Leyqute: Before doing anything, put yourself in your ex's husband's shoes. How would you feel if your wife's ex starts sending your wife money to take care of your kids? You might begin to wonder if the kids are yours even.

My thots? "Teach a man how to fish and he won't ever ask you for fishes. Ever."

Yomii: Bro i see nothing wrong with what you wana do so long you don't have an alterior motives. Another thing you need to consider is what will the husband think if he get to know that you are sending his wife cash monthly. Just think twice bro. You can assist her with cash but not to be sending her cash every month seeing to the fact that she is married. Marriage involves the man, woman and God so if the husband get to suspect or know that another man is busy sending his wife money monthly, he might conclude that his wife is having an external marital affair which in turn might make her marriage soar.

Think twice... Just an advice!

paix: Thanks bro, so should I set her up in business instead, wouldn't that also cause problems?

demelza: Why dont you go meet the husband and table your plans?

demelza: Why dont you go meet the husband and table your plans?

Leyqute:
Thats a good thing but I'd rather you conc. on her husband, not her. Since he is the bread winner.
Help her family. In so doing you are helping her too.
#jx my tots tho

paix: We're far apart, location wise. How do I present the assistance to him?

Leyqute:
GBAM! Risky. Buh life's a risk, innit?

crackhaus: What a stu.pid question this is...were you dropped as a baby And you're asking for mature advice when you seem not to have a single drop of liquid sense in you.

You want to put another man's wife on monthly allowance, a woman to whom you're of no relation...like is this what you need advice on, huh

Okay tell me this please...in your highly generous and affectionate mind, what are the possible outcomes and effects of doing this? I hope you've thought long and hard about how the negatives totally out-weigh the positives in this situation...well by all that's good & right, I really wish you've given it serious thought. You're welcome!

Yield: Don't give her any money without her husband's consent. You haven't seen her since she got married, but you two obviously did not stop communicating. Do you still love her or you just want to play Mr. Good Samaritan? Anyhoo, make sure you consult with the hubby first.

demelza: Get his phone number and intimate him of your plans.

Leyqute: Before doing anything, put yourself in your ex's husband's shoes. How would you feel if your wife's ex starts sending your wife money to take care of your kids? You might begin to wonder if the kids are yours even.

My thots? "Teach a man how to fish and he won't ever ask you for fishes. Ever."

paix: My ex is married with children, they live in the north and I am in the south. We've NOT seen since she got married. The husband's business is facing some challenges financially. Is it right I place her on a monthly allowance to take care of the chilggren till their condition improves? I am doing this from my heart. Matured answers only please.

You really have a good heart op... But i hope there are no strings attached with this wonderful kind gesture you are about to offer...secondly you need to involve her husband in the whole thing, He should know where the help is coming from and that it has no negative effects to his family.... if He accepts it fine.....Going through the wife alone would make it suspicious[/b]does the husband know you before as in are you a family friend


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paix: Sorry sir, I meant no harm. I am really ready to drop the idea if the negative outweighs the positive.

crackhaus:
Ooh good.
Well then, I'll be honest with you & let you know that the only positive thing that can come out of this will be her undying gratitude and appreciation for your generosity, unless of course you value your feeling of accomplishment over the sanctity of her marriage...

Like someone said, you can reach out to her husband...but I can tell you that may not go down too well either, because he might just wonder how you even got to know about his financial woes in the first place...remember you're not a family friend, just an ex of his wife (which in itself is an ego problem to most men).

crackhaus:
Ooh good.
Well then, I'll be honest with you & let you know that the only positive thing that can come out of this will be her undying gratitude and appreciation for your generosity, unless of course you value your feeling of accomplishment over the sanctity of her marriage...

Like someone said, you can reach out to her husband...but I can tell you that may not go down too well either, because he might just wonder how you even got to know about his financial woes in the first place...remember you're not a family friend, just an ex of his wife (which in itself is an ego problem to most men).

Dollarjunkie: @OP bro, you should not mind the guy castigating you. Since he is so matured, were he able to proffer a solution to your stated plan NO!


My thoughts, human being differs and can view your kind gesture in different ways. Some will be happy even knowing its his wife ex that gave her the money, while some will be enraged with anger even while it is his wife's cousin that offered the help.

My verdict: Ask your ex to tell her hussy that a friend wants to help her with some money for them start up a biz with. She can tell him she knew you before they got married and she didn't date you. If the husband says she should collect, then let God bless them through you.

Dollarjunkie: @OP bro, you should not mind the guy castigating you. Since he is so matured, were he able to proffer a solution to your stated plan NO!


My thoughts, human being differs and can view your kind gesture in different ways. Some will be happy even knowing its his wife ex that gave her the money, while some will be enraged with anger even while it is his wife's cousin that offered the help.

My verdict: Ask your ex to tell her hussy that a friend wants to help her with some money for them start up a biz with. She can tell him she knew you before they got married and she didn't date you. If the husband says she should collect, then let God bless them through you.