Listen
To be truly heard is the longing of every human heart, and your wife is no exception. It sounds simple, but listening can
be harder than it seems with so many distractions around us and within us. Set aside some time every day to look into
your wife’s eyes and really listen to what she has to say. You may be surprised at what you hear.
2. Communicate
Don’t make her guess what you are thinking or feeling.
3. Sing Her Praises
Shamelessly brag about her good qualities and quietly pray about her bad ones. Her reputation is your reputation.

4. Pray For Her and With Her
Praying on your wife’s behalf not only enlists the help of the Almighty, but also puts her and her needs at the forefront of
your heart and mind, right where they belong. Praying alongside your wife will strengthen your relationship like nothing
else. Studies show that couples who regularly pray together stay together, enjoying a 1% divorce rate compared to the
usual rate of 50% or more.

5. Value Her Individuality
Your wife is wonderfully unique. Don’t compare her to your mom, or your ex-wife, or your old girlfriend. Your mom may
make the best efo riro in the world, but unfavorable comparisons won’t win you brownie points.
6. Put the Seat Down
Perpetually raised toilet seats are a pet peeve of wives everywhere. And while you’re at it, tidy up a bit. A little
consideration goes a long way
7. Throw Your Dirty Clothes in the wash basket
It’s likely just a few steps from wherever you are dropping them anyway. Make this a habit, and it will let your wife know
you don’t consider her your personal maid.
8. Turn Off the T.V.
Lay aside the video games, pocket the iPhone, and shut off the computer, as well. It is staggering how many hours we
waste gazing at some sort of screen instead of interacting with the real people in our lives. Consciously set limits on your
tube-time, whatever form it takes. Use the time saved to invest in your marriage: take a walk with your wife or play a
board game together instead.
9. Loose the aka gum every once in a while
We all have to keep an eye on our budget, but an occasional splurge can be well worth it. Seemingly frivolous things like
flowers, jewelry, and overpriced restaurants let her know that she is more valuable to you than a number in your bank
account.
10. Practice Servant-Leadership
All organizations have a hierarchy. It’s impossible to function without one, but being a leader isn’t the same as being a
dictator. The best role model is Jesus Christ, not Joseph Stalin. Jesus washed his disciples feet and then died on their
behalf. It’s a challenge to exercise authority while maintaining a spirit of humility, but that is what being a godly leader
entails.
11. Remember that Intimacy’s a Two-Way Street
Unfortunately, men are notoriously selfish in the bedroom, yet are dumbfounded when their wives are less than
enthusiastic in this arena. Make this area of your relationship as pleasurable for her as it is for you and it will pay huge
dividends. It may mean washing the dishes or helping with the kids, so that she has energy left at the end of the day. It
may mean cuddling and candlelight, so that she can relax and let the worries on her mind drift away. If you aren’t sure
where to begin, just ask her, and then listen.
12. Give Her Time to Herself
Everyone needs an occasional break to rest and recharge, and this is especially important for a wife who is at home all
day with young children. Yet it’s very easy to neglect this legitimate need unless you regularly and intentionally schedule
time for it.
13. Set Aside Couple Time
Soak in the tub together each evening or go on a date night once a week — whatever gets the two of you alone on a
regular basis.
14. Be Careful with Female Friendships
We all have friends and colleagues of the opposite sex, but tread cautiously. Not all affairs are physical ones. Honoring
your marriage vows means remaining faithful in thought and word as well as in deed
15. Use Good Hygiene
It is amazing how meticulous guys can be prior to marriage in their attempts to impress a girl, but once they walk down
the aisle, all bets are off. Clean up a little; I promise it won’t kill you.
16. Limit the Gross Stuff
Few women find burping and farting nearly as hilarious as the typical guy does. Good manners are always a win.
17. Be Patient
In whatever way this applies to you and your situation, apply it. ( 1 Corinthians 13:4 , Proverbs 14:29 )
18. Cherish Her Children
A mother’s bond to her children runs immeasurably deep. When you invest time or energy in them, you are investing in
her as well. Kindness to them counts as kindness to her.
19. Choose Her Over Hobbies and Buddies
Invariably there will come times in your relationship when you will be forced to choose between your wife and something
else that you enjoy. Always choose her.
20. Provide for Her Needs
This is so much more than just putting food on the table. It is all-encompassing. Whether it is physical needs, emotional
needs, spiritual needs, you name it — do your best to provide. Sometimes life’s circumstances hinder us in one area, but
we can compensate in another area. Often the effort is as important as the outcome. ( Galatians 6:2 )
21. Dial Down the Anger
Your caveman instincts are handy on the battlefield, but horrible for a happy home life. Every outburst or flare-up is a
relationship setback. To go forward, the first step is to stop going backwards. Learn to control your temper or it will
control you, your marriage, and every other aspect of your life. Just because your wife puts up with it and your co-
workers tolerate it, doesn’t make your short fuse an asset. Do whatever it takes to gain victory in this all-important
struggle that has haunted man since Cain slew Abel. ( Ecclesiastes 7:9 , Ephesians 4:31 )
22. Cut Out the Condescension
If you have been blessed with a quick wit, you can either be the life of the party or a pain in the neck depending on the
circumstances. Condescension is anger’s younger brother. It isn’t as loud or as dramatic, but it can be equally hurtful
and all the more so for its subtlety. Lay off the snide remarks, the sarcasm, and the belittling. Speak to your wife in the
same way that you would speak to a respected colleague. She is, after all, your partner in the most valuable investment
of your life — your family.(, (Ephesians 4:29 , Colossians 3:19 )
23. Actively Seek Your Wife’s Insights
Value her input and give it a preferential place in your decision-making process. ( Proverbs 19:20 ; 12:15 )
24. Learn to Forgive
Freely forgive your wife’s past, present, and future offenses. Forgiveness is at the heart of the gospel and at the heart of
every meaningful relationship. ( Ephesians 4:32 , Colossians 3:13 )
25. Verbally Express Your Love
There are lots of ways to show your love, but women still like to hear it spoken.
Obviously no list is comprehensive, and one size certainly doesn’t fit all, but hopefully this one will prompt you to compile a list of
your own, tailor-made for your own wife. For any women reading this blog, you may be interested to know that my wife has
published a similar list entitled 25 Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband . Check it out and let me know what you think.

nice post.
cnp

Fabulousuzo: Op 4get these your long list. What every Nigerian woman/lady understands is MONEY. Give her money the rest will fall in place.

next time use the word some nigerian women,quit the generalizations,its stewpeed,except you agree that all nigerian men are rap1sts.

There are millions of nigerian women in and out of nigeria,so i dont understand where you got your every nigerian woman from.

That being said,if such a man ever happens to exist in this present day and age,i will quit spinsterhood.that is if they have not gone into extinction

Well done poster. God bless you for this.

Fabulousuzo: Op 4get these your long list. What every Nigerian woman/lady understands is MONEY. Give her money the rest will fall in place.

That's is only because those are the type of women you meet. Am married, with two kids, and I can authoritatively tell you women want to be loved.

Op, nice post. Front page things. Some men (and women) need to hear this. Its not always about what they want. Love is a two-way street. I'm still one of the firm believers that Paul knew what he was saying about love when he wrote 1 Corinthians.it works wonders in relationships. Lol.

ladyinvelvet: Op, nice post. Front page things. Some men (and women) need to hear this. Its not always about what they want. Love is a two-way street. I'm still one of the firm believers that Paul knew what he was saying about love when he wrote 1 Corinthians.it works wonders in relationships. Lol.

Am glad there are still women out there who hold true to the true virtues of love. Love is more than a two way street dear, it's retaliatory. Like I teach my people in church, there are really no nagging wife's , what we have are women who feel cheated out of love or in simple terms feel they are getting little or no love at all.

Shower a woman with real love ND affection, give her reason to believe she is the center of your world, only then would you see the true nature of a "loving wife". Am a living testimony...... I preach what I practise.

Not applicable to NIGERIAN MEN AND WOMEN who have not yet evolved from the 'basic instincts' of phocking, farting and snoring!

One good turn deserves another.

The summary of the post is "DO UNTO THERS WHAT YOU WANT THEM DO UNTO YOU".

Men, if you want your wife to love, respect and submit to you. Plant it and you will reap it immediately. That is one of the secrets of happy and successful marriages.
May God help us all.

Fabulousuzo: Op 4get these your long list. What every Nigerian woman/lady understands is MONEY. Give her money the rest will fall in place.

if all the ladies you have been meeting are all interested in your money, then, examine yourself. Maybe, you don't have other good qualities that may attract the good ladies who are not after your money but your happiness.

Or maybe, you're so bad that the only thing that can make a lady manage you is your money.

Or maybe, you're not matured enough to know that you don't buy love with money, any lady that agrees to date you because of your money will not hesitate to leave you when you dont have money(broke) and also, will not hesitate to leave you for a richer guy, even when you're not broke.

Bottom line: Money cannot buy real love.

A happy home is reflected on the society.