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Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by angiemartinez(f): 4:07pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Segeggs: does your father "give an helping hand" in the kitchen?i think thats were i got this from. my dad is ova 70, and u still see him tryn to help my mum out in the kitchen. maybe becos he once lived abroad sha. 2 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Sijo01(f): 4:11pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
bad meat: I cook for my wife!I help her do the laundry,my friend if u think its easy for the female folks,take a break and do all the chores at home,u will find out its a lot of work!I pay my wife allowances for her trouble!she is my wife,flesh of my flesh! You get sense. Miner13: To me i can't leave house work to my wife whenever am at home. You too, but your compostion get as e be. dayleke: Guys,I think we need to change our mentality when it comes to this. You three! |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Beync(f): 4:15pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Some people would do well if they keep some not so useful traditional mental in the box. Things has really changed and still changing. Traditionally it was the sole responsibility of the man to provide for the family in the past. But today, in some families women are providers. Women are taking up career jobs, businesses and vocations, all that in their bids to assist their families. Should these women who may be in better opportunity or privilege to work, sit at home and watch their homes lavish in poverty becos it's not their responsibility to work and provide financially for family? Even when the man of the house is incapable? Also some men should stop this kiss and tell attitude. U do something in ur family then u go out make it a subject of discussion with ur friends. And after being washed by ur friends u harshly come home feeling bad or even venting anger on ur wife. U r not helping ur home. families differs and hav what works for them, u don't measure ur family base on what ur friends or relatives says. Whatever good for the success of ur family should be ur concern. A responsible woman will not take her husband for granted for helping out at home Just like a responsible man will willingly assist without thinking his ego will be tempered with. 6 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Sijo01(f): 4:27pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Segeggs: does your father "give an helping hand" in the kitchen? Till date, youngman. As a matter of fact he is very good at slicing vegitable, okro, chicken and anything slicable. If we decide to pick beans in his domain (sitting room or out side), he gladly join us. Or is it when its time to do general cleaning? He takes the lead.......I gat no lazy 'asss' as a father. 3 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by UjSizzle(f): 4:33pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
ITbomb:We live in a different kind of society where men and women both carry equal (or close enough) burden. So how about helping each other? |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Nobody: 4:38pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Sijo01:doesnt he have a job? in yorubaland, it is called gbewudani. |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Nobody: 4:40pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
angiemartinez: i think thats were i got this from. my dad is ova 70, and u still see him tryn to help my mum out in the kitchen. maybe becos he once lived abroad sha.well, this is naija and we grew up here. |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by ObiOkpor(m): 4:40pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Omen100:she is your wife bro,no form james bond in your marriage before it...............I didn‘t say anything o! |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Sijo01(f): 4:42pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Segeggs: doesnt he have a job? Its not you fault. |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by ObiOkpor(m): 4:46pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
No woman can compete with me in any house work,even my twin sister don‘t compare herself.my girl friend bows to my cooking,always seek for more after eating.When i visit her,i do d cooking while she watch and learn. Helping a woman out in kitchen shows how humble,how sincere and how you feel for your woman,and there is no joy compared to that. 1 Like |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by tpia5: 4:48pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Beync: Some people would do well if they keep some not so useful traditional mental in the box. Things has really changed and still changing. Traditionally it was the sole responsibility of the man to provide for the family in the past. But today, in some families women are providers. Women are taking up career jobs, businesses and vocations, all that in their bids to assist their families. Should these women who may be in better opportunity or privilege to work, sit at home and watch their homes lavish in poverty becos it's not their responsibility to work and provide financially for family? Even when the man of the house is incapable? Well said. |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by kadas01(m): 4:52pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
If a man can cook and he is able to do some domestic chores very well, by the time he finally marries and he is able to assist his wife sometimes in doing these things domestically, such a man would always be known to be a "true partner" to his wife and immediate nuclear family!.....Afterall, your wife is not your slave!! 1 Like |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Beync(f): 5:03pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
tpia@:thank you |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by ITbomb(m): 6:37pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
uj_sizzle:I would not allow u carry equal or almost equal burden with me . I am the provider , it is my duty n pride as a man to provide for my household . |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by lipsyliscious: 7:08pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Segeggs: does your father "give an helping hand" in the kitchen?I cn proudly say my father does give a helping hand wen he cn specifically pounding of yam! He's in his late 50's with a married daughter bt still helps around d house! He didn't grow up rich n even with his sisters around, he's mum insisted d boys participate in house chores. My father does nt know how to cook, bt once it comes to pounding yam, he used 2 help us b4 he got older, n we generally stopped pounding yam. We are all in skul n wen non of d children are around, my father does as much house chores as possible oda Dan cooking cos he's terrible at dat. My parents shared d chores equally as dey are both against getting a house help 4 no specific reason. N to tink dat he's an authoritarian! Even with all dat, u dare nt overstep ur boundaries, to say it's demeaning makes me laff, Cos if u meet my dad, u had neva know such a man will collect a Broom from his 10yr old daughter n sweep cos he thinks she's too tired to. My father is nt perfect bt I will definitely appreciate a husband with dat quality. 3 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by crackhaus: 7:58pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Wow! The amount of awesomeness and theoritically accepted views on this thread are quite intoxicating. It makes me want to go into the kitchen right now and wash a few dishes just to prove I can do chores On second thought, I'm not married yet...so it's very possible that the kind of woman I spend the rest of my life with may just be the kind who cautions, gently suggests or prevents me from performing kitchen duty by saying these words, "baby, you really don't need to do that...I'll take care of it, it's not so much". But like I said, I'm not married yet and I shouldn't know or be too sure of what arrangements might be made between my future wife and I after putting things in perspective, as well as putting specific circumstances into consideration. #justsaying |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by LoveDecay(m): 9:02pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Bullshit ... Arrant nonsense... How can a Woman be in the home and a man enter kitchen to cook or wash plate..... For what... If u really want to help the wife , get a maid after the first child. Nonsense men. Love in the kitchen, no woman that truly respects her man will let him step into the kitchen to cook.... Whaaaaaaat... Why did I marry you, if I wanted to cook wash and fry plantain myself I would not pay that hefty bride price. To wash plate.... If u really love or wife buy her stuff..... I repeat buy her stuff. When u travel, when ur coming from work. When she delivers... E.t.c DoNt wash her pant.... Ooooooooh 2 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by favoredgal: 11:24pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Well it depends on the man...my husband, God bless him never eats and leaves his plate on the table or in the sink. RIght from when we were dating, i think its all in the upbringing. He always washes his plate and if he meets any plate or pot in the sink (very rare too cuz i wash up as i cook) he washes it along with his. After washing up, he even cleans the gas if its dirty i clean up the house (light cleaning -mostly our room, bathroom and the kitchen) every day because its just both of us in the house (no kids yet) but every weekend he does better cleaning that includes sweeping, dusting and mopping of the sitting room and all the rooms. Everybody that comes to our home ways says its like a hotel- always sparkling clean and its all because of his help Some men are well brought up while some are just natural helpers and thankfully, i married one that is both. I can never take him for granted. 11 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Amhappy(f): 2:14pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
When my grand dad was alive,he provided all the family needs. Pay all the house bills and still do all the hard work. My dad also try his best to provide for the family but since he doesnt have a great job,mum bears the major financial burden. He still helps at home with hard jobs. Nowadays our young men sit in front of TV,do no house chores,even the hard ones but still expect their wives to bring money to the table. Modern men are simply lazy. If you will not help your wife,then dont ask for her help too. After all you will still take her for granted for rendering assistance. As for me I can spend my last kobo if my hubby needs it and he can spend his energy in house chores if i need his help. And it works for us. Shalom 4 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by dominique(f): 3:28pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
Some men just don't want to do anything. A man opened a thread here sometime ago saying his wife has refused to wash his clothes after giving birth to their second child. How thoughtless can some people be? How can a man expect to do all housechores and do his laundry join? It disgusts me to no extent when men refuse to lift a finger and assist their wives under the guise that 'she's not working'. So back breaking chores is not work huh? Our Men need to rid themselves of this mindset that housework is exclusively a woman's duty. Stop seeing your wife as a maid and treating her like you're doing her a favour. by the time she's in her 40s she'll be all worn out looking a decade older, you'll decide to jump out to chase fresh blood knowing fully well that you made her the way she is. God is watching you in super HD. 4 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Nobody: 3:44pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
sexkillz: You're a good man bro. This is the difference between men and small boys. . . Please close thread now! Enough said!! |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Nobody: 3:57pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
People like OP is the reason why many marriages ll head to the rock,there is a thin line between a man's ego and his stupidity. Which normal person ll think that washing the plate he ate with,tidying his home is demeaning. 4 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by greatgod2012(f): 4:58pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
Miner13: some men do it. Not all men are inconsiderate. Thanks. 2 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by greatgod2012(f): 5:02pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
byvan: People like OP is the reason why many marriages ll head to the rock,there is a thin line between a man's ego and his stupidity. dont mind those girls who end up with their types, when they see responsible guys who will treat them like their better halves and not as a maid, they wont agree, they will be complaining that he's not rich, he's not social, etc. Thank God for me sha. 2 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Nobody: 5:12pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
greatgod2012: Most ladies these days ll rather die in riches than live modestly,some actually think that assholez are manly.The guys too are confused,they want working class ladies, they want a home keeper, they want a personal LovePeddler,they want a baby factory,they want a cook that can whisk out a plate of fufu and vegetable soup at the press of a button, want this!!want that!!everywhere....... 4 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by dayokanu(m): 6:11pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
If she is helping with household finances then why cant you help with domestic work 1 Like |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by dominique(f): 6:18pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
^^^ Hardly will you see a home where both parties don't contribute to the running of the home financially. Yet some of these men see it as the woman's duty to do all the chores in addition to her own work. What manner of mentality is that? |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by StateOfMind: 8:03pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
Sijo01: My dear, I was even surprised you replied the rude thing in the first place.. Anyone who can not ask questions without being rude is better ignored. 2 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by StateOfMind: 8:10pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
dominique: ^^^ Hardly will you see a home where both parties don't contribute to the running of the home financially. Yet some of these men see it as the woman's duty to do all the chores in addition to her own work. What manner of mentality is that? The matter just tire person. How can helping YOUR own wife with house chores in YOUR home be seen as a big deal especially when you are both working your arss off to make ends meet. The first few responses from the males have been good though.. All hope isn't lost.. . 3 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by kendraloops(f): 9:31pm On Dec 05, 2013 |
Kai! This is one area I respect my hubby. There's no chore he can't do. Sometimes he tells me 'baby,relax lemme take care of things.'. Esp when I was pregnant n after delivery, I enjoyed oo. D bros go even make amala sef n poundi too. Pls assist her esp without her asking you to. You'll see the result in a more respectful n loving wife. Her thanks will be heartfelt n it'll spill over to how she treats u. 5 Likes |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Nobody: 6:56pm On Dec 06, 2013 |
angiemartinez: That is the area where my hubby gets me angry, he dosnt just help with the kitchen at all. am like what will it cost u? will it make you less of a man? abeg i just try try to do my thing without bothering himdidnt you discuss this at the courtship stage when you people were still dating,didnt you study his iq to know what he will be capable of doing and not doing |
Re: House Work: Sorry, Dear. You Can't Get Me To Do This by Nobody: 7:02pm On Dec 06, 2013 |
dominique: Some men just don't want to do anything. A man opened a thread here sometime ago saying his wife has refused to wash his clothes after giving birth to their second child. How thoughtless can some people be? How can a man expect to do all housechores and do his laundry join? It disgusts me to no extent when men refuse to lift a finger and assist their wives under the guise that 'she's not working'. So back breaking chores is not work huh?hunnn? Tel me this is not true |
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