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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Vicjustice: 1:53pm On Dec 19, 2013
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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Nobody: 1:54pm On Dec 19, 2013
Wat can i say?
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by divex(f): 1:56pm On Dec 19, 2013
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm ok its painful for everyone at first. We did it like five more times or so before one day i felt it OMG what a feeling hahahahahahahahaha. hmmmm what i will tell you is to relax.

Arouse yourself first
Keep in mind that he's your hubby, he's paid for that pussy forever
watch some porn
Be crazy
Free yourself n remove ur mind from the fact that its painful. its just ur mind

Let your hubby enjoy what he's paid for grin wink
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Arosa(m): 1:56pm On Dec 19, 2013
@op, the key to solving your problem is pre-intimacy and lubrication. it's well.
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by princevinco(m): 1:57pm On Dec 19, 2013
@OP,
PLs in addition to all the advice, you need to consult your doctor who will advice you and treat your case once and for all.
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by pawesome(m): 1:57pm On Dec 19, 2013
SOLUTION-nack akpako before u get married..all virgins,take note....sowi to say bt dts y most at tyms is gud to hv sex before marriage buh not quite d real solution
n to ur hubby,he is d man bt d re solution is for u to just bear d pain n get pregnant cz ah must tell u,no man...ah mean no man dn stand dis type f pain for upto a week into marriage not to talk bout 5mnths so d least u could do for him nw is just to bear d pain till u get pregnant cz dts d only solution instead f all d tym wasting on doctors so pls,bear d pain...it dsnt kill,it will only make u stronga

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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by sparklescraft: 2:02pm On Dec 19, 2013
Hmmm. @ Op. just listen to the good advice. See a doctor pls.
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by drcyber: 2:03pm On Dec 19, 2013
First step is diagnosis. You can't get that on this page. There are still great doctors in Lagos. PM me, I will send you to one. You are not alone in this.
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by saymax(f): 2:04pm On Dec 19, 2013
I share ur pains. I want to believe its as a result of u holding back maybe even b4 u met ur husband. I think its a psychologicaal thing. Probably d doctor wwil tell u to b more relaxed b4 sex, he/she cud even prescribe smthing like lexotan 4 u to rest very well b4 s** .

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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by GeneralShepherd(m): 2:04pm On Dec 19, 2013
Exact reason I will never marry a virgin, I don't want stress!

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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by 50calibre(m): 2:07pm On Dec 19, 2013
I hope those archaic NL girls who regard their virginity as national treasures are reading this, when two grown adults delude themselves this is what happens.

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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by funkyjms: 2:07pm On Dec 19, 2013
aaronson: I know it sounds immoral but sex with your spouse to be is definately needed just so you know your partner's sexuality appetite and other problem because marriage is a life time investment with child bearing as profit to the blissful matrimony,some people are just so religious to know the technical truth even Jesus had to tell Abraham to lie to a king that sarah was his sister and The Same God still told Samuel to tell saul that he was just passing by to go to the mountain for prayers when truthfully he was going to the house of jesse to anoint david as king,so would you say God has made these people lied or that's simply WISDOM

lol...from where to where?
Even a muslim can't blab this shi.t

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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by 9jamynation4lyf(m): 2:07pm On Dec 19, 2013
alaoeri: Try to use vaseline, ask phyno in man of the year lyric
s.


Lol, me fink oda virgin girls up to the age of marriage shd learn from ha, b4 marriage, guys are willing to help. Pls and for pls virgin girls save your future marriage. grin grin
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Erotex(m): 2:07pm On Dec 19, 2013
This sex issue no be small tin o!
My own be sey her toto don loose kpata kpata.
How i wish my wife own tight like ur own i for dey happy die.
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by sunkoye: 2:11pm On Dec 19, 2013
aaronson: I know it sounds immoral but sex with your spouse to be is definately needed just so you know your partner's sexuality appetite and other problem because marriage is a life time investment with child bearing as profit to the blissful matrimony,some people are just so religious to know the technical truth even Jesus had to tell Abraham to lie to a king that sarah was his sister and The Same God still told Samuel to tell saul that he was just passing by to go to the mountain for prayers when truthfully he was going to the house of jesse to anoint david as king,so would you say God has made these people lied or that's simply WISDOM
kai....u can lie!....Jesus asking abraham to lie. can u listen to yourself? haba! i can easily draw inference from your position that we christians have along way to go. @ OP. pls Pray that God should give u the wisdom needed to overcome ur challengies. pele.

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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by mrphysics(m): 2:12pm On Dec 19, 2013
lets say u r one of d advocate of no sex bfore marriage and u finally did what u preached about and dis d cost, am sorry i dnt knw hw God decides to treat u for it, positively or negatively i dnt knw, bt onething is certain, they z ntn wrng wit u. go back to d ANCIENT LAND MARK AND ALSO D THRONE OF MERCY WHERE WE OBTAIN GRACE IN TIME OF NEED, dats my humble suggestion
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Zakamori: 2:14pm On Dec 19, 2013
I'm surprised that non of the brimstone and fire preachers have condemned the OP for doing a lot of other things wit her fiance (or na fiancee) before getting married; even though they never had intercourse. Or na only intercourse dey wrong for d matter?
... OP, you probably already have all the responses you need. Saannu
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by bfmconcepts: 2:15pm On Dec 19, 2013
I think the man needs to learn pre-intimacy techniques so as to arouse the woman before penetrating.
Once the woman is aroused, vaginal fluid will be released and this will help.
The woman should also life her legs up for easy penetration
Fingering can also help.
I hope am not corrupt oooooo
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by alotofgrace(m): 2:20pm On Dec 19, 2013
can V comment too?

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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Kalet5: 2:21pm On Dec 19, 2013
Hmm. I tink u shld try sex during ovulation so u can take in. Secondly ur husband should use vaseline b4 penetrating
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Vincent41(m): 2:22pm On Dec 19, 2013
aaronson: I know it sounds immoral but sex with your spouse to be is definately needed just so you know your partner's sexuality appetite and other problem because marriage is a life time investment with child bearing as profit to the blissful matrimony,some people are just so religious to know the technical truth even Jesus had to tell Abraham to lie to a king that sarah was his sister and The Same God still told Samuel to tell saul that he was just passing by to go to the mountain for prayers when truthfully he was going to the house of jesse to anoint david as king,so would you say God has made these people lied or that's simply WISDOM


i support u bro....dont mind women and their ....i dont want sex
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by slap1(m): 2:23pm On Dec 19, 2013
Mehn! This is scary! I'm having second thoughts about this 'no sex before marriage' thing. If we are gonna romance and suck and all that, why not go all the way? OP, goodluck. May God save your marriage.
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by boyt1: 2:23pm On Dec 19, 2013
Ask Terry G .the Akpako master
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Nobody: 2:24pm On Dec 19, 2013
50calibre: I hope those archaic NL girls who regard their virginity as national treasures are reading this, when two grown adults delude themselves this is what happens.
so had it been she had sex during her courtship she wouldn't have had the same problem or what What would have been the gain? undecided She would have still had same prob and the bf may not even be as patient as her husband is now..Husbands will be more supportive in this issue than bfs in my own opinion cos bfs can easily get frustrated and jilt you...moreover it's even a curable disease, so why the fuss??
For virgins here, don't mind all these guys saying this, don't be decieved, they're always after how to 'chop'. .never give up your virginity for flimsy excuses like this..besides, rem fornication is a sin and AIDS and other STDs are real..your first trial may lead you to eternal sorrow and regret..

@op, I suggest you see a doctor since you have tried lubricants. .

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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by cupid03(f): 2:24pm On Dec 19, 2013
See a specialist ASAP
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Booty4me: 2:31pm On Dec 19, 2013
op try getting pregnant ist

i swear wen you don born one

the place go open zaaaaaaa cheesy

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Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Nobody: 2:32pm On Dec 19, 2013
Hello op,

Like people here suggested I think is vaginismus, try and see a gynaecologist
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by Nobody: 2:33pm On Dec 19, 2013
aaronson: I know it sounds immoral but sex with your spouse to be is definately needed just so you know your partner's sexuality appetite and other problem because marriage is a life time investment with child bearing as profit to the blissful matrimony,some people are just so religious to know the technical truth even Jesus had to tell Abraham to lie to a king that sarah was his sister and The Same God still told Samuel to tell saul that he was just passing by to go to the mountain for prayers when truthfully he was going to the house of jesse to anoint david as king,so would you say God has made these people lied or that's simply WISDOM

shocked shocked shocked han han! bros!

OP, see a medical expert or therapist and pray to God to help you out.
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by LordReed(m): 2:34pm On Dec 19, 2013
@OP
Unfortunately I must say that IMHO your husband's inexperience is the culprit here. From the way you have structured your post it seems he is the type of guy who when it comes to sex the first thing on his mind is penetration.

He should slow down and indulge in a lot of pre-intimacy especially for you. This is to get you aroused sufficiently to get you "in the mood". If you don't get "in the mood" your viginal canal will not be sufficiently lubricated for penetration to be easy. Another thing it would seem your husband is reluctant to do is to use his tongue on you down there. There are two advantages to cunninglingus, one is that he gets to stimulate you and secondly his saliva gets to act as a lubricant. Cunninglingus is a very effective way of preparing the vagina canal for penetration and coupled with any lubricants you want to use, you could be enjoying sex very shortly.
Re: Problems With Sex Is Ruining My Marriage by rufonye: 2:34pm On Dec 19, 2013
op please do note that this is a medical condition called dyspareunia. pls consult a medical doctor

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