OlamiB: My name is Eniola, I have been dating my boyfriend for over one year nw and ever since then i havent in any way be a burden to him, the only thng he bought for me is a 3500N ring, I havent spent up to 1K of his money. The problem with him is that he is nt a type of guy that call his gf, I've always being the only one calling and if i decide not to call him he wil get angry wit me as if his life depends on it. Also he has never come to my house since we have started dating the only excuse he gives is that he has no 200N t.fare, I am tired of being the only one going to his plc, I tell lies to my mum just to go to his plc and this has been going on for over a year, I feel guilty abt telling lies to my her. I love my bf so much but i dnt know how to deal with his anger problem, he has been snubbing me since some days nw because I told him I cnt cm to his plc today because of my dad's birthday. He doesnt know how to say SORRY even when he knows he is the one at fault. I am confused abt whether or not to end the whole thing. His he doing like this because we met on 2go? Or is that how how guys treat their GFs?

chineloSA:

I don't have them as yet, but when the time comes i will teach them thoroughly about STI's, birth controls, s..x, woman, human anatomy etc. I will teach them, that its their responsibility to take care of their s..e..xual health and not anybody else's.

I will teach them that in life everything has consequences, some permanent and some temporary. Whenever they do something they must think of the consequences. If the consequences are permanent, they must step back and think wisely before they proceed.
I will warn them about foolish girls who will want to tie them down with kids.
I will warn him of his temporary stupidity which may lead to permanent regrets.

I will tell them not to bring me a stupid girl telling me about pregnancy. Their foolishness is theirs alone
The way I will bring up my sons, I doubt my sons wont listen to mommy dearest. I plan to be very close to my little princes

I actually counted "four" insultive words in your whole post.

The "silly" girls obviously their reasons too ..
You know
Happy sunday ...
How're you doing ??

BarryX: I actually counted "four" insultive words in your whole post.

The "silly" girls obviously their reasons too ..
You know
Happy sunday ...
How're you doing ??

faakay: Why did you both have unprotected seEexxx huh! What happened to pills? I guess both of you are still novice but that's the price to pay for it..

meine:
You guys are just wasting your time,something tells me this girl will still choose to do whatever she chooses to do. My gut says she will abort that baby eventually.

OlamiB: I just found out am 5weeks pregnant, i told my BF about it and all he said was that i should get an abortion to keep the relationship going, or i may decide to have the baby without a father cos he is not ready to be a father yet. He said he'd deny ever knowing me if i decide to keep the baby. I dnt know what to do cos am strongly against abortion, i havent told my parents yet because they wont take it likely with me all. Mum has warned me several times against it, in as much as i know my parents would eventually be there for me, i have a strict dad that may desown me by the time he finds out. He also promised to remove me on 2go, block me on whatsap and facebook and also buy a new set of numbers so he wnt have anytin to do with my again. This is driving me so crazy i dnt know what to do. This is the guy i love so much, i never believe he could do this to me, i'd eventually be an object of ridicule among frnds and family if i decide to keep the baby.

Sanguine:

Jeezz!! So you finally got pregnant for this '2go' boyfriend of yours who bought you a ring of #3500, and refuses to visit you because he ''does not have #200 t.fare'' Waoh!!! How stu.pid can some girls be!
Apparently you've made up your mind on what you wanna do, so what other advice do you seek, huh??
And I see you finally succeeded in changing him afterall!
Carry the cross you brought upon yourself, young lady!

Sanguine:

Jeezz!! So you finally got pregnant for this '2go' boyfriend of yours who bought you a ring of #3500, and refuses to visit you because he ''does not have #200 t.fare'' Waoh!!! How stu.pid can some girls be!
Apparently you've made up your mind on what you wanna do, so what other advice do you seek, huh??
And I see you finally succeeded in changing him afterall!
Carry the cross you brought upon yourself, young lady!

n.oxide:


That's the best option

n.oxide:
I wish op would read this


Abort the child. Don't have to say more

Thank me later

kulyie: i just went back to that thread of hers where she wrote about her boyfriend easily getting angry and about how the child bought her a 3500 ring.i saw where i told her to leave that child and focus on her books,ring is just an ordinary acessory.little did i know she didnt listen,now she cant handle the outcome of her stewpeedity,why wont they abuse her.

Smh.that is the consequences of a child feeling smarter than other adults giving her advice.as for me shewa o,i dont have any advise for her,i only have trailer load of insults for her.

What is paining me in the matter is that she WASTED MY ADVISE on that her boyfriend issh thread which is very invaluable

silent don: Send me a PM for an abortion.

Sanguine:

Seriously, if I've this kinda girl for a sister, I'd beat that damn pregnancy outta her stomich! What's she doing having sex in the first place? And whatever happened to protection? What nonsense!

By the way OlamB, I hope you've gone to check if you've not contacted some dreaded infection or disease from that 2go boyfriend of yours. So you'd start treatment on time before it gets complicated!!

kulyie: what if her womb gets messed up.there are many wombless teenagers walking on the streets wearing leggings and shaking their waist about.

@ op aka omo lasan abeg no abort o.pity your parents,pity the emotional,financial and other things they've passed through to bring you up to this level.even if you dont love yourself,for the love of your mom,be sensible.dont let the poor woman go through unnecessary trauma

carefreewannabe: I really don't understand why people are so tough on a 18 year old girl who is in BIG trouble. We all make mistakes!
No need throwing stones at her.

I also don't think that there is anything wrong with a 18 year old falling in love and having sex. Remember, your grandmothers used to marry earlier, had sex earlier and delivered babies earlier. Human beings, boys and girls, develop sexual interest around puberty, so the girl is perfectly normal.

I blame adults who act holier than the pope condemning sexuality as something evil instead of leading the younger generation in a sensible way, talking to them openly and explaining to them the dangers and risks and preparing them for what is unavoidable anyway, young people making first sexual encounters.

Efemena_xy:

I think the basis for the angst against her is that she was advised - but she chose to ignore the advise given her.

Now she's screaming foul.

But having said that, you've made some very valid points. The overall perception of Nigerians towards sex is conservative. I bet she never had an open discussion about sex and what she was going through with her boyfriend to her mother. She couldn't have anyway, not if she had to sneak out and lie for over a year to her parents.

Re: your comment on those acting holier than thou - spot on. The puritians and prudes need to learn that sex.u@l repression has never worked. Ever.

carefreewannabe: I really don't understand why people are so tough on a 18 year old girl who is in BIG trouble. We all make mistakes!
No need throwing stones at her.

I also don't think that there is anything wrong with a 18 year old falling in love and having sex. Remember, your grandmothers used to marry earlier, had sex earlier and delivered babies earlier. Human beings, boys and girls, develop sexual interest around puberty, so the girl is perfectly normal.

I blame adults who act holier than the pope condemning sexuality as something evil instead of leading the younger generation in a sensible way, talking to them openly and explaining to them the dangers and risks and preparing them for what is unavoidable anyway, young people making first sexual encounters.

carefreewannabe:

Thank you very much!

I would only like to add that everyone makes mistakes even when he / she is advised properly beforehand, even ADULTS. Human beings are not always rational but also emotional. I also think that if a girl who is 18 yrs old so desperately sticks to a boyfriend who doesn't treat her right and who against all odds and by all means wants to tie him to her has serious issues. She needs help that she will not find on NL. She needs a warm-hearted, understanding, intelligent adult who will be there for her in this period of time. Abusing her verbally is NO help at all, it will only make matters worse.

gcfr.com:

Efemena_xy: What an annoying thread!

Kids mess up in the Romance Section, then run to the Family Section for us to help them fix it.

n.oxide:


Nobody's womb will be messed up.

Ever heard of safe abortion?

Efemena_xy: What an annoying thread!

Kids mess up in the Romance Section, then run to the Family Section for us to help them fix it.

gcfr.com:
lmao, but its just the truth. After all the BS romance, the family is all she got.. Unfortunately the "NL Family" is_____

carefreewannabe:

Thank you very much!

I would only like to add that everyone makes mistakes even when he / she is advised properly beforehand, even ADULTS. Human beings are not always rational but also emotional. I also think that if a girl who is 18 yrs old so desperately sticks to a boyfriend who doesn't treat her right and who against all odds and by all means wants to tie him to her has serious issues. She needs help that she will not find on NL. She needs a warm-hearted, understanding, intelligent adult who will be there for her in this period of time. Abusing her verbally is NO help at all, it will only make matters worse.

kulyie: bobo yi

kulyie: and who will the warm,intelligent,sweet adult be.certainly none aside her mom except you want to live in fantasy island


@ op if you like when any small boy use bruno mars (grenade) line for you,fall o i will catch a grenade for you,i will die for you,i will jump in front of the train for you,how e sing am sef

if i didnt advise you earlier,i can be part of the consoling team but so far you have thrown my advise into the bin,i will say ANYTHING I LIKE