It just came to my knowledge that some babes have vowed never to marry or have anything to do with a Nigerian guy simply b'cos they are stubborn and like controling there babes. I dont think this is the same with all Nigerians, so am asking my fellow Nairalanders. WHT DO YOU THINK?.

I dislike nigerian guys as well

I still dont know why. is it b'cos one messd up in a bad way or you have this bile for us. am at a cross road here please help me out.

no comments.

hmmmm. i believe theres more to it than you are saying. are you afraid to let the demons go.

maybe or maybe not

hmmmmm. i think i will take the first one, MAYBE

funketobi:

maybe or maybe not

noone can eva control me, b/f or no b/f, nigerian or no Nigerian, ontrolling has nuthing to do with nationality, itz not nationality friendly or nationality playa hater, lol

Hmmmm. i like that. Hotstepper. how would u feel if it happens to you.

it won't happen 2 me datz ma point but lemme assume it happened 2 me, i will feel bad and leave da relationship or r u tied down?lol

Nigerian guys r very controlsive.

i will

Hotstepper. nah i aint tired down. just curious 'cos i have a friend who has an issue with the topic, i guess u wont hate the guy and his likes generally?

there r plenty of nice ones out dere, girl, wuteva experience u had with nigerians if u have, well what I can say? itz your life and can't detact 2 u who 2 marry or date, good luck in life sha

tx hotstepper, more like it funketobi. its like you have been waiting for this kinda topic. now do you have a change of heart, there are cools guys out there ok.

funketobi:

i will never marry/date nigerian guys eventhough am nigerian. am sure there are nice ones out dere. is there?

Thanks Akinwunmi & Hotstepper. I really like ur comments n d topic kinda relate to me.

just know dat like i say b4, relationship or wuteva it may be ain't nationality friendly or nationality player hater and noone is perfect but works 2wards perfection

ok.

If they do not controle you, you will go an extra mile, so he tries to avoid that.

If your boyfriend controls you anyhow  knock his head with a mortar pestle and give him a big smack on his bum to bring him to his senses. Please just make sure I am not the guy in question because I throw very fast punches   

Okay, on a more serious note, if your boyfriend controls you anyhow get out of the relationship before he messes up your life for you.

Can't even gv any guy whatsoever, the chance to 'control' me. Nana!

funketobi,

how old are you? If you don't mind me asking

my bf is nigerian he doesnt try to control me at all but he is a stubborn pig but i always win him round.

it depends on the type of control. there are some kinds of control that may be acceptable. and although most percentage of niaja boys are controlling the girls are not saints on this matter. my ex was controlling but i admired it cause it was a jealous control to me, he was giving me all the attention i needed with his "dont do that", "i dont like it when u go there" and all those stuff. even if where still friends, i've noticed that thats just his way of showing love. ofcourse i wont accept an obsessive control freak. i still feel a little bit of control from ur man gets u alot of attention.

baby u are talking

mimi4real:

baby u are talking

lol. my opinion

Why i will not marry or date not only a Nigerian but Arab.

Even if they are Ok, they care a lot of what other people think or say.

I will give an example.
After having kids it was not possible to go out and chill so often together with my ex, so sometimes he will go out alone sometimes i will go out alone.
I used to go to this Nigerian restaurant,fellow Nigerian men will yap me telling me am supposed to be at home and if they were my husband blablabla.
They will never let their wife go out because she will **** with another man.

Well i always asked them to go and produce the man that has bleeped me?
or i will ask then all this while i have been coming (very often) "which one of you has bleeped me" Non could answer with me.
Well it occurred to me that even if your husband gives you the freedom and trust. His friends will talk him out of it and he will change his mind.

2 Nigerian Men they gossip alot. like and in kiss and tell.

3 the pressure of having a baby boy.

Well now that am no longer thinking of marrage , if i happen to go out with a Nigerian and it dose not work out, no second one will follow

Control is an essential part of a relationship like it or not. The first real test of the direction a relationship will go (for me) is when you put up the first 2-3 acts of defiance when i subtly hint you to change a behaviour or do things a particular way. I hint once or twice if i'm marginally interested, maybe about 6 times if i am really interestd and after that i completely back out. We might remain in the relationship but the minute i start telling you "it's your life, do as you wish", that is the sign for you to pack your bags and head for the nearest exit.
No man wants to keep a slave, neither does he want to meet someone he cant even advice. Most guys try to mould their girls to fit their lifestyles, it's very hard especially for girls who are used to having their own way but unfortunately the wise ones have put up with it and they are better for it.

There's a difference between controlling and obsessive controlling, it is perfectly ok for you to attempt to control your bf too except you have to accept men are stubborn and will ordinarily attempt to refuse. A guy that truly loves you will later comply.

Not everybody is the same.

and i think my nigerian guys r attractive.

i wont let any guy control me. nigerian or not.

why nigerian boyfriend, of cause anybody can be controled by anybody so dont spit your fire on them when it happens . i asure you nigerian guys are not all like that wanting to control a lady but they all make rooms to be loved .

Men are supposed to always have the edge and nigerian babes have to bear with that
But im a guy who doesnt do that all thesame BEAR WITH US

alameda:

Men are supposed to always have the edge and nigerian babes have to bear with that
But im a guy who doesnt do that all thesame BEAR WITH US

nigerian babes don't have to do anything that we dont want to.