You met a lady dat you dated 4 a considerable long time. Made her oblivious of d fact dat you intend marrying her even though deep inside you, you really want to. She's happy & hopeful of course. 6 months later, you proposed to her and she's happy and hopeful of course. Is dat supposed to be d icing on d cake? Quite confusing cos i've always agreed a lady should be insensitive of d idea dat you want 2 spend d rest of ur life with her. She's believed to be happier, joyful & even tearful when she's proposed to unaware dat you even have dat thought in mind. It reminds me of d chicken and egg.....which came first. What confuses me more is some men even go as far planting a seed in her to confirm fertility before proposing her after she must have been already heavy or even delivered. God's sake, she's already ur wife and won't feel special wen later proposed to. Everyone knows marriage is a once-in-a-lifetime event. (leave d americans and arabs out of this). So if you really want to marry her, do you have to spoil d memory letting her know already before proposing or proposing before she's aware?

you're right sha... i also plan a surprise proposal without any fore-knowledge of desire to marry her..

doomsdayII: You met a lady dat you dated 4 a considerable long time. Made her oblivious of d fact dat you intend marrying her even though deep inside you, you really want to. She's happy & hopeful of course. 6 months later, you proposed to her and she's happy and hopeful of course. Is dat supposed to be d icing on d cake? Quite confusing cos i've always agreed a lady should be insensitive of d idea dat you want 2 spend d rest of ur life with her. She's believed to be happier, joyful & even tearful when she's proposed to unaware dat you even have dat thought in mind. It reminds me of d chicken and egg.....which came first. What confuses me more is some men even go as far planting a seed in her to confirm fertility before proposing her after she must have been already heavy or even delivered. God's sake, she's already ur wife and won't feel special wen later proposed to. Everyone knows marriage is a once-in-a-lifetime event. (leave d americans and arabs out of this). So if you really want to marry her, do you have to spoil d memory letting her know already before proposing or proposing before she's aware?

I love ur type up. Seriously i've been meaning to ask few questions about this issue. There's one thing most guys are missing. When you present a gift to someone who's unaware of it's content, he'll be eager to discover what's inside d box. D minute you already told him what's inside what's inside while he's yet to open it, it doesn't become a surprised package anymore. I really think if a guy wants to marry a girl he actually loves, bottling it up should be d best bet instead of already letting her know ur intentions before giving her d ring. Me for 1 will prefer it a surprised package because at dat moment, words won't be able to express my surprise and happiness. And that's exactly how other girls would feel too