POPE II: How old are u if you don't mind, you are not forced to give your exact age

vickyO:
Does your question relate to the topic of the thread?
Too early to derail.

POPE II: I brought you viewers and commentators

POPE II: yes it does

vickyO:
You're

All I need is your comment on the issue raised.
What if I'm 40?

POPE II:
I'm what ?

I believe the only time one should go into courtship is when you're ready to get married

ITbomb: First of all let me fix this

When a man is ready to get married, you will know but for the ladies it is very hard to know .
Unless you are a very weird nerd, there are times you just need company and much interaction with one person u find easy to be with will lead to some chemistry and before you know it , the affection develops into making commitments. A relationship has been made.
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Relationships helps you understand the opposite sex much better than any book could explain and to have a healthy relationship is what you should be looking for and not NO relationship at all.
Like Apostle Paul said, 'All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient (useful): all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any (addiction)'.
Nothing prevents you from getting into a relationship , defining it well from the onset and jumping out if the guy tries anything funny but sadly, the girl has a weak power of resistance when overshadowed by a strong feeling of affection for a guy after prolonged interaction and tends to let her guards down.
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Like I said , a when a guy is ready for marriage , he will make choose beyond looks and put everything in it but before then, as long as there are girls that still believe that the next guy that approach her should be able to provide for her then guys wont have any problem with that as long as the punny is guaranteed after the 'caring'.
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Personally , I always say this ' I would rather go for a decent girl who understand what it is to take care of a guy than a virgin who believe the only gift she has for the man is that bloody trap and after that nothing , cos she has never been with a guy to understand how a guy thinks. Though very few got the lessons from parent but very few.
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Virginity does not guarantee a romantic marriage life after the first sexx and most times virgins cannot comprehend that romance extends beyond sexx, the way u kiss him , serve his food, make him laugh, dress , text him etc matters a lot. And sadly , it is very difficult to convinced a guy not to have sexx with you when he knows that you are not a virgin. For me , i would never agree cos the days are evil and if you had done it before, i need to know what remains of it before any commitment.
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Finally , even if you dont want to get into a relationship , dont put that piss-off harden face to guys , make friends, define boundaries from the onset (dont just assume he is a brother , he would not attempt such), get to know them well and dont hesitate to delete those that dont comply (dont give in to that story of 'u can change a guy') and enjoy the rich life God has blessed you with