If ur single and you live by yourself and work

how do you manage evrything that goes on around you.

first, cleaning up your space, cooking, bills, keeping in touch with people

getting to work, hanging out?

how do you manage it all?!!

Gamine:

If your single and you live by yourself and work

how do you manage evrything that goes on around you.

first, cleaning up your space, cooking, bills, keeping in touch with people

getting to work, hanging out?

how do you manage it all?!!

Once you start living alone, everything would come into place. I used to stay with my younger bro and 2 sisters-
Mum's House, but mum is based in naij, so for a couple of years i can tell you that i never cooked or cleaned anything in the house . . . When i started staying alone, AUTOMATICALLY the whole cleaning, washing etc would come into place and you'll realise you're getting responsible either with u knowing when to pay the bills or knowing when to cook/clean etc   
i learnt how to cook when my friends would come over and cook and i'll watch everything and gradually i started cooking for myself

The keepin' in touch wit people for me is easy cus i only have 1 male friends and he's outside london, most of my friends are females and they come over once in a while - mostly weekends

If you love your own space then you'll really enjoy staying by yourself

tboy1:

Once you start living alone, everything would come into place. I used to stay with my younger bro and 2 sisters-
Mum's House, but mum is based in naij, so for a couple of years i can tell you that i never cooked or cleaned anything in the house . . . When i started staying alone, AUTOMATICALLY the whole cleaning, washing etc would come into place and you'll realise you're getting responsible either with u knowing when to pay the bills or knowing when to cook/clean etc
i learnt how to cook when my friends would come over and cook and i'll watch everything and gradually i started cooking for myself

The keepin' in touch wit people for me is easy cus i only have 1 male friends and he's outside london, most of my friends are females and they come over once in a while - mostly weekends

If you love your own space then you'll really enjoy staying by yourself

True Yarns.

@Nana, true yarns?

r u also a guy.

Easier said than done sha.

Living alone no easy o, im tired

Gamine:

@Nana, true yarns?

r u also a guy.

Easier said than done sha.

Living alone no easy o, im tired

That means you like being around people, don't worry you'll get used to leaving alone

i have been called a loner as i appreciate my space and don't do hanging out with friends thingy.
all about making the dosh this days.

staying alone in the western world is a lot easy as one keeps busy with round the clock programmes on tv, footie, financial news/stock market to give u the adrenalin rush, occasional visits from the shorties to keep stress in check et al

I appreciate the space and the fact you can plan what You want to do per time.

But theres no one to help around,

my bedroom is in a state cos i hv to rush to work.

i cook only at night and sometimes i fall asleep eating.

its really tiring , i get to go out only at weekends which sometimes

i use to really sleep.

kai!

Gamine:

@Nana, true yarns?

r u also a guy.

Easier said than done sha.

Living alone no easy o, im tired

Lol,am not a guy. But really yeah,i see myself doing that as i love being on my own.

Living alone is not something everone can enjoy as we all have different personalities. If u don't have loner tendencies, it'll be really hard getting used to but you will.
It's the best way to live.

Its the best way to live

hmm, i see.

there is nothing like having your own space but i must admit I'd rather have people around me

with living alone u have to develop a routine and stick to it as much as possible

if you do all your washing up and cleaning over the weekend, there isnt much pressure over the week

plan out your wardrobe for the whole week and lay everything out within easy reach, that way u don't mess up your room lookin for stuff when u are rushing to get ready in the mornings.

experiment with light meals during the week, not necessarily microwave meals but easy to prepare stuff. . . its easier to manage plus u can look forward to a elaborate meals over the weekend.

heres a tip, sundays i reserve for me time! I allow myself a long lie-in and just chill out. all my housework and personal grooming is done on Saturdays to get them out of the way and i do my socialising on Fridays and Saturday nights ( i do hav friends popping over during the week tho) so sundays are for chilling out, catching up on some much needed sleep and the bits and pieces u never get around to doing.

the trick is to get into a routine that will help ease the pressure

I tried to use my sundays but One has to go to church.

which may even take up most of the day.

I guess planning in this case is everything.

Light meals during the week, i try but they finish so fast!

Planning out wardrobe, i dont think this is very possible

im a bit indecisive and the day may affect what i want to wear

Gamine:

I tried to use my sundays but One has to go to church.

which may even take up most of the day.

I guess planning in this case is everything.

Light meals during the week, i try but they finish so fast!

Planning out wardrobe, i don't think this is very possible

im a bit indecisive and the day may affect what i want to wear

I am indecisive as well and I found planning my wardrobe for the week saves me almost an hour standing and staring at my wardrobe, trying to find what to wear every morning. . . also it saves the mess of trying sumthin on and discarding it. the trick is to stick with whatever u hav laid out, whether u like it or not. in time u'll instinctlively know what outfits suit want days and moods

As for the light meals, stocking up. . . i do my grocery shopping first thing on Saturday mornings (very early, sumtimes i dont take a shower befor i go ) i stock up on absolutely everything, and then some, , nothing like being in the mood for summin and finding out u r all out. , leave nothin to chance.

If u succeed in getting everything out of the way, sundays will be stress free, even if u spend the whole day in church. u can have an early night!

Just hang in there tho, u'll soon find ur rhythm

Gamine:

Its the best way to live

hmm, i see.

Don't worry, you'll get used to it. Though I'm not living alone at the moment, I miss it badly and can hardly wait to get back to living that way.

naijacutee:

[color=#000099]I think I'm kind of like jay-bee. I'm a bit of a loner and when people come around/when I'm going out I have to prepare myself mentally, physically, psychologically etc :-) I think I just enjoy spending time with myself, but I'm trying not to do it and I'm trying to keep my friends around etc.

Am I feeling you or what? I drive my friends and prospective dates over the edge with this side of me. They gotta beg, beg and beg before I agree to go anywhere majorly fun and wheneva I do, It's always a blast!

Gamine:

I tried to use my sundays but One has to go to church
which may even take up most of the day.

Go for the 1st service: in early, out early.

Gamine:


Planning out wardrobe, i don't think this is very possible

im a bit indecisive and the day may affect what i want to wear

You'll have to adjust o, planning what to wear for the week is a vital part of single life. Best thing you can do is have some 'wear at any mood clothes'.

Thanks Hotness, Saturday early shopping looks good.
but one is tempted to sleep long on friday nights
and if one goes out, it would make it worse.

Like you said, finding out personal rhythm is key


@Tollu,

im trying to get used to it ooh
after living most of my life with Plenty people.
i like being alone, but i cnt be for too long ooh
i have to go out!

Sunday service is at Ten, i dont hv any earlier service nearby.

chei.

You guys have it good.
try living alone when you can't cook.
In fact, i now know how to cook indomie 15 different ways. . .

It's also shocking when i survey the mess i make. . .
was thinking i might get someone to clean around the house once a week

texazzpete:

You guys have it good.
try living alone when you can't cook.
In fact, i now know how to cook indomie 15 different ways. . .

It's also shocking when i survey the mess i make. . .
was thinking i might get someone to clean around the house once a week

LOL

getting help sounds like a good idea. . . u cld also think of buying home cooked meals to freeze

Texazz,

Shey i told you! hehehehe

u best employ that I.T girl

she may even do more than cook and clean for you

Well, basically it’s not fun at all. Especially for fun-loving, lazy people like us. I love company and I kind of feel really really lonely staying alone in my apartment. But over the 2yrs I’ve been living this way, I’ve developed a routine which I think is quite effective.

Monday – Friday:
 Wake up by 5.30am, attend morning mass
 Come back and fix myself light breakfast while I dress my bed and clean out my room (and wash the dishes immediately)
 Leave for work by 8.00am and come back by 7.00pm
 Have dinner, watch News and any movie I want to or go on a date if I have any
 Settle down to do any work I brought home or any study I want to by 10.00pm.
 I never stay awake beyond 11.00pm, no matter what!!!

Saturday
 Wake by 7.00am (No morning mass)
 Do my laundry/clean up
 Go shopping by 12noon
 Go visiting/outing/swimming

Sunday
 Make my meals for the week and keep in the refrigerator
 Pick out my wardrobe for the week (and I stick with that)
 Go for evening mass/benediction
 Come back home by 7.00
 Watch any news I can till bedtime
 I usually sleep early on Sundays, its become a habit over time

Of course there might be some changes once in a while but basically it’s the same and I’m kind of comfortable with it.

hmm,

A serious routine life o!

Thats some strict schedule 

living with people and living alone has its pros and cons, if you live alone you stand the risk of being disconnected from people socially especially in a country like uk which is from experience,also one gets bored and despondent easily but it has its advantages like being totally free and having all the privacy,i live alone presently but i dont work just lectures and home and the social outings and what not but i and my brother are moving together because i v gotten fed up of the life cause i was nearly going bunkers

Is Gamine for real ?? I love living alone,I'm 23 male and in the University. I live alone in a 3 bed room flat,one for clothes,one as my bed room. I've been living alone for about 4 years now,and i love it. Luckly for me I'm spotlessly clean & don't bother with cooking since I'm always on one sort of diet or the other

I'm very irritable,and i can't bear when someone messes my house,little things like putting feet up or leaving an ashtray in the wrong place ticks me off ! I want to put something in one place and meet it there 10 year from now !
I'm very social,but enjoy quite time by myself,plus i like reading. I agree with naijacutee when people come around I have to prepare myself mentally,when I'd rather be reading a book or watching TV.

I'm supposed to go for my masters in UK this year,but have to wait till next year to save enough money so I won't have to share a house.

I don't think I could live with anyone again until I get married,and even that might be tough.

i was far more organised and i had my shit together when i was living alone.

i was able to keep to my goals. i was up at 4.30. i would workout till 5.15. i would eat a breakfast of a peanut butter and jam sandwich and a cup of coffee. , bath, pray, be out of the house at six.

i'm married now, and my ortganisation has gone to hell. i haven't worked out in over 12 months.

guess thats the price you pay for love and companionship

LOL

@Kadman
Alone in Nigeria??
strange ooh!
You seem really put together sha,

i got late to work today and my bedroom is a mess!
i just feel like sleeping all day long!

@Oyb, u can say that again.lol!

I live alone with my 2 kids and work full time. I am able to cope because my work isnt stressful, i only make sure of my head and my computer not my strenght.

i get up as soon as i can, take my bath, bath the kids, dress them up 4 school and serve them breakfast. while they are having their breakfast i am dressing up for work.

I drop them in school around 9am and i'm off to work. After work (10.30-7.15 or 11.30-8.00) I pick them from the minder. When we get home i fix their dinner, take few minutes asking what they did in school and off they go to bed.

After sending them to bed, i arrange their uniform and school bag, my cloth for the next day, listen to new or watch new and sleep off anytime between 11.30-12am.

On Saturdays i sleep as much as i desire and leave them to do whatever they want to do- watch TV, have bubble bath, play games. When i am tired of sleeping i get up and make us breakfast. Clean d house, do washing, at times make enough stew/soup for the week. Do whatever i then like to do- watch TV, make phone callsetc. If there is party we go for it, if i feel like visiting whoever we pack ourselves inside the car and off we go, occasionally take them to eateries, go for shopping and get back home whatever time we choose to, have dinner and off to bed.

Sundays wake early enough to prepare for church, have breakfast and goes to church. After church most time we just go home and do whatever we feel like and i am preparing for the next day.

I'm so used to that now except when i take time off town, i have a great friend the kids stay with when i'm not in town so i make good use of my holiday. Also its a different situation when they are on holidays, we stay with my friend so all i have to do is wake in the morning take my bath and off to work, like this period.

Hmm, you really seem capable and sturdy

well, not anymore

i cleaned up last night and have a nizzzze sleep.

Got to work early late.lol

meen i need help!

If you are mature and living alone, you need to get a life