alutacontinua: Hmmmmmmmm....diabetes, if managed well shouldn't be a cause of bedmatics problem. But he'll have to manage it well. The timing for d dialysis could be adjusted to it in to their daily schedule. If she's ready to stand by the guy through thick and thin, and that's where her heart is, she should go for it. Shr just needs to educate herself on the conditions of the guy. If she decides to marry another person while her heart is still with this guy, it won't just be fair on all parties involved.



Also, this is a serious topic, you might wanna move it to the family section to get more matured responses.

Fxwarrior: To get more matured what? Why did you comment if you ain't matured girl!
Op wetin come concern you for this mata? Better allow her make decision herself and live with it.
Heart and Head are separated. Do you know why?

Fxwarrior: To get more matured what? Why did you comment if you ain't matured girl!
Op wetin come concern you for this mata? Better allow her make decision herself and live with it.
Heart and Head are separated. Do you know why?

masonkz: I'm actually interested in this topic, cos a friend of mine just got diagnosed recently with kidney failure. He has been on dialysis for some weeks now. The thing is he also has a girl he has been planning on marrying.


Anyway, @OP, would this dialysis go on forever? Or would there be a time where he'd at least have to go through kidney transplant to replace the failed kidney, that's if and when he gets a donor though.

Still even scared of talking to my friend about his kidney issue.

chineloSA:

Luv, I will see how much response I get. If little response, I may move the topic to another section as suggested.

Your friend need serious support, don't run away from him when he needs you the most. His girlfriend is in for a challenge, I tell you.Some days are good and some are bad. Some days they wake some they cant. Kidney failure affects alot of things. In fact she must accept she has a first born ( his boyfriend), not a boyfriend, little expectations. Support him with his Diet, mental health, dialysis etc. Dialysis on its own is too much work, lucky the guy is a doctor himself.
Your friends own is better, he only has kidney failure and he may get a donor and live a full life.

According to the guy, he has a donor who matches. His childhood friend, but his Nephrologist is against a transplant for now. He wants him to be on dialysis and then see. I am not sure,see what because kidney damage is not reversible.

Talk to your friend though. He needs you.

alutacontinua:

Transplant shld be the last resort because once she gets a transplant, she'll be put on some drugs which would weaken her immune system. Her chances of fighting infections become very slim which means she even has a higher chance of dieing from infections than kidney failure.

chineloSA:

Luv, I will see how much response I get. If little response, I may move the topic to another section as suggested.

Your friend need serious support, don't run away from him when he needs you the most. His girlfriend is in for a challenge, I tell you.Some days are good and some are bad. Some days they wake some they cant. Kidney failure affects alot of things. In fact she must accept she has a first born ( his boyfriend), not a boyfriend, little expectations. Support him with his Diet, mental health, dialysis etc. Dialysis on its own is too much work, lucky the guy is a doctor himself.
Your friends own is better, he only has kidney failure and he may get a donor and live a full life.

According to the guy, he has a donor who matches. His childhood friend, but his Nephrologist is against a transplant for now. He wants him to be on dialysis and then see. I am not sure,see what because kidney damage is not reversible.

Talk to your friend though. He needs you.

alutacontinua:

Transplant shld be the last resort because once she gets a transplant, she'll be put on some drugs which would weaken her immune system. Her chances of fighting infections become very slim which means she even has a higher chance of dieing from infections than kidney failure.

masonkz:

Do you mean that the numerous people that have done transplants have a high risk of dieing from kidney-related infections?

alutacontinua:

Actually, all kinds of infections. Not only kidney-related, their immune system is suppressed, so, it won't fight the new kidney, thereby, exposing them to infections.

masonkz:

Hmm. So I guess they consistently have to be on treatment even after the whole transplant.



I agree, this should be moved to health.

Yield: ^Specialguest, I hope you continue to find the strength to take care of your mom. Hugs.

specialguest:
1) the patient i am taking care of dialysis 3 times a week in a hospital and each session is four hours! I find time to drop and pick her up from the hospital in between my work schedule but luckily enough for your friend her patient has a dialysis machine at home so that makes it alot easier except off-course it coincides with the bedmatics time your friend so desires. So compromises have to be made on your friend's part.

2) depending on where the dialysis access has been created the patient might not be able to have a full bath due to the fear of infecting where the dialysis access is. What this means is that your friend might have to help him clean up every now and then

3) kidney failure patients suffer alot of complications among which is bone degeneration, therefore they constantly take expensive injections like iron and eropotein epo . Lets hope your friend's fiancee's bills are covered by a health insurance scheme else this might put a strain on their finances because i can recall some moments where i had to pay for those injections and i virtually empty my wallet yet the money wont be enough till use my atm card in their pos to complete the money. Remember it is not a one off thing!

4) when the toxic level in their blood is high i.e creatinine and urea, they mostly throw up any food eaten so this means your friend may be dealing with constant vomit except of course he dialysis constantly and the toxic clearance after his dialysis is good.

specialguest:
5) kindly note that dialysis is very very very expensive. In private hospitals in Abuja it costs between 25000 to 30000 Naira per session and most patients require 3 sessions weekly till they can get a transplant done. This brings me back to number 3 finance! 25000* 3 times a week = 75000 plus iron and epo approx 100,000 weekly that amounts to almost half a million in a month! It takes the grace of God for a dialysis patient not to go broke except he is a millionaire.

specialguest:
6) mood swings, depression, attitudinal changes etc are some common behaviors found in kidney failure patients and i am sure we all know why they behave that way sometimes! Bottom line is it is not eazy but if after reading all these she feels she can cope, fine she should go ahead by all means please .

specialguest: @ ChineloSA a nephrologist once told me that some of the drugs kidney failure patients take can actually affect fertility in women but I don't know about the effects of the drugs on. men. You can ask online @ mayo clinic am sure a nephrologist would be glad to respond to your query.

specialguest: This is a very personal topic to me because i have spent the last 4 years of my life taking care of a kidney failure patient who happens to be my mother and it has not been eazy. Let me give you a little idea of the challenges i go through and your friend is likely to face for now until a successful transplant has been done.

1) the patient i am taking care of dialysis 3 times a week in a hospital and each session is four hours! I find time to drop and pick her up from the hospital in between my work schedule but luckily enough for your friend her patient has a dialysis machine at home so that makes it alot easier except off-course it coincides with the bedmatics time your friend so desires. So compromises have to be made on your friend's part.

2) depending on where the dialysis access has been created the patient might not be able to have a full bath due to the fear of infecting where the dialysis access is. What this means is that your friend might have to help him clean up every now and then

3) kidney failure patients suffer alot of complications among which is bone degeneration, therefore they constantly take expensive injections like iron and eropotein epo . Lets hope your friend's fiancee's bills are covered by a health insurance scheme else this might put a strain on their finances because i can recall some moments where i had to pay for those injections and i virtually empty my wallet yet the money wont be enough till use my atm card in their pos to complete the money. Remember it is not a one off thing!

4) when the toxic level in their blood is high i.e creatinine and urea, they mostly throw up any food eaten so this means your friend may be dealing with constant vomit except of course he dialysis constantly and the toxic clearance after his dialysis is good.

5) kindly note that dialysis is very very very expensive. In private hospitals in Abuja it costs between 25000 to 30000 Naira per session and most patients require 3 sessions weekly till they can get a transplant done. This brings me back to number 3 finance! 25000* 3 times a week = 75000 plus iron and epo approx 100,000 weekly that amounts to almost half a million in a month! It takes the grace of God for a dialysis patient not to go broke except he is a millionaire.

6) mood swings, depression, attitudinal changes etc are some common behaviors found in kidney failure patients and i am sure we all know why they behave that way sometimes! Bottom line is it is not eazy but if after reading all these she feels she can cope, fine she should go ahead by all means please .

I could go on and on but i really don't feel like typing much tonight.

Above everything, love conquers all so i have found myself joyfully and willingly taking care of the kidney failure patient i have with all my heart, might and strength while looking up to God for a miracle healing in her life and the life of every other CKD patient.