thegoodjoehunt: Stay abeg, you bring a different feel to the thread

Arlex: aiit, so wot are u here for?
I guess to prepare a counter attack for any guy dat tries to woo u,huh?

Heyliesha: fu*kup i cant use does lines for u na........u go sabi all ma strategics.

sirchris4u:
After everything that went on that Sunday she finally agreed to be my babe

Eeja Nla01: Incrizz I appreciate you,and really enjoyed your contributions,we don't mind if u can also drop some hints/points that turns you(ladies) on and off like d1 u posted earlier on visiting a guys house........you are our lady o pls don't go


My own prob is,I'm a kind of guy that has been perceived to be to be rich even though I'm not there yet,so I want to avoid being later dumped or. Changing their lovey attitude towards me when dey get to know I'm average....still an underG


Oga ted I also hail o!

Incrizz:
*clears throat* This is the kind of thing I like, lol, so with permission from OP, I shall speak.

You see we the ladies have suffered too much in the hands of some of you guys. I am not talking about bad stuff and heartbreak and all what not; but about romance.

All we want is romance (from the guy we like)

And romance is so easy to achieve with a lady.

All you need is:

i Rapport (finally understood it form teddy's explanation)
ii Patience
iii WORDS

The third is the most powerful and easiest way to get to a girls heart. (Mind you not anyhow words duh)

Rapport:Like I said, I understood this after OP explained it. I do feel it sometimes but didn't know what is was or, put a name to it. This is the most important stage to winning a girl's heart.

(If you read page 1-25 of this thread, you will understand what rapport is.)

I will have to give an example to explain.

No guy on a normal day could have tried this with me, and get away with it (a prim and proper lady like me)

But he could, because he had taken the time to develop a rapport.

And like someone one mentioned earlier on this thread, it is very important not to just develop a rapport with a girl, but to also chip in from time to time that you wanna love her, or want her in your life or that you like her or whatever.. so she doesn't friendzone you in the rapport stage.

I once went to visit a friend at home.
My bladder was so full but I was not at all ready to use the ladies.
From time to time, I would wince in pain.
He would ask me what's up.
I would reply, "my bladder is full."
He would then say, "go and ease yourself" and
I would reply, "no." Lol.
This circle continued till about the third time.
As he asked what,
and I was replying, "My bladder is.."
I, suddenly, felt someone yanking me off the bed!
Pushing me into the bathroom!!
And, locking the bathroom door!!!
I was still trying to understand what was going on when I heard a voice demanding, "ARE you done??!!!"
All I could do was burst into laughter.
And I gave him a full 10points in my heart

So I think I can say that you can do almost anything you want with a girl, if you've got rapport with her

Patience:This is what I would like to call the key.

And by patience, I do not mean waiting till forever to speak to the girl so much so that, even when she's giving you enough green light, you still won't act up. Nah.

Even when guys are lined up behind her, "patience" is not waiting till the queue clears up.

Look at it this way:

You invite a girl you are feeling and, who you think is feeling you over to your house.

Do you know what goes on in our mind..?

First of all, know this, she was won over and has agreed to come to your house because so far, you have behaved yourself. Yes.
(As per you have not made any unacceptable overtures to her.)
So, she feels safe and she comes.

Now, the moment we are in your house, and there's even no body else at home, our guards go up! We become alert.
All this happens subconsciously.
But because you haven't misbehaved before, we try to relax, and laugh and chat along.

You are going to score huge points at this stage with your gurl, if you don't make any sex-ual attempts at her.
Do you know why?
Because that's what every other guy does.
They always make overtures when we go to their house. And, force us to try do stuff.
You acting different, would further break down her walls and cause her to relax and develop more feelings for you.

Now imagine doing this a third, fourth and fifth time of inviting her over to your house!!
Do you know what will happen..?

I'll tell you: she herself will pounce on you

If you play this patience game well enough, you begin to hear stuff like,
"You don't even hug me, why?"
"You don't even touch me, why?"
She would be the one leaving her chair to come squeeze herself in yours

Signaling that she's ready.
Erm..don't just wait for her to make the move duh.
Read her. Study her. Try to know your babe..not just for sex signals
If you think she's ready for a tight hug, you could open your arm to her.
If the rapport is strong enough, she'd walk into it. Forget kissing.
Just concentrate on giving her a 5minutes hug.
That means a whole lot more to us.

That's is when you should begin to test what she is ready for: a hug? A kiss? A Smooch?
But never sex outright, okay. She may allow you have your way, but she would dislike you. And move on to the next guy she feels has enough love for her when she gets the next opportunity.

Sex never makes a lady yours. For a while she might be by your side because she is emotionally bound to you but it may wear off with time. If she's ready and your ready, then it's beautiful.
Work hard for your love.

It is very important to continue to pour out your heart to her and toast her even when your are trying your best not to touch.
And do you think we don't notice? We do. We know guys who respect us. And we score them or open the door of our heart further to them.

Mind you guys, I am not talking about a one night stand, or a fling. I am talking about that special gurl you feel you want to develop something real with.

'Be back..

Incrizz:
*clears throat* This is the kind of thing I like, lol, so with permission from OP, I shall speak.

You see we the ladies have suffered too much in the hands of some of you guys. I am not talking about bad stuff and heartbreak and all what not; but about romance.

All we want is romance (from the guy we like)

And romance is so easy to achieve with a lady.

All you need is:

i Rapport (finally understood it form teddy's explanation)
ii Patience
iii WORDS

The third is the most powerful and easiest way to get to a girls heart. (Mind you not anyhow words duh)

Rapport:Like I said, I understood this after OP explained it. I do feel it sometimes but didn't know what is was or, put a name to it. This is the most important stage to winning a girl's heart.

(If you read page 1-25 of this thread, you will understand what rapport is.)

I will have to give an example to explain.

No guy on a normal day could have tried this with me, and get away with it (a prim and proper lady like me)

But he could, because he had taken the time to develop a rapport.

And like someone one mentioned earlier on this thread, it is very important not to just develop a rapport with a girl, but to also chip in from time to time that you wanna love her, or want her in your life or that you like her or whatever.. so she doesn't friendzone you in the rapport stage.

I once went to visit a friend at home.
My bladder was so full but I was not at all ready to use the ladies.
From time to time, I would wince in pain.
He would ask me what's up.
I would reply, "my bladder is full."
He would then say, "go and ease yourself" and
I would reply, "no." Lol.
This circle continued till about the third time.
As he asked what,
and I was replying, "My bladder is.."
I, suddenly, felt someone yanking me off the bed!
Pushing me into the bathroom!!
And, locking the bathroom door!!!
I was still trying to understand what was going on when I heard a voice demanding, "ARE you done??!!!"
All I could do was burst into laughter.
And I gave him a full 10points in my heart

So I think I can say that you can do almost anything you want with a girl, if you've got rapport with her

Patience:This is what I would like to call the key.

And by patience, I do not mean waiting till forever to speak to the girl so much so that, even when she's giving you enough green light, you still won't act up. Nah.

Even when guys are lined up behind her, "patience" is not waiting till the queue clears up.

Look at it this way:

You invite a girl you are feeling and, who you think is feeling you over to your house.

Do you know what goes on in our mind..?

First of all, know this, she was won over and has agreed to come to your house because so far, you have behaved yourself. Yes.
(As per you have not made any unacceptable overtures to her.)
So, she feels safe and she comes.

Now, the moment we are in your house, and there's even no body else at home, our guards go up! We become alert.
All this happens subconsciously.
But because you haven't misbehaved before, we try to relax, and laugh and chat along.

You are going to score huge points at this stage with your gurl, if you don't make any sex-ual attempts at her.
Do you know why?
Because that's what every other guy does.
They always make overtures when we go to their house. And, force us to try do stuff.
You acting different, would further break down her walls and cause her to relax and develop more feelings for you.

Now imagine doing this a third, fourth and fifth time of inviting her over to your house!!
Do you know what will happen..?

I'll tell you: she herself will pounce on you

If you play this patience game well enough, you begin to hear stuff like,
"You don't even hug me, why?"
"You don't even touch me, why?"
She would be the one leaving her chair to come squeeze herself in yours

Signaling that she's ready.
Erm..don't just wait for her to make the move duh.
Read her. Study her. Try to know your babe..not just for sex signals
If you think she's ready for a tight hug, you could open your arm to her.
If the rapport is strong enough, she'd walk into it. Forget kissing.
Just concentrate on giving her a 5minutes hug.
That means a whole lot more to us.

That's is when you should begin to test what she is ready for: a hug? A kiss? A Smooch?
But never sex outright, okay. She may allow you have your way, but she would dislike you. And move on to the next guy she feels has enough love for her when she gets the next opportunity.

Sex never makes a lady yours. For a while she might be by your side because she is emotionally bound to you but it may wear off with time. If she's ready and your ready, then it's beautiful.
Work hard for your love.

It is very important to continue to pour out your heart to her and toast her even when your are trying your best not to touch.
And do you think we don't notice? We do. We know guys who respect us. And we score them or open the door of our heart further to them.

Mind you guys, I am not talking about a one night stand, or a fling. I am talking about that special gurl you feel you want to develop something real with.

'Be back..

Incrizz: I guess because there's a lot of "feeling" in here everyone's talking from the heart how they feel about their girl..I am a sucker for such kind of things.
OP's tips are counter-attack proof.

lord_falcao: taaaa. guys don't ever take a gals word serious this gals will tell you A but. will want. you to do B last word: a gal that will leave you will leave you with or whtout sex

hustler anthem: hmm baby.i never knew u were a dating coach too..

Arlex: Nice to hear this from you.

Incrizz: lol..I am not at all..I just felt like talking writing

Incrizz:
s so easy to achieve with a lady.

All you need is:

i Rapport (finally understood it form teddy's explanation)
ii Patience
iii WORDS

lord_falcao: taaaa. guys don't ever take a gals word serious this gals will tell you A but. will want. you to do B last word: a gal that will leave you will leave you with or whtout sex

thegoodjoehunt: [b]If there is anything I have learnt about ladies is that they hide their feelings a lot because of

1. Security: They don't want to be deceived into falling for someone who doesn't care for them and wants to use them for their bodies.

2. Self Value: Ladies never want to be seen as cheap or lose their value in the eyes of a guy they cherish.

The guy's job is to convince the lady that you cherish her. Even when she is behaving as if she doesn't care, you have to act maturely and slowly convince her you are the one.

I broke up once with a Lady I dated for two and a half years. When we were breaking up, I gladly let her go because I felt she had fallen out of love with me.

About a year later, I met her and she said she was shocked that I didn't fight to keep her. That if I had talked to her to stay she would have broken up.

The point is ladies act for self worth and security. They put their feelings behind them, including s.ex. Leave their acts and chase what you want.

NB I still wouldn't have fought for ex then because she had me and was listening to a guy toasting her. Omo boys this isn't jonsing season.[/b]

thegoodjoehunt: [b]If there is anything I have learnt about ladies is that they hide their feelings a lot because of

1. Security: They don't want to be deceived into falling for someone who doesn't care for them and wants to use them for their bodies.

2. Self Value: Ladies never want to be seen as cheap or lose their value in the eyes of a guy they cherish.

The guy's job is to convince the lady that you cherish her. Even when she is behaving as if she doesn't care, you have to act maturely and slowly convince her you are the one.

I broke up once with a Lady I dated for two and a half years. When we were breaking up, I gladly let her go because I felt she had fallen out of love with me.

About a year later, I met her and she said she was shocked that I didn't fight to keep her. That if I had talked to her to stay she would have broken up.

The point is ladies act for self worth and security. They put their feelings behind them, including s.ex. Leave their acts and chase what you want.

NB I still wouldn't have fought for ex then because she had me and was listening to a guy toasting her. Omo boys this isn't jonsing season.[/b]

thegoodjoehunt: [b]If there is anything I have learnt about ladies is that they hide their feelings a lot because of

1. Security: They don't want to be deceived into falling for someone who doesn't care for them and wants to use them for their bodies.

2. Self Value: Ladies never want to be seen as cheap or lose their value in the eyes of a guy they cherish.

The guy's job is to convince the lady that you cherish her. Even when she is behaving as if she doesn't care, you have to act maturely and slowly convince her you are the one.

I broke up once with a Lady I dated for two and a half years. When we were breaking up, I gladly let her go because I felt she had fallen out of love with me.

About a year later, I met her and she said she was shocked that I didn't fight to keep her. That if I had talked to her to stay she would have broken up.

The point is ladies act for self worth and security. They put their feelings behind them, including s.ex. *Leave their acts and chase what you want.*

NB I still wouldn't have fought for ex then because she had me and was listening to a guy toasting her. Omo boys this isn't jonsing season.[/b]

fnep2smooth: nice thread.. but I want ur advise... my liver always cut when ever I want to stop a girl I don't no... even if I manage to stop her , word will disappear from my mouth.. I will be saying off point.. but when ever I meet any girl on any social site.. I feel ok and confidence to chat with her.. am just confuse..

kasillars: Mr. Teddy(my Oga @ d top) abeg, me get sum kind lil issue(s) here ooo...
There is dis gal I met thru ma lil Coz n av bin calling n chatting with ha once in a whyl n I fink she lyks me jst as I lyk ha, bh, ma problem b say ha where she dey stay far from ma place n ha skool sef far n Na all dis priv8 uni. Wey no dey let students commot 4 skool, so 1st of all, I dunno Aw 2 get ha on a date, n 2nd. Aw do I cope with d distance Coz me no fit dey deposit without withdrawal ooo

sirchris4u:
That Sunday I went to d fast food joint we agreed to meet and called her only 4 her to tell me she couldn't make it, that her mom send her on an errand I was so angry but I didn't let her know that. I just took a bike to my house went to a bar near my house and asked for a bottle of star to. cool my anger. I was taking my star when she called me asking were I was that she know that I must be angry that she is just coming back from her uncle place that if she should come. I reluctant ly told her Where u was and she came. To cut d long story short I told wat I heard in mind after and after thinking about it there she agreed to my proposal. we are officially a couple and am so happy

sirchris4u: op I would like u to give me tips on how to keep the relationship in a long term... because thus girl is driving me crazy

chupcake: I really enjoy reading this thread. I even sent the link to a few friends and they did learn a lot.. I was talking to a friend a couple of days ago and I thought I should share. He was concerned a girl she just met was going to 'friendzone' him.. The good old friendzone.. I have also been stuck so many times and mehn.. It does kill. We was talking and he asked me how I managed to avoid getting 'friendzoned' by one other girl I just met, I figured out I was doing something right. Anyways my point is this, If you meet a girl and you notice she trying to 'friendzone' you, give her space for a couple of days, don't text, ping or anything of such.. After a few days, call her up and fix a date right there on the phone. When fixing a date, common mistakes we make is make it sound like if she's not gonna show, its a bust.. Don't tell her 'Will you go to the movies with me', Instead tell her 'There is a new movie I really wanna see, its shog sunday and I want us to go together'. Before you pick sunday, know she's gonna be free sunday.. You could ask her 'What are you doing sunday'. Ifyou score the date, before you hang up tell her 'I am really looking forward to spending time with you, at the very least we can always be friends'. That alone achieves two things. First, her guard will be down and the awkwardness of the first date will not be there. Secondly, she would be surprised cos she isn't used to boys wanting to be 'just friends' so that alone will make her think 'doesn't he find me attractive'. Before you know it, the date will be all about impressing you. When you are on the date, you should always have it at the back of your mind. You are the one selecting her and not the other way round. That will ease the pressure. Just be yourself and make her laugh. You'll learn more about the rapport from this thread. After the first date.. You'll now begin to flirt like never before.. Tease her, flirt with her... A lot. This way, she won't be able to friendzone you... Then you can build more rapport the way you do it then you'll strike. I have always thought asking a girl out like 'Can you be my GF' is corny... Make the right moment once and kiss her. No smooching no nothing, just kiss. Do that again.. And never feel comfortable at a stage... Always advance. If she kisses you more than once, she'll be the one to ask 'where do we stand' and if you probably put in all this work.. You'll want to keep her.

PS: Respect girls. No means NO..!! If you do everything right.. She'll eat you up herself. Every girl has that inner freak... I didn't read that anywhere... I saw it myself.

xxxtedyxxx: wana drop a bomb. sth i wrote last year june. its like a script tho not meant to be followed routinely. pls use @ ur own discretion cos it can get any girl wet n tinkin abt u in a sexual way. make sure av done a gud work in rapport stage though. u can use it on fone, or one on one. i wik post it soon.

hustler anthem: ..wats ur name?

thegoodjoehunt: Wow, you really put your heart and time into this.
..your points made it clearer.
Your cool girl and I know hanging out with you will be 100% fun.
Thanks again.

Artless360:
Oga tedy diz gal no wan free me o:::she jus d snd me msg for whatapps i told i cnt b frd wit her anymore if she refuse 2date my lil bro::2dayz ltr she called me nd said som1 is tryin 2force her 2luv::d problem nw is my lil bro is beginin 2tk it personal tinkin m tryin 2date her:::so i want 2stp been her frd :::advise plz:::diz in reference 2problem @page 24