2buff: I like the honesty of some of the women here.
The rest going "OMG wonderful story. I wish I can find my own mugu man like this" etc, you are silly!

OP you can only move forward properly if you do your utmost to check the facts you are being spoon-fed by this girl and her sister or you will feel like a fool forever all your life always wondering what really happened....and you know this.

After verifying the facts, THEN you can honestly forgive her...otherwise you would be deceiving yourself as it will ALWAYS come up in your mind.
The time span to get that check done is rapidly decreasing...

Unless you KNOW it really happened (and that she is lying), and you just don't care at this point. Sure you are not perfect, and nobody is perfect, but you would not be doing yourself a favor by marrying someone who would lie and cover up something like this from you because she is trying to eliminate her guilt. That tendency to go this distance to eliminate guilt can come up in unsightly ways in the future.

In all things, do whatever you must to be at peace with your spirit. This is the single greatest responsibility in everyone's life. Not school, work, relationship, etc.

thehunted:

^^^^^ shut up u cheap thing. So every girls dream na this mugu guy.

Op,pls Be wise. All These people cant be wrong. How old are you sef?? Is she your first girlfriend??

ohemm: @ OP, you're a good man and your type is very rare to come by. Don't listen to those that are saying she must have actually cheated on you and probably had an abortion cos she would have just done the abortion,cleaned herself up and you won't even know(seeing as you guys don't leave in same town)... Enjoy your lives...you both deserve it.

mikyke: Hello friends my name is IK, this was or still is the experience I had/am having as the case maybe. I may not be a constructive writer but will try to pass the message across in simple words and as short as possible.

Av been dating my girl for 3yrs now, and we both have bn so happy in it. During this period av never cheated on her as I promised to stay faithful; this may sound strange and impossible but believe when I say I did it. We stood by each other no matter what the problem was and have always come out even stronger than we went into such problem.

To cut the long gist short. About 3wks ago, I called her as usual to know how she was faring (she is based at kaduna while am based in Abuja) but she didn't not pick and did not call back after so many missed calls. This waas strange as it has never happened in our r/ship since we started dating. This prompted curiosity in me.

After about 2days she called me and was crying profusely and she said I quote "my knight I want a breakup I have messed myself up and not worthy of dating a guy like you, you are too nice to be treated the way I just did" and she hung up without allowing me say a word. I became so confused.

A breakup was the least I expected reason being that we were happy together. So many attempt to reach her failed. I called her elder sis and she said she left home since yesterday and is yet to be seen, I felt devastated and and couldn't concentrate @ work. Well after about 2 or 3 days I was lucky to reach her and told her to please calm down and explain wat hapend to me when I come to kaduna. The next day I was off to kaduna so bright and early and @ kaduna I got the shock of my life. When I asked her why a breakup that we've been so happy together in her words she said "my knight please forgive me. I messed up and am paying for my mistake. I cheated and now am pregnant". In my confused state, so many thoughts were running through my mind; could she be testing me? If not, has she bn cheating on me for the past 3yrs? Where did I get it wrong that she had to cheat on me? Haven't I given my all already in this r/ship? Those questions became rhetorical. Tears wasted no time rolling down my cheeks.

Crying profusely She knelt down and said " I know av lost you already but all I nid is your forgiveness". She also said the guy responsible ran away when she told him about the preg. I felt so angered but didn't utter a single word. In my mind a thought came up; how could something that has given me joy for the past 3yrs turn out to be a source of sadness and sorrow to me. I stood up said I forgive you, and left.

After about 2wks of restlessness, feeling betrayed and fooled which is about 4 days ago, I called her and told her I wanted her back, that I want to stand by her through this period like av always done in the past (I was ready to do so). Just to save her the shame I opted to be the father of the child. Despite her infidelity I was ready to continue loving her like nothing happened between us. I sent her 10k to register for antenatal care and buy somethings she needed for the mean time. Just yesterday my phone rang, it was her number calling when I picked she said "my knight, you just proved to me that real love still exists in this world. You were ready to take up another man's responsibility just for my sake despite knowing I cheated.

We have dated for 3yrs now and I wanted to be sure of what am seriously getting into, to know if you are worth waiting for and now I know you truly love me and am grateful to God for sending my way. I love you" and she dropped the call. I stared @ my fone for more than 2munites wondering what just happened. I was having a mixed feeling; happy that she wasn't preg or cheated and angry that I had to go through 2wks of agonizing pain and emotional torture just to prove my love. I stood dumbfounded for close to 10mins and finally said to myself man up and continue in it (r/ship).

N/B she sent back my 10k without being asked to just to prove that she wasn't in of it.

My question to the ladies is this. Will U go this extent just to know if your man loves you? And don't forget that you could lose even the right guy in this process. We see life differently as what works for Mr A may not work for Mr B.
For the guys what will you do if your girl plays this prank or stunt with you. Some how I feel like a fool but I love her and was willing to stand buy her.

Pls let's constructively admonish ourselves. Abeg no insult me coz I did as my head and heart said. Na pesin wey wear shoe knw wia e dey pain am.

Teyman henry: şęŗįoųşly įţ įş çlęāŗ my bŗoţђęŗ, wђy ђāvęŋ'ţ şђę ţęşţęd yoų dųŗįŋg ţђę lāşţ ţwo yęāŗş. į ţђįŋķ şђę wāş pŗāçţįçālly pŗęgŋāŋţ bųţ yoųŗ ŗęply mādę ђęŗ bęlįęvę ţђāţ yoų āŗę ţђę bęşţ. męāŋwђįlę şђę'll şįlęŋţly do āwāy wįţђ ţђę pŗęgŋāŋçy.,,, şįmplę!! bųţ ęђ gųy wђy ų go gęţ bābę ţђįş ƒāŗ ƒŗom yoų āŋd ęҳpęçţ şāy na oŋly ų go woųŋd ām...lādįęş āŗę gŗęędy ţђāţ įş wђy āŋy māŋ ţђāţ çomęş wįţђ ŋįçę āŋd şwęęţ woŗdş wįll çoŋƒųşę ęm

mikyke: my dear dis is my true life experience not a fiction. for a second I felt the whole world crumbling dwn b4 my own eyes. I built everytn around her

Nifemi_cutie: u're every gals dream..wow!!! Am really touch dat a man like dis stil exist.she s xo lucky i pray wen my time cums i shud be also lucky to find my own man

Nifemi_cutie: u're every gals dream..wow!!! Am really touch dat a man like dis stil exist.she s xo lucky i pray wen my time cums i shud be also lucky to find my own man

YcBeat: Op lemme make this clear to you, STOP being used like an utensil.........she had an ABORTION!!! It was cool to her wen she was doing d s.ex thang and since d other guy ran away, she wants to console herself with coming back to you.......BE WISE BROTHER, ITS NO TEST, USE YOUR BRAIN!!! Pere.....my 2penny.

Mendo007:
my brother u r jst speakin grammer. Cnt u c hw simple n comprehensible d Op's msg ws? Ur grammer jst mak me cum confuse 4 wetin i read sef...mtwcheww

some-girl:


Why would she declare it if she was going to have an abortion?

SassyKwin: FELLOW NAIRALANDERS LETS STOP THE COMMENTS AND HEAR FROM THE OP...HE SHOULD TELL US HIS MIND SO THAT WE KNOW WE ARE NOT WASTING OUR TIME...HIT LIKE IF U AGREE

♥Dεs•Chγκσ♥:


bros, if you didn't understand it, don't blame me.. Blame ASUU.. Besides, the students on this thread had no difficulty understanding my 'FTC' post.. #JustSaying..




At last.. Someone who thinks in another direction

mikyke: wat else do U want to hear from me dear. I told U everytn and dat I called back the r/ship and forgave her. I only wanted to hear view to knw if I made a grave mistake

mikyke: wat else do U want to hear from me dear. I told U everytn and dat I called back the r/ship and forgave her. I only wanted to hear view to knw if I made a grave mistake

mikyke: wat else do U want to hear from me dear. I told U everytn and dat I called back the r/ship and forgave her. I only wanted to hear view to knw if I made a grave mistake

jmoore: Many have said she must have aborted a baby.

His previous thread below gives a clue



Let him carry his cross.