HisRib:

That's a great sign. Send her a message and tell her you're busy & you will get back to her when you find time.

Then later on at night, give her a call and have the discussion with her. Tell her you were doing some thinking and right now you are unsure about her feelings for you. Ask her what she wants out of you and the relationship.

Gracious10: Thanks for this thread.

1.How soon is too soon to move on to another relationship after u break up with an ex? (Relationship was filled with lots of break up and taking breaks from Ex)

2. Does Ex have any right to condemn or get mad at you for moving on so soon even when u cleary broke up with Ex and Ex accepted it?

3. What's the appropriate healing period after a break up?

4. Is "friendship" necessary between you and an ex even when u really want to avoid the Ex?

Thanks.

fubbyy: u didn't answer dis question, op u r nt just gud in wat u r trying 2 do, i appriciate ur effort but u dnt hav d skills

HisRib: 1) Honestly, there is never really a timeline when it comes to "when to start dating again after a break up." It all depends on you. Some people like to take a break in between relationships and others don't. I always suggest a small break because it gives you a chance to reflect. Going from relationship to relationship is not something I would recommend.

2) Your ex has absolutely no right to condemn you for moving on quickly after the break up (no matter who broke up with who). But, as I mentioned above, moving on too quickly after a break up isn't the greatest idea.

3) There is no standard healing time after a break up. Every relationship is different and there are many factors to take into consideration. For example, How long was the relationship ?, Are there children involved?, Did you introduce each other to your family members? And so forth. But, I think it's safe to start dating again 1-3 months after a small break up. By small, I mean much wasn't invested in the relationship. But as I mentioned above, it all depends on the individual. If you are ready, go ahead. I always suggest a small break from dating after a break up in order to reflect and prepare for the next relationship. This will allow you to figure out what went wrong in the previous one and do better in the future or help you figure out what you don't like so you know what/who to avoid when it comes to choosing your future partner.

4) Friendship between exes is in no way necessary. You don't have to be friends with you ex. In fact, I wouldn't recomment it right after the break up. Maybe months/years after the break up you can become friends, but not right away. Especially if one still has feelings for the other. If you want to move on quickly, it's best to avoid your ex for a while.

Gracious10:

Completely priceless answers.
Thanks a lot.

Godswill A Judins: Ma babe called me yesterday that there is something she wants to tell me.
She said she does. Not like the way am treating as if she is not ma girl friend. She also telling me this because she love. Me an can't keep it in her heart. So I asked her what have I done she said she refuse to tell me. Your advice pls.

joromi: So, there is the guy I like.....
But he has not tried to talk to me all through this semester...
He just stares at me all day

This semester is going to end in about 2weeks...
Do you think I should go ahead and start a conversation, get his contacts, and all that good stuff he should be doing

Thanks.

HisRib:

Hi There,

Don't go asking for his contact information just yet.

Show hints that you like him, but don't make it too obvious. If he still doesn't approach you, that means he's either shy or not interested.

If he doesn't approach you after you've given him a few hints, but you're still very convinced he likes you, go ahead and initiate a conversation, after all he might just be a shy person.

Good Luck!

X0x0

gooses: Pls I want to ask a question,I have bin dating this guy for seven years now and recently I just found out he has another girlfriend he has been dating for 5yrz,and from what I found out he truely loves this girl too,pls im so confused and down,i love this guy so much and right now im so confused,I cant even think straight anymore on what to do. pls I kindly need your advice

Vickycherish: Need your advice on this
i met this guy this yr jan ending and we have been close frnds we even discuss intimate issues he even has a pet name for me now the issue is the guy likes me and is attracted to me and he says he would like to marry me(hes working and ready for marriage) but the tin is im still in d uni and im running a 5yr prog nd im in my 3rd yr im not considring marriage untill i get to my finals....whats your advice on this?? Shuld i let him go since im not ready 2marry yet

HisRib:

Hi There,

Why should you let him go? You can engage in a courtship until you complete your finals and are prepared for marriage.

Have you talked to him about your feelings towards marriage? Did he say he wasn't willing to wait until you are ready?

I suggest you have a talk with him about it before go ahead & make your decision.

But, for some reason, I'm under the impression you don't really love this guy.

Vickycherish: i relly do like the guy we hav evn discuss the marriage tin and hes like waiting4 2yrs would be lon4 him..bt evem after he says that he still gets closer to me he dosnt keep any distance frm me...i dont knw if hes still making hes decision to wait or not....i just dont wnt 2get hurt at d end of the day if hes not able to wait

joromi:

Thanks.
Can you give examples of such hints?

HisRib:

My dear,

If this man truly loves you, he will wait. That's all I can say to you.

It's very selfish of him to refuse to wait just 2 years, knowing very well you're still a student.

If he refuses to wait, let him go. Don't sacrifice your future/education for a man. It's not worth it.

Vickycherish: thanks dearie!! I feel betterr now

HisRib:

Well it's hard to suggest hints because I'm not sure about how/where you and him often run into each other.

Do you just see him in class?

Do you ever see him outside of school?

Do you have mutual friends?

Do you have him on your facebook?

joromi:

In the class, library, programs in school.....
No, to the last three questions...

HisRib: Do you have unanswered questions about your relationship?

I'm a certified relationship expert. I give men/ women advice.

If you need help/guidance/advice with regards to your romantic life, I'm here to help.

Ask & get answers!

Osahon7: ^^ but in all do u reali tink am at the loosing end?? Tru out “ our time” together we neva had se.x because she told me she was a Vir.gin and she wish to have it on her wedding nite...