Abee79: I proposed marriage to my wife over the phone because of the distance between us. yes, WITHOUT A RING. We've been HAPPILY married for three years....
*Lesson learnt: NO MATTER HOW GLAMOROUS A [WEDDING OR ENGAGEMENT] RING IS, AND REGARDLESS OF THE CIRCUMSTANCE(s) IN WHICH IT WAS PRESENTED, IT IS USELESS AND IMPORTENT WHERE LOVE IS NOT SUPPORTED WITH UNCOMPROMISING COMMITMENT TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WORK

Moukafoam:

Please where is it written in the Koran or Bible that a man must propose to a girl with a ring?


















After all you will hide the ring if a better suitor comes around

therealMcCain: @HisRib
Pls where do u reside Naija or Yankee

idrezee: ..........and I tot I v seen dem all #shocked# someone u luv propose wit a ring and u'll keep it under ur bed incase it'll drive oda suitors away, goodness! It means u'll b accommodating oda suitors even after u v said YES 2 his proposal den, dats bad and u know it. Why'll u even collect a ring from somebody u doubt will marry u? "The ring'll chase away other suitors" a grown woman just wrote dat. M not better dan u but pls change, dats 2 bad. God pls help me and my fwendz not 2 fall into wrong hands.

jay bee:

She is from the congo

pkween: And for how long should the engagement ring be worn?I think that should be a question for another day.

pkween: And for how long should the engagement ring be worn?I think that should be a question for another day.

HisRib:

No I am not. Why is my idendity so important to you people? I keep getting asked where I'm from on every thread & forced to make something up.

therealMcCain:

The reason is not far fetched, ur views are not on point, in this particular thread u sound like someone raised based on the western culture, which by the way is foolishness to us here, with few exceptions though

You're supporting something that is alien to us, & not just supporting it but advising someone to flee just because there is no ring, that is foolishness dearie!!

Eberex:

amen o! O boy this na anoda dimension o! Cold just catch me after readind anitank view

HisRib:

You see ignorance! Since when is giving your girl an engagement ring a "white man" thing? This has to be the most ignorant thing I've heard all day.

Africans always belittling themselves and giving others credit for things they don't even deserve. Next thing you're gonna say is, wearing a "wedding dress" is a white man thing too. So the woman should just come to her wedding in every day attire.

The ignorance is astounding. Na wa for naija oooo!

mercurie: Well, my husband asked me 2 marry him last year Dec "without" a ring. February, he finished the traditional requirements and now we are legally married. He told me engagement ring is not promising. And I have a school mate(secondary) that was proposed to and she wore d ring 4 like 2years, now they are nt 2geda again. Also my coursemate was proposed to and after a while she stopped wearing d ring and she got married immediately 2 some1 else. My POINT is that with or without a ring, once ur man is serious and sincere the marriage will be a reality.

gcfr.com:
so you don't wear any ring now?
PS: no offense, their is a difference between being "asked" and being "proposed to".

anitank:
Please what is the difference??

gcfr.com:

Ask is seen as a recommendation and an order. "I ask you to do this"
Proposal is the most formal. You propose to your
girlfriend that the pair of you get married; it's
unlikely that you would "ask" the same thing.
This is why researchers write proposals for research.
You can also ask google too.

HisRib:

I can't believe this man proposed without a ring. Who does that?

Every woman deserves to have an engagement ring. If he can't afford it, he shouldn't be thinking of marriage in the first place.

Sweetheart, my advice to you is, call it off and tell him you want a ring & if he won't give you one, go find another man who will have enough love and respect for you to give you one.

Him not having a ring is NOT a good sign. Just think of all the other things he will disregard once you guys are married. RUN while you can!

anitank:
Well IMO...
When a man proposes to a lady, it means he is "asking" her to marry him OR "asking" for her hand in marriage, either way she can choose to accept or decline.

I don't have to google, it's just pure common sense

HisRib:

If the whole engagement ring was so "alien" to Africans, why would this young lady find it odd that her man proposed ringless? If proposing ringless was a common thing in Africa, this topic would've never been a discussion in the first place.

Stop trying to look for reasons to justify your cheapness. If the girl wants a ring, get her a ring. That simple.

ngozievergreen: Do men wear engagement rings?

therealMcCain:

I'm sorry, I never knew that the OP's lifestyle was an epitome of the african culture!!

Truth be told, both of you belong to the same boat, I pasted an excerpt from Wikipedia on the origin of the engagement ring, yet u have refuse to see that it's not an African thing

Pls I'm not cheap, I know what I have done for my partner & what i still plan to do, even if the ring was free or N500, I won't buy it for her

Why should my partner place such importance on something so trivial when there are serious issues to deal with

Funnily, I told her about this thread and ur
Views, her question was will the engagement ring guaranty security or happiness??

bottom line: whatever rocks ur boat dearie

HisRib:

A car? If I were her, I would've asked you to take it back & use the money to get me a ring instead.

raficki87: why didnt anybody quote this a ring and a car? and choose a ring. so after the approx. one month giddy feeling of having a ring and having a car that brings comfort and ends the hassle of flying molue everyday. i hope u know wat oppurtunity cost is ring(shorttime joy) and car (joy maybe nt as mush as the ring and also comfort,less stress,ac in holdup etc),, well if i'm the husband i'll get the ring for you organize boiz to steal it when yoi are trekking back on the street home pet you , buy a 1k ring(since i now know its important to u)for you to manage and in the next month buy the car for you. cuz this clearly is one of the instances that a spouse knows beta

HisRib:

1K ring? I would never wear a 1K ring. I deserve a lot more than that. If my supposed future husband shows up with a ring less than 10K, I don't think he knows me well, therefore us getting engaged is probably not a great option.

I have all the qualities required to be an exceptional wife. I'm worth every penny.

therealMcCain:

Wow, i'm intrigued by your thinking pattern, I'll like to know you, just on an intellectual level

therealMcCain:

Wow, i'm intrigued by your thinking pattern, I'll like to know you, just on an intellectual level