Not sure how we arrived at this topic but i asked one of the women in my life what her thoughts were on cheating, her response was an emphatic YES. Her reason was that it betrays the relationship if one partner fantasizes over another woman even if it's done electronically. I don't totally agree with her especially if it's done in moderation but then again, where do you draw the line when it comes to cheating?


The only time i think it's borderline cheating is when live interaction is involved.



I'm not an advocate for the act of cheating or watching pornography.

Abeg enough of poooorn threads and questions already. Shuo !

You want watch or even act one- feel free. You no want watch- free world. Its your body and eyes,use it wisely and as u deem fit.

I think this should go to romance.

Maybe u can get the answer from this definitions given by relationship counselors.

Types of infidelity:

1.Physical Infidelity: When one spouse physically engages in intimate activities with someone outside the marriage

2.Emotional Infidelity: When one spouse becomes emotionally attached to someone outside the marriage. Counselors say this is the most dangerous most popular, and leads to most breakups. Example is when a man gives more attention to p.orn, a co-worker, ex girlfriend etc more than his wife. It's also when a woman becomes more loyal to her pastor or friend than her husband.

3.Cheating: Can be a one time encounter with another person outside the marriage, and usually easily forgiven if the cheat shows remorse and stops. Example is a drunk man who engaged in a one-night encounter with a s.ex worker but realizes his mistake and apologize to his wife.

4. Affair: When an intimate encounter happens outside the marriage consistently, over a period of time. This is the one most spouses don't forgive easily because it usually involves lying and deceiving a partner over the period it lasted.

Concerning watching indecency, if a spouse has no problems with it, and if it doesn't stop one from paying adequate attention to one's spouse then it may not be an issue. After all there are live indecencies these days the way some young ladies dress to church, parties, and events. If a lady is going to waste her time having headache over what her man is looking at then that lady isn't serious, also has insecurity problems. Both should go for counseling. There's a deeper issue in the relationship.

ifyalways: Abeg enough of poooorn threads and questions already. Shuo !

You want watch or even act one- feel free. You no want watch- free world. Its your body and eyes,use it wisely and as u deem fit.

So, do you think it's cheating? I think that's the OP's question.

Tgirl4real: I think this should go to romance.

Why? Because it's very romantic and married couples don't watch it


This is more of an issue for married couples than non committed relationship because you're stuck with that person for however long the marriage lasts, plus romance is filled with kids

2legit2qwt:

Why? Because it's very romantic and married couples don't watch it


This is more of an issue for married couples than non committed relationship because you're stuck with that person for however long the marriage lasts, plus romance is filled with kids

No. It's cos you didn't put in a marriage context in ur OP.

fresh_dude: So, do you think it's cheating? I think that's the OP's question.

Lol.

Recommended.

I'm saying that it is capital N O

I know married couples that watch pooorn together.
Kini big deal?
There's nothing wrong in that.

If watching adult movies is considered cheating, then fantasising, role playing and other related edifices are considered cheating.

Not if you watch it together.

what is porn¿

It's not cheating but definitely a pain in the ar.se!

But what's the point of watching porn, anyway?

You're just giving yourself blue-balls over thing.

Shyte, I know I'll never meet any woman with a batty as big, fat, soft, and round as Cherooke D'a.ss' - and definitely no chic that can ride and suck the django like her. So why bother watching her and fantasizing over something I can never get?

Gave up on porn time ago - do the same, bruv.

Blue-balls kills!!

Yap

Have even forgotten that this is on frontpage. there is notting wrong with it, at least I have had couples that buy many. If u only get arose when watching it before you could make fun with your partner, seat her down and tell her or isn't that what u there to do, I mean rubbing feelings. But if u deliberately watch it and you can avoid it but u did not, then its a cheat on heR. Thank You.

Yahoo1: what is porn¿

pornographi.

not at all

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Girraffs

Yes, it is.. Watching movies where couples kiss, is cheating too..


Infact, staring at two people holding hands and kissing anywhere around ur county or province is cheating at its peak.

shymexx: It's not cheating but definitely a pain in the ar.se!

But what's the point of watching porn, anyway?

You're just giving yourself blue-balls over thing.

Shyte, I know I'll never meet any woman with a batty as big, fat, soft, and round as Cherooke D'a.ss' - and definitely no chic that can ride and suck the django like her. So why bother watching her and fantasizing over something I can never get?

Gave up on porn time ago - do the same, bruv.

Blue-balls kills!!

hehehehhe...dude must have invested his time heavily in this sh*t to even know the star actresses....But who doesnt know Cherokee?...loooool...May God help us

I stopped following Cherokee ever since she got that tattoo..

This is the height of hyprocrisy, so we cant even write pooorn on nairaland. Instead,it is referred to as indecency.... ...shior kelebe tweh!

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drnairalov:
pornographi.

jeez ..i wanted to write PORN! i must sue...i hv been misquoted

What is indecency? Are we going to sit back & watch Seun do this to the English language?

What's bad in the word po*nograhy? Indecency can mean anything, it could be a guy urinating in the centre of the road.

@ the topic - watching po*n isn't cheating, loads of couples watch it to spice things up, loads of people watch it, from governors to senators to MPs to even clerics, Bin Laden had po*n stash in his house, but portrayed a holier than thou image to his ardent followers.

However, addiction to the point of withdrawing from the world of reality, into that of fantasy, is where the problem lies.

What

Even Jesus christ confirmed it. When he said that whoever looks @ a woman so as to have a passion for her has already commited adultery(cheating) with her in his heart. (matth 5:29)