i keep wondering, pls men i need to understand something here. you husbands, dont you actually get tired of sleeping with or being intimate with the same woman over years. As in does a time come that when you guys are about to have your thing with her you are not sexually aroused and your organ refuses to respond since you guys are aroused by what you see and i mean you have been seeing her body over and over again during lovemaking and out of love making. i mean after her having all those children e.g 5 and the tummy fats and the fact that shes been the same old person, its really to surprising to me that men can still be visibly aroused by their wives to me. but am not a man so i dont understand. besides am not married. so do you guys really remain continously aroused? how and why? or is it some fact you just have to live with for the rest of your life since you cant change wife? help a young chap understand

Allison Dezani is still sexy aint she?
Even as old as she is some guys in their 20s and 30s wouldn't mind marrying her, money aside.

Point...
Be a woman that takes good care of herself and you have nothing to worry about.

Capt. JH Miller:
Allison Dezani is still sexy aint she?
Even as old as she is some guys in their 20s and 30s wouldn't mind marrying her, money aside.

Point...
Be a woman that takes good care of herself and you have nothing to worry about.

Gbam!
Plus, marriage for some is mainly about companionship. Sex is a perk that comes with it.
That said, I completely agree with Capt. Miller. For those women that are unable, you better pray that your husband's libido depreciates with age. But if you end up with the papa saliu kinda man, you'd have to forget sex when you stop being attractive.
Point is, pray that your husband's libido has an inversely proportional relationship with your age once you clock fifty.


P.s: papa saliu is an eighty-som'n year old man in d village that just got married (for the umpteenth time) 5years ago. His first wife is still alive and she looks like his elder sister...

was with Jumoke Akinjide....she's enuff to give you a full Attention at above 50

You are not married! so why are you disturbing yourself about what transpires between a man and his wife?... The last time i checked, this is not a romance section... There are several things about romance that you can understand by simply going to the Google privately ... I have nothing against someone trying to be educated on any topic neither am i claiming to be a decent person here but i feel the issues of intimacy between a man and a woman is a private thing and should be treated so... We can discuss politics, soccer, academics, Business etc freely but i feel how sexual partners have their fun should be strictly their business, more so, we are Africans our culture demands some level of censorship and decorum on issues like that ... Marriage itself is not all about sex...

Pvssy get the same shape. Sometimes its not the woman that arouses you but becauch you jvst wanna Bleep.

That God's hand work... s3x is just like food, you can't tell me now that way your rice stew tasted last week that's how it tasted last night.
is just as if saying why do you love eating your mum's meal everyday. the meal that she has been cooking since you were born o.
S3x is naturally renew

ITS A MIRACLE.

some women still cant take their clothes off in front of the man, for fear of being grabbed.

na wa o

danny301: You are not married! so why are you disturbing yourself about what transpires between a man and his wife?... The last time i checked, this is not a romance section... There are several things about romance that you can understand by simply going to the Google privately ... I have nothing against someone trying to be educated on any topic neither am i claiming to be a decent person here but i feel the issues of intimacy between a man and a woman is a private thing and should be treated so... We can discuss politics, soccer, academics, Business etc freely but i feel how sexual partners have their fun should be strictly their business, more so, we are Africans our culture demands some level of censorship and decorum on issues like that ... Marriage itself is not all about sex...

some pple are okay discussing these matters.

let them be.

am married and i gain alot from other pple's experiences.

or u want me to ask my mum how to please my husband?

danny301: You are not married! so why are you disturbing yourself about what transpires between a man and his wife?... The last time i checked, this is not a romance section... There are several things about romance that you can understand by simply going to the Google privately ... I have nothing against someone trying to be educated on any topic neither am i claiming to be a decent person here but i feel the issues of intimacy between a man and a woman is a private thing and should be treated so... We can discuss politics, soccer, academics, Business etc freely but i feel how sexual partners have their fun should be strictly their business, more so, we are Africans our culture demands some level of censorship and decorum on issues like that ... Marriage itself is not all about sex...

Thank You!

@OP, seeing as understanding the very private matter that transpires between a man and his wife causes you sleepless nights, why not start by asking your mother, or better still, your dad about how he is / was continuously aroused by his wife after years of marriage?

Having said that, you might want to pay more attention to your education - your title / headline spelling so far is atrocious.

Hahahahah

You can tell who the insecure ladies here are from their posts.

Bawss1: Hahahahah

You can tell who the insecure ladies here are from their posts.

Really? How?

Okada abeg drop me here...

Oh please, leave the poster alone! She asked a valid question, if you cannot answer, waka pass. It's not by force. Some people are comfortable sharing such information. It's ok if you're not.

@Op, interesting topic you've got there. I would have preferred you ask both gender. That will give a wider view.

Perhaps, IF YOU EVER GET THERE. . .you may find out why!
No need asking for explanation about something you have not been privileged to experience abi?
You sound like some ONLINE CHRISTIAN DIE-VORCEES in the NL FAMILY-section talking about successful marriages even when they have not been fortunate to stay in one OR SEVERAL!

Bottom line. . .
Don't wonder about what you have not experienced YET!

Be the very sweet, Neat, smart, wonderful, caring, friendly, independent, reasonable......etc person he married, and nothing is gon change.

@op, it's a thing of the mind, but if you're not there, you can't tell how you got there.

At topic,I've wondered too.

I love this!

Efemena_xy:

Thank You!

@OP, seeing as understanding the very private matter that transpires between a man and his wife causes you sleepless nights, why not start by asking your mother, or better still, your dad about how he is / was continuously aroused by his wife after years of marriage?

Having said that, you might want to pay more attention to your education - your title / headline spelling so far is atrocious.

danny301: You are not married! so why are you disturbing yourself about what transpires between a man and his wife?... The last time i checked, this is not a romance section... There are several things about romance that you can understand by simply going to the Google privately ... I have nothing against someone trying to be educated on any topic neither am i claiming to be a decent person here but i feel the issues of intimacy between a man and a woman is a private thing and should be treated so... We can discuss politics, soccer, academics, Business etc freely but i feel how sexual partners have their fun should be strictly their business, more so, we are Africans our culture demands some level of censorship and decorum on issues like that ... Marriage itself is not all about sex...

won tunde o.won tun bere abosi.what are you hiding,sex in and out of marriage is no more sacred because human beings made it so.moreover the so called african culture has been extremely eroded.smh

one anoying thing about some africans is HYPOCRISY/PRETENCE. What are they hiding,as if others dont know as e dey go.smh

chaircover: A man who genuinely loves his wife and didn't marry her just for her looks only,(cos looks fade) will have no problem in always wanting to be intimate with his wife no matter how long they have been married for. . . .

apt,precise,factual and real.devoid of hypocrisy and high handedness....infact,i dey always feel you die

Phema: Oh please, leave the poster alone! She asked a valid question, if you cannot answer, waka pass. It's not by force. Some people are comfortable sharing such information. It's ok if you're not.

@Op, interesting topic you've got there. I would have preferred you ask both gender. That will give a wider view.

abi o.see as op dey ask innocent question,see as them dey give am sermon/preaching/advise wey get nothing to do with the question op dey ask.some people ehen.mshewwwwwww.smh

kulyie: abi o.see as op dey ask innocent question,see as them dey give am sermon/preaching/advise wey get nothing to do with the question op dey ask.some people ehen.mshewwwwwww.smh

Don't mind those hypocrites jare. What is the big deal? Like anyone here is 10.

Op most married men are cheating even when their wives are still hot, independent and sexy. You question should be 'why do men cheat' rather. And by the way, as the women are fading, the men are getting flabby,bald and ugly too. So i guess the women are allowed to lose interest too

danny301: You are not married! so why are you disturbing yourself about what transpires between a man and his wife?... The last time i checked, this is not a romance section... There are several things about romance that you can understand by simply going to the Google privately ... I have nothing against someone trying to be educated on any topic neither am i claiming to be a decent person here but i feel the issues of intimacy between a man and a woman is a private thing and should be treated so... We can discuss politics, soccer, academics, Business etc freely but i feel how sexual partners have their fun should be strictly their business, more so, we are Africans our culture demands some level of censorship and decorum on issues like that ... Marriage itself is not all about sex...

LOL I thought this suppose to be a family section where things relating to family are discussed, what is wrong for someone asking about husband and a wife affair? Won't the person get married too? We are here to learn and educate ourselves, this forum is not meant for kids.

Nothing wrong with the question..and some people get it wrong sef.

The example of Diezani is not it. That many people outside would want her does not mean that the same man whom she's married for long has the same feelings about her.
The emphasis is on the fact that the husband has constantly seen her and not on how she looks.

But the poster who used the rice/mother's cooking analogy got it right. If that is how it really is, good

chaircover: A man who genuinely loves his wife and didn't marry her just for her looks only,(cos looks fade) will have no problem in always wanting to be intimate with his wife no matter how long they have been married for. . . .

Cc i troway salute for your post.