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Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by JadeWilliam(f): 4:57pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
So many women hav jobs&ar paid good salaries but refuse 2support d man.They'l rather buy brazilian hair,sleek/marykay make ups,Mac powder,gold,dresses/laces&irrelevant thngs;competin amongst their co-workers&tryin 2measure up within their click. A reasonable man who's wife behaves dat way,y won't he change? He has 2work extra hard 2fruit d bills so he comes home exhausted.He might not hav d stamina 2hav s*x 4days cos he's zapped.Abroad,d man might take up 2/3 jobs just 2meet up so dats wot brings abt changes atimes.That's my analysis though 3 Likes |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Nobody: 5:21pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Mehn the op did not lie about are username though |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Eve62(f): 5:27pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Chiscomax: please, how can i open a new nairaland account? what is the website of nairaland? guy u er finished. 1 Like |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Nobody: 5:32pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
socrateez: I have been married for over twenty six years so I can share my experience as to why spouses attitude to each other change after the razzmatazz of the wedding. I came here to read changes noticed in your spouse, not WHY it happens. If yoi cant share yours, go look for a thread where couples are seeking for advice 2 Likes |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Danmas: 5:44pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
bigass: He became bossy and hardly apologizes for his mistakes in short he became kind-of unreasonable in many area especially,my needstit for tat nah! |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by yemmy75(m): 5:56pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Ennyhollar: That is men for usSharrap dia! Women no dey change?? |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Nobody: 6:46pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
leave dis place 4 me, I'll cm bk 2 comment wen I don marry. meanwhile, wit all dis una comments, I dey fear marriage oh |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by dashintrends: 6:47pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
kingthreat: She now uses dildos when I'm awaywhich is better? the real thing when you are out, or the stuff she uses? 1 Like |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Chiscomax(m): 7:18pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Eve62: this is a serious matter... |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Burger01(m): 7:21pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
She has become Carol. |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Deschil: 7:57pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
The WHY is the crux of any problem. BTW, do learn some decorum; rudeness is so immature! nutty_hnic: 12 Likes |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Nobody: 8:27pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
kovak: Her azz got biggerEnjoy yourself, but take it easy b4 you bury yourself inside. |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by dasparrow: 9:10pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
esbjay@gmail.co: @Bolded So true and that describes 99% of Nigerian-bred married people. Many of them are sex addicts and once the sex is gone, their eyes begin to wander about like a torchlight looking for the next available fresh, young private part that they can pound like pounded yam in a mortar. Why do you think that most married folks in Nigeria - especially the males - cheat on their wives once they have been married for long? Because the female private part can never be the same again after babies have passed through it along with several rounds of pounding from the male private part. @Post You are in it already so discussing the behavioral changes in your spouse does not change the fact that you are now stuck with this individual for life. Many people pretend during courtship but once they have acquired you, they are now free to show you their true colors. When all those lovey dovey moments are over, reality sets in, lol. 4 Likes |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by dasparrow: 9:21pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Jade William: So many women hav jobs&ar paid good salaries but refuse 2support d man.They'l rather buy brazilian hair,sleek/marykay make ups,Mac powder,gold,dresses/laces&irrelevant thngs;competin amongst their co-workers&tryin 2measure up within their click. @Bolded Forget that thing and give your fellow women a break Jade William. Is it not the African culture that says that the man should be the provider while the woman takes care of the domestic work while at the same time turning herself into a baby breeding machine? So why are you complaining when the woman allows the man who is her husband to pay all the bills? How many Nigerian-bred husbands support their wives by helping them with domestic work in the home and actively assist the wife with the rearing of the children? Very few. It is no wonder that Nigerian society is now crawling with paedophiles, r8pists, cultists, kidnappers and the likes. It is because Nigerian-bred fathers have abandoned their child rearing roles to their wives and we are seeing the outcome now. A society filled with adult males who molest every female in sight irrespective of how young or old she is. 6 Likes |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by BrosG: 9:44pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
I HAD GREAT DREAMS, TO BE TO HER THE BEST HUSBAND. BUT HOW CAN I DO THAT NOW WHEN AM STILL HOPING TO BE FINANCIALLY OKAY. I just feel like I have failed her |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by safedriveng: 9:47pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
sagaciousone: I hope mine learn this fast because she owns the relationship while I own the marriage |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Nobody: 9:58pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
bigass: He became bossy and hardly apologizes for his mistakes in short he became kind-of unreasonable in many area especially,my needsHe became bossy, abi! What do you expect, your houseboy you never see anythin. 1 Like |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Eyop: 10:01pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Trvlla'c: Don't mind her,e never clear for her eyes yet . When the man remembers the amount he has spent for Traditional and church wedding which might be over a million naira if the lady is from the east then his true colours must surface and love will be pocketed |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Okijajuju1(m): 11:15pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
Chiscomax: Why? |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Godmother(f): 11:52pm On Nov 28, 2013 |
@ dasparrow I love you!! Pls marry me!! You have hit the nail on the head so well |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by prettyboi1(m): 1:44am On Nov 29, 2013 |
All these things are happening because Nigerians see marriage as a rank you're promoted to rather than a certified friendship between 2 people. Every day you'd be hearing crap like "your mates are all married & you're still here forming sexy.", "you're 28 & you're still single? Ah I pity you." ,"you better go & marry before we see you with any iota of respect. " Well dumb people get dumb results. You all should not complain about How your spouses have changed o. Stay & enjoy your "responsible" marriages while the smart ones are settling down with their friends. 8 Likes |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by adorable29(f): 5:49am On Nov 29, 2013 |
pretty_boi: All these things are happening because Nigerians see marriage as a rank you're promoted to rather than a certified friendship between 2 people. Every day you'd be hearing crap like "your mates are all married & you're still here forming sexy.", "you're 28 & you're still single? Ah I pity you." ,"you better go & marry before we see you with any iota of respect. " Well dumb people get dumb results. You all should not complain about How your spouses have changed o. Stay & enjoy your "responsible" marriages while the smart ones are settling down with their friends. A very valid point you have made. Our society has caused marriage to be an Upgrade instead of a friendship! I wish people will understand that the first reason (biblically ) for marriage is companionship (friendship) . To avoid fornication is second and childbearing comes a distant third! This days, pple are married to their enemies which is rather sad. A married couple should LEARN to be each others BEST FRIENDS! 1 Like |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Pholar97(m): 6:49am On Nov 29, 2013 |
Infact its get out hands now, she always not in the mood. & after begin her into the mood is only one round. I'm almost fed up,& not want to cheat;( |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Nobody: 9:12am On Nov 29, 2013 |
The key to all this is for a man to have a minimum of THREE standard partners he can fall back on whenever the wife is trying to mess him up. Then she stops being a problem. The problem starts when you abandon all your female friends and stop chatting with the ladies....in the name of being married..... eventually she becomes the only thing going in your life and that can lead to problems.. Anything 'bad' she does disturbs you a lot more than it should. You forget she's just another bitc.h out of many......... Don't get into that hole of your life revolving around her, and you should be fine. 2 Likes |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by dsaynt: 11:18am On Nov 29, 2013 |
dasparrow: I agree with your insight on the way kids turn out cos their fathers have not been responsible but on your other points note this -The African context that you were referring to did not take into cognisnace that the woman would be working woman. If she is working then she is not the house wife that the saying envisioned so she should contribute o! The man should do the lionshare and the woman add small but the essence of the home is joint effort. The man should do a lot of child rearing/bonding activities too. If she is cooking he should be watching the kids/giving them bathes etc....shared effort. Thats the game.As for that contribution to the family purse......omo she suppose contribute o! |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by ladyju(f): 12:04pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
ROSSIKE: The key to all this is for a man to have a minimum of THREE standard partners he can fall back on whenever the wife is trying to mess him up. Then she stops being a problem. The problem starts when you abandon all your female friends and stop chatting with the ladies....in the name of being married..... eventually she becomes the only thing going in your life and that can lead to problems.. Anything 'bad' she does disturbs you a lot more than it should. You forget she's just another bitc.h out of Oh my! Ur wife? Another bitc.h out of many. Too bad. 4 Likes |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by gerald09(m): 12:05pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
Haba this aint fair I only came on this post cos I was hoping on reading good quality changes dat can encourage me to marry sharp sharp, but it aint looking good so far. If all uz are dis miserable in the marriage then y remain in it? People make mistakes in life, even in dere love life but still staying in d same mistake and hoping for the best is absurd! Or is dere a great side to all these changes? abeg tell me. |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by asab0234: 1:22pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
Gpattern: guys sorry for not sticking to the question... Plz i need advice, am about getting married in january but just notice that there is this guy on bbm that is flirting with my babe up to the point of sending her love song via bbm, what should i do... Because am angry about it.Dont be distracted, focus on what u want and dont stop loving ur babe. The devil has a way of stealing people's joy, he knows d benefit or blessings that is attached to ur marriage, dont let him steal ur joy. |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by asab0234: 1:33pm On Nov 29, 2013 |
ROSSIKE: The key to all this is for a man to have a minimum of THREE standard partners he can fall back on whenever the wife is trying to mess him up. Then she stops being a problem. The problem starts when you abandon all your female friends and stop chatting with the ladies....in the name of being married..... eventually she becomes the only thing going in your life and that can lead to problems.. Anything 'bad' she does disturbs you a lot more than it should. You forget she's just another bitc.h out of many......... Don't get into that hole of your life revolving around her, and you should be fine.Ah ah! who brought this lost sheep here? 3 Likes |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by krystal101(f): 6:37am On Dec 01, 2013 |
Lol! @ all the men that commented and were complaining... 1. If your wife changes, and you don't like the change, what happened to discussing it? Having children & chores aren that easy, infact its difficult. Sometimes it's not easy adapting to the new life (hubby, CHORES, babies) Sometimes you should understand to the men @ topic: My hubby became more concerned about me, esp my needs. He helps out at home. |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by Youngpo413: 5:48am On Sep 29, 2014 |
krystal101: Lol! @ all the men that commented and were complaining... lucky you! |
Re: Changes You Noticed In Your Spouse After Marriage! by keleke: 7:00am On Sep 29, 2014 |
I am head over hills in love with my Nigerian king
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