- The suitors never existed. It was all a made up story.

OR they just understood that relationships are not a fairytale and feel more peaceful alone.

Sagamite:

- The suitors are not the ones that ticked her teenage wish list or she is hoping for a long lost love to see sense and return.
- The suitors were not reliable emotionally and/or financially.
- The suitors are already married.
- The suitors never existed. It was all a made up story.

Lmao. My aunt would go ballistic on you if she gets to read this piece. Will you marry her? She is beautiful?

carefreewannabe:

You are blessed with a perfect family. Don't bother yourself thinking of what could happen tomorrow. There is no guarantee in life. Nobody knows tomorro, so enjoy today. My best wishes for you

That's true. Fear of the unknown is a båstãrd!

Sagamite:

Go un sorn! (Go ahead)

Lol...

Ehmm!...I'd prefer he stays with his divorced Dad whom he lived with and prolly grew up with before the broken marriage brouhaha !!

I don't get d frigging idea of a baby padrè!!

carefreewannabe:

OR they just understood that relationships are not a fairytale and feel more peaceful alone.

Maybe. It's clearly not for someone like me that likes love and men. I can give anything to be in a man's arms for hours, stealing kisses and getting...

Merkki:

Lmao. My aunt would go ballistic on you if she gets to read this piece. Will you marry her? She is beautiful?

If she was that beautiful to the point I don't suspect you are using family-bias prism to look at her, she would not need you asking me. Many men would harass her until she signs the papers at the altar.

Post her pix lets see.

elrony:

Lol...

Ehmm!...I'd prefer he stays with his divorced Dad whom he lived with and prolly grew up with before the broken marriage brouhaha !!

I don't get d frigging idea of a baby padrè!!

Yo! Preach it!

Merkki:
Maybe. It's clearly not for someone like me that likes love and men. I can give anything to be in a man's arms for hours, stealing kisses and getting...

You mean you can not bat for the other team?

Sagamite:

If she was that beautiful to the point I don't suspect you are using family-bias prism to look at her, she would not need you asking me. Many men would harass her until she signs the papers at the altar.

Post her pix lets see.

On a serious note, she is beautiful. Scratch that! Very beautiful! I know she has anger issues and she is violent but i don't think it's something you can't handle. And she is only 46.

Merkki:

On a serious note, she is beautiful. Scratch that! Very beautiful! I know she has anger issues and she is violent but i don't think it's something you can't handle. And she is only 46.

LMAO

Sagamite:

You mean you can not bat for the other team?

Never. I reject it! I need to explore and appreciate something i don't have.

Merkki:

On a serious note, she is beautiful. Scratch that! Very beautiful! I know she has anger issues and she is violent but i don't think it's something you can't handle. And she is only 46.

Ehen! Ati de idi ishasun. (We have reached the root of the problem).

Me handle wetin?

You no know me. I love my peace which bachelorhood adequately provides.

And 46 is old enough to be my grandmother.

Sagamite:

Ehen! Ati de idi ishasun. (We have reached the root of the problem).

Me handle wetin?

You no know me. I love my peace which bachelorhood adequately provides.

And 46 is old enough to be my grandmother.

I actually don't see that as a problem. You can tame her. What's the big deal? 46? Your grandmother?

Merkki:

I actually don't see that as a problem. You can tame her. What's the big deal?

Awey, persin tell you say I be Craig Busch (The Lion Man)?

I no get skills to tame o.

I am proficient in wakapassing sha.

When it comes to women, any hassle, me gonna!

Merkki:
46? Your grandmother?

I am only 17 years of age o.

Sagamite:

Awey, persin tell you say I be Craig Busch (The Lion Man)?

I no get skills to tame o.

I am proficient in wakapassing sha.

When it comes to women, any hassle, me gonna!

I am only 17 years of o.

Lol. Liar. With that profile picture, you should be close to 47

Merkki:

Lol. Liar. With that profile picture, you should be close to 47

I am young, black and handsome o.

Merkki:

Lol. Liar. With that profile picture, you should be close to 47

Buhahaha!

@topic
I think the former is better than the latter theoretically. They child would be used to the pattern in the former, instead of getting used to having a dad around and then all of a sudden he leaves.

Learning

Why do people prefer half-empty cup to a half-full one?

stillwater:

Buhahaha!

@topic
I think the former is better than the latter theoretically. They child would be used to the pattern in the former, instead of getting used to having a dad around and then all of a sudden he leaves.

Haters gonna hate.

I am a fine murrrafucker.

Sagamite:

Haters gonna hate.

I am a fine murrrafucker.

Then show your face.

Merkki:

Then show your face.

Ask stillwater.

I used to show my face when I first joined NL.

She used to sit by her computer and bat her eyelashes in delight all day.

Sagamite:

Ask stillwater.

I used to show my face when I first joined NL.

She used to sit by her computer and bat her eyelashes in delight all day.

Really? You must be so cute. Good to know.

I know we hear that divorce affects the kids but I sometimes don't get it.

The home has been very unhappy for a while and everyone goes their separate ways, shouldn't the kids be happy esp. when there was an abusive partner?

I get that some divorce cases are just about two adults with too much time on their hands and too little to do.

@Op,

It depends on the circumstances.

What about the case of a husband who is just a sperm donor? The wife is basically the one raising the kids.

Btw, sagamite u should have bent some more in that pose, I would have love to see the bubblicious of your booty